The Elderberry Pavlovas who occasionally sausage wang – a fabulous thread for 30+ ladies TTC #1 (Thread 8)

Sorry but second cycle counts as an instadiffer in my books.

I've told my mum, who I have a very difficult relationship with but only because I was coming down from a general anaesthetic and DH had just nipped out. It has not been mentioned since.

Hello! Just marking my place. I'll catch up with end of last thread and join you properly tomorrow.

Frog I told my mum for the first time yesterday that we have been trying for a while now. I hadn't said anything before because I didn't want to deal with the questions and disappointing even more people every month, but she'd been dropping so many hints about grandchildren that I just couldn't laugh them off anymore. I didn't go into much detail, but she didn't push for any and was very good about it. I feel a lot better actually for sharing it - feel like the pressure is off a little bit now.

I've not told my mum, only friends. My mum keeps asking when were going to have babies cheers subtlety and I keep telling her that we want to move house first bollocks and that we have loads of time while panicking about running out of time but then I don't have such a close relationship with my mum

Hi Happy and Bunny, yes indeed I am Rach (keep forgetting about the name change and that I am only a lurker).

Things are good over on the dark side thanks. Well, I think we've all got our issues, aches and pains and we're all fat and bricking it about the birth, but we're very grateful for it and can't wait for you ladies to join us.

Sending a big load of luck over to you all but absolutely no babydust or any cuckoo crap like that

21 days in a row?!! She can't have been over 30 surely? Or in full-time knackering employment? If she was then her OH must have been a toy boy. I remember suggesting to DP (who is 40+) that we needed to DTD every other day for a month to get pg & he was all for it but alas the actions did not speak as loud as the words & real life, SS & work got in the way. We managed 7 days in a row in Feb & I thought it was shag week at the time so was convinced I would be upduffed but then had a longer cycle than previously so think I was a week out!

Quick straw berry poll: has anyone told their mothers about their issues TTC? I'm thinking of telling mine (who I have a good relationship with) 1) to reassure her that I am trying to give her grandkids & 2) to find out if there might be any kind of hereditary issue. She had me at 27 & my brother at 30 but was married for 4 years before I was born which seems kind of unusual for ye olden days. I'm putting it off at the moment as there is nothing confirmed wrong but think I will definitely tell her if something is as I'll need the RL support.

Cavort are you Rach? If so how are things in graduate land. No BFPs to report here I'm afraid but we are trying our very best and hope to join you soon. To be fair the instadiffer did DTD 21 days in a row and stole my shag tiara so at least she put the effort in. We have had to tighten our entrance criteria since though to stop the other berries getting and

Good evening ladies, hope you are all well? I was just having a lazy Sunday afternoon nosey browse around hoping to get a whiff of potential BFP's and I notice that you think one of the recent graduates got the holy grail of getting upduffed at first attempt? She only hung around for a few days before disappearing never to be seen since, but we did ask her during her brief visit and she said she got caught on her second cycle, which I hope makes you feel a teensy weensy bit better? Small consolation, I know

barking that link doesn't work for me, damnit! For some reason it takes me to my photos. Oh I can click on your name can't I?! Will do so in a minute.

re instadiffer. Lucky woman.

Gail still ttc then?

Yes I was 2cats and yes I'm in touch with Gail. And yes it was me that took great fucking offence to the instadiffer who then proceeded to join the grads after being a berry less than 5 days!! Long lazy lunch for us at a 'country' (as in London country and not the real countryside) pub has left me needing a snooze. I am in the bizarre situation of having little idea where I am in my cycle (tho after so much charting I do have a good idea so prob O day today/tomorrow ish) which is a strange feeling after so long. AND I don't have any sticks of any kind in the house! Plenty of time to order them before AF is due
Its so hard to catch up when using my phone, what happened with cherry?

Oh & no spotting today when at least I had that yesterday to make me think something was happening! On the positive side at least I'm not having a Xmas baby.

Thanks for all the kind words everyone. I really thought temping would reassure me that there was nothing wrong & I was just being too impatient but its just worried me more! The fact that DP already has a son (albeit conceived 9 yrs ago when he was younger & in better health probably) makes it less likely to be a problem with him.

happy I got some darker lines on the OPK but never one I thought was the one. Next month I'll keep them for comparison. I've never noticed pain at O & whilst I know I've had EWCM in the past I didn't notice any this month. Might go to the drs if no AF this week just to see how sympathetic they are. Might look into my health insurance too.

Hi all. Just back from a lovely weekend away but absolutely exhausted for going back to work tomorrow.

cate I have just ordered the thermometer too so we'll be starting temping together.

barking I think we'll all want to be one of your 6! Love the mice. What a brilliant wedding gift.

I agree with Barking use Fertility Friend. Much easier, I don't temp anymore but I do still use it: www.fertilityfriend.com/home/pipbin

cate555 don't bother with paper charts, use the FF one (Fertility friend) - you can download the app/use the website and enter your info each morning, it does all your predictions and tracking for you. You don't need the paid one, the free app is fine, although I think you get a 3 month trial or something of the paid one.

There are other apps out there as well but I think it's the most widely used among the berries

Barking I'll be one of your 6 (well if freakin' AF would show up and I could get a chance at TTC) moan over. Oh and thanks everyone for the temping tips. I've had DH order me the BBT one from Amazon comes with the charts can't wait to get charting now.

Mulberry I don't have shorter cycles, just the short LP. I'm very irregular and although I've had a 24 day cycle it's more recently been somewhere between 31 and 36 days.

Thunder she didn't piss everyone off, just made everyone a bit . It was difficult to be really happy for someone who'd not even experienced one heartbreaking AF before getting upduffed! I think that's when the ttc for 3 months + rule came in!!

I've put a photo up of my wedding mice - if I'd not been in such a rush yesterday the bride would have had a veil and a bouquet.....

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/a1565234-TTC-first-child-anybody-else-in-the-same-boat-Thread-2 even

Ah, I get confused with name changes. That's why I've never done it.

I've found the original thread where we named ourselves Elderberry Pavlovas: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/a1565234-TTC-first-child-anybody-else-in-the-same-boat-Thread-2

Yeah I was about to say that happy!

merks?