Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

Hello all, aw man I am freaking out big style! Had a mmc back in Feb (13wks baby had died at 6/7) Was the worst time of my life and completely shocked me to the core....had the sweet naievity and excitement of a first time mum and didn't think for one second that 'this would happen to me'. then a few weeks ago tested positive again!! I just feel as though i am walking through quicksand and that every day is lasting FOREVER....just want to rush forward to a time when my pregnancy is well along in its journey and I can relax and breathe (if that ever does really happen!!) We paid for a private scan on Monday to try and calm me down...was amazing, they dated me to be 7 weeks and there was a strong heartbeat and I swear it was the best blob I have ever seen :) but this is the thing....now I have seen it, Im so scared of getting my hopes up, I feel guilty for not being excited about it, but I think I just have major barriers up...I want this sooo much that Im just 'waiting' for it to all go wrong again. Im having pretty severe sickness and Im shattered....so i guess I should find comfort in these symptoms....so sorry to moan but Im guessing you all know what this feels like!!? Next scan is on the 20th June....don't know if I can wait that long!!

Ok, bravely having a go before we run out of space here:

new thread

Ah, tits it really does suck - the fact we have known the pain of a loss and the desperation to be pregnant again doesn't make the hard parts any much easier to bear. My best friend is a lecturer in Beauty therapy and I've been a case study for many of her girls - so I have an idea of how difficult it'll be for you to get through your days with treatment after treatment people and their, um, smells and chemicals...

Have you considered going to the GP for anti-sickness pills? I'm not au fait with which ones exactly are known to be effective and safe but the hypermesis thread is bound to have the details/advice. You don't HAVE to suffer (or at least, suffer so badly) and of course it's gonna make you feel pants. Give it a thought, eh?

joyful even when you are at peak fertility (age and ovulation wise) and have sex at the right time, the experts reckon you have a 25% chance of pregnancy. So don't go thinking there is something wrong with you just because you didn't get pregnant straight away.

Have you considered an all-in-one pre-conception vitamin rather than all the individual ones? They will have the recommended amounts of those elements and the convenience of a single pill! Then, you could (should, in my opinion!) add the high dose B vits. I regularly post about them on this thread, I'm sure you can find my waffle quite easily (haven't got time to type it now as dinner arriving very shortly!)

And those of you who remember me going off to do that thing for New Look... I started a thread over here so I don't take over the thread here with 'off topic' nonsense!

Someone really needs to start new thread! No regular ttc'ers about up for the job? (could copy/paste much of this thread's opening post )

I'm here for a self absorbed wail.

I have been sick again, out of the blue no warning. Only twice today but my body just seems to crash afterwards, I end up in tears, shaking with my heart beating like mad and short of breath.
I know I'm being a massive wimp.
I have just had one of those days, endless clients all day, not a lot of time for eating/drinking. Headache from the acrylic session running.
Urgh. I am stupidly telling myself that being sick means that the bean is likely to be ok

Hello ladies
Im also a lurker, well, kind of. Posted when I had my MMC in Feb and felt it was the end of the world.
CONGRATULATIONS to all those with BFPs and to those AF paid a visit this month, here's hoping for BFPs in May.
I have a Q to ask you ladies, you sure know much more than my GP.
I had a MMC on the 23rd Feb and my period came back on the 27th of March, I ovulated on the 7th of April and DTD everyday from CD7 till CD11 ovulated on CD 12 didn't do anything that day, then DTD CD13 till CD 16.
Managed to convince myself I was pregnant this cycle but AF turned up on Sat.

Now to my Q after waffling (sorry), could the miscarriage have affected my chances of ovulating? I was sure I ovulated because I had the pain on the CD12.
Also, what Bvits can I take to help my chanes. I am currently taking the following:
Zinc
Folic Acid
Vit D3
Vit E
I hope I'm not overdoing it.
Sorry for the long me post. I have been so worried and questioning why I didn't get pregnant in the last cycle.

Also dp went to get 75mg asprin for me and the chemist gave him a huge lecture about 'horrific birth defects' and I should see a doctor first...? And wouldn't sell them to him.

Evening ladies.

Metalling bad again, had aches in my lower abdomen but my skin around my old section scar is sore --because I itched it-- so I'm praying its that!

Felt awful nausea this morning for 10mins or so and gagged once, this pleased me

Jaffa sorry you're stressing, is there another hospital nearby you can try. I've had a few crampy type pains and I honestly think it's constipation/over-use of fybogel

bonzo Congratulations :)

tenner my bleeding came and went a bit after my erpc so perhaps it's that?

Hi ladys just a quick question from all ur worldly wisdom I had erpc last Monday and stopped bleeding on thurs but started again today I did test on Friday and neg well if there was line it was very very very faint so this can't be my period could it I know I sound stupid and don't think it really is af but is this normal ?

Jaffa - I'm so sorry they are leaving you in limbo. Fingers crossed its just cramps and you will be reassured on thurs.

Bonzo - congratulations! I had 2 bfn since m/c one 2 weeks after and 1 last fri.... Although I'm now panicking that it's left over hormones and not a new pg. I don't know how it can be??????? Hmmmmmmmmm is it? Isn't it?

Ooh, just noticed we need a new thread. Only 24 posts to go. I think form has it that one of the ttc should do it? Also, somewhere there is a stats thread. Perhaps we should update it? Trying to distract myself by being a bossy boots.

bonzo that is fab news! Congratulations!