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TTC after MC - nice people in crap times, full of posifrickingtivity

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WillSantaComeAgain · 02/04/2013 13:49

Welcome aboard ladies (though obviously sorry you have to be here). We're a friendly bunch so come in and plump up a cushion for POAS Fridays and lots of posifrickingtivity. With a few (gentle) fish slaps thrown in for good measure.

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Mummytothearkbuilder · 17/04/2013 14:56

Oh my days - Santa who is the international star!?!?!

Question (yet another from me!) I have been getting some twinges on my left side on and off today and after consulting Dr Google think it might be ovulation pain??? Is that a good thing?? I literally worry about every twinge since having my miscarriage! X

alyant79 · 17/04/2013 14:50

oh santa!!!!!! who is the international star? orlando bloom? oh please say yes Grin
almost shagging orlando would be pretty amazing

totally agree that DPs don't really get it, although they try. It's not their body after all. They don't have the crazy hormones.

Emki · 17/04/2013 13:05

Thank you aly yes I'm sooooo frustrated! Want to join in the ttc conversations! Would be amazing if I was preggers but I've done 2 tests and got bfns!!

Go for it tonight - take a lemsip and get lurvin xxx good luck

Rockchick1984 · 17/04/2013 13:04

I'm assuming One That Got Away?

Mummytothearkbuilder · 17/04/2013 13:00

I too am intrigued my what OTGA means - I get so confused with the abbreviations!

I didn't manage to secretly seduce DH last night - he feel asleep - rude!! So I am determined to succeed tonight (I sound like a right sex pest!!) and hope that we have done enough. We dtd Thursday, Sunday, Monday and I had positive OPK on Monday and Tuesday - hopefully there is plenty of swimmers there ready to meet the egg and dtd tonight will be a bonus contribution!!

I am thinking of using some 'special gel' to help the swimmers along a bit - any recommendations?? X

Thundercatsarego · 17/04/2013 12:56

Before i say anything more, what is OTGA?

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WillSantaComeAgain · 17/04/2013 12:47
  • Argh! Strikethrough fail. The words from "once was bonus night with evil BF" through to "revenge shag" shouldn't have been struck through.
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WillSantaComeAgain · 17/04/2013 12:46

morning all,

I feel I should spill the beans on the once in lifetime shagging opportunities... perhaps they're not really once in a lifetime chances (well, two of them weren't). Two of them were bonus nights with an ex - one with the OTGA from about a million years ago, and i met my DH soon after so that really was the last chance I'd ever get and I still slightly sad that I missed out on that opportunity but don't tell DH; once was bonus night with evil exBF, who I caught shagging my best mate. He was still going out with her so it would have been a revenge shag and really really good sex (about the only thing in the relationship that was good) so although I regretted it at the time, with hindsight, I'm not that bothered. The third one - well, he went on to become an international star, adored by women the world over. At the time he was a nobody and I didn't see him for another year, by which time he was a sensation and I couldn't get near him Sad.

On thunder's advice, I'm going to POAS on Friday - 13 dpo so quite early - but it will give me a good insight into my true feelings. If its a bfn and I'm disappointed, I'll know I'm ready for another one. If its a bfn and I'm relieved, I'll know I've still got some ishoos to work through.

I discussed the whole thought process of how long and how ofter I can keep trying for with DH last night. He's so desparate for another one that I think I'll have to keep going for longer than if it was up to me, but at least he listened when I confessed that I hate being pregnant and that I'm dreading it. I don't think even our DPs really understand what it is to go through a mc, do you? They can be sympathetc and I know it hurts them, but I don't think you ever really can get it till its happened to you. (Which is very patronising, but there we are)

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alyant79 · 17/04/2013 12:33

emki forgot to respond earlier - Fx AF shows up for you soon OR you are pg again.
It must be so frustrating to have to wait so long.

alyant79 · 17/04/2013 11:33

Thanks guys for all the advice.
Guess I will try to dtd tonight as well. Don't really feel like it tbh - runny nose and sore throat. Also I've convinced myself that I actually don't want to get pg this cycle although i know I'm lying to myself as the timing would be terrible. i know this logical phase will last about 10 min and i'll be devastated when AF comes, so i'd better start getting myself in the mood for lurvin'

LittleBairn · 17/04/2013 10:53

Just add once it clear that's usually when you are either about to ovulate or are ovulating, it's a hormone reaction to ovulation that thins the muscus around the cervix. Ovulation lasts usually around 24-36 hours so today/tonight is ideal. Also very good that you did it yesterday too that means you may still have sperm inside waiting for the chance to get in.

I'm certain I began ovulating yesterday (afternoon to be precise) we DTD as soon as we got home from work and will do so again tonight.
We also DTD Satarday and Monday and are using 'special' gel that keeps the swimmers alive for longer.

I don't think there is much more I can do to really get pregnant any quicker.

LittleBairn · 17/04/2013 10:48

thunder good luck!

aly once it goes clear EWCM then it's do it ASAP time, the reason being is the muscus around the cervix is now at its thinnest and it means the swimmers have an easier job of getting inside.

Thundercatsarego · 17/04/2013 10:28

Hi all,

Trying to remain more calm today, keep my imagination (and CRAZY) in check) and just wait for af.

fod that really is fantastic. Good job you don't mind grapefruit too- not a fan myself!

aly it's supposed to mean shagfest should begin and many people would say its more reliable of what's really going on with your body than an app because it appears when you are fertile. I don't really get it myself though so I certainly can't rely on it.

I am now on day 28. Usually have 28 day cycles but didn't get my smiley til 2 days later than normal so I know af will be late too. One demonstration of how opks can help keep you sane (ish!). Will definitely hold your hand though kater.

katerinaemalina · 17/04/2013 10:04

fod good luck to you. High five on the pound droppage.
blackholes sure it is normal, but also v normal to be concerned. it's a nightmare time isn't it?!
alyant yeh I would dtd again - we go for it for about 7-10 days solid - as I'm never quite sure exactly when it all happens, even though i've now bought opk - no wonder it's become a chore! I reckon whoever says they normally do it 3-4x week is lying...or they are trying to have a baby!
thunder may join you with the mentalness 2ww - am cd24, though my cycles are usually around 35 days so nothing should be happening yet. vv tired, that it is. Also not really sure what happened with ov as got a smiley face but no real EWCM. Went for it anyway but who knows?
Anyone watch sewing bee? Am loving Ann and Lauren.

alyant79 · 17/04/2013 08:41

fod good luck for bloods today. And FANTASTIC work on the weight loss. I'm very impressed.
blackholes really really hope you don't get any more spotting/pains

Hope you guys managed to seduce your men last night. I did Grin

alyant79 · 17/04/2013 08:39

I have a question about ewcm, seeing I'm quite new to this monitoring fertility game.
When i spot it, is it too late for dtd, or should that signal the beginning of sex fest?
Symptoms appeared as follows: friskiness - monday, yesterday, ewcm - yesterday.
We dtd thursday, sunday and yesterday, do we have to go for tonight too, or is it too late?

According to phone app I should have ovulated yesterday, but based on first seeing ewcm yesterday, do you think i might actually be ov today?

fod27 · 17/04/2013 00:14

Grrrr posted before I'd finished!.,,,,potatoes. Have a glass of tomatoe juice or milk before bed (you can have salad dressings, butter etc too)

The combination of the grapefruit and the food on the diet massively speeds up you metabolism and it recommends eating til your full and don't snack. A friend at work has started it after seeing my results post Easter hols......(disclosure....avoid if on the contraceptive pill....obviously this does not apply here!!!)

fod27 · 17/04/2013 00:10

Thanks sO much guys!! That's really sincere, supportive and generally lovely of you all, I know what you mean about the sexathons. I texted my DF from work today to tell him of tested again and I appear to stop be ov (that'd make it three days- of course it must have been wrong) his reply "your going to kill me! I swear to god I've never felt si ill" Awww bless

I lost the weight in two weeks! You have half a grapefruit or 4oz of grapefruit juice in the morning with 2 bacon and 2 eggs (cooked anyway you like) followed by salad and meat or fish for lunch plus a half grapefruit or a drink of and for lunch as much meat and salad as you like (avoid white onions, celery and

ChocolateCremeEggBag · 16/04/2013 23:45

Blackholes - there is the graduates thread for this thread which if/when you feel ready may be somewhere to come and take a look link here
I can't stomach the normal "due in..." threads yet, too many people already buying stuff before even having 12 week scan. Yeeuch! I don't want to be the pessimist in the corner of their thread

Good luck for tomorrow Fod

SeasideLily · 16/04/2013 23:04

Everything crossed for you tomorrow fod. Flowers and a large glass of Wine

SeasideLily · 16/04/2013 23:02

Isn't it funny that men spend years and years wanting all the sex they can lay their hands on, then when it's suddenly necessary the pressure is too much?! DH says his 15 year old self would be outraged if he could see his 38 year old self complaining I was demanding to dtd too often!

SeasideLily · 16/04/2013 23:00

Blackholes of course you're welcome to hang around for as long as you like - you're a posifrickingtivity story! Really hope it all goes smoothly, you deserve it.

You guys have made my day with your DDT stories, so funny! It's not just us! Though I think my last month of hormonal freaking out has made DH too scared to say no now, as I told him I'll be ok as long as I know we've done everything we could. Well, that might not be entirely true, but it certainly helps - the first month we missed the opportune moment and it made me feel like the whole month was a waste. Plus, he's 12 years older than me so I wouldn't be in this sodding situation if it weren't for him - kids wouldn't have crossed my mind by now I don't think, but now they have they're somehow all I can think of! So he can hardly complain when I turn into hormone soup.

BlackholesAndRevelations · 16/04/2013 21:59

Oh and thanks for all the positive thoughts re: the spotting; haven't had any more so fx. I'm nowhere near ready to venture over to Amy pregnancy threads so I'm sorry for still hanging around here. Flowers

BlackholesAndRevelations · 16/04/2013 21:57

Yes and I hope your blood test is good news tomorrow x

BlackholesAndRevelations · 16/04/2013 21:57

Wow fod that's amazing!! How long did it take? I lost half a stone on slimming world but have piled it all back on again due to being a complete pig over Easter/ from then on! Sad

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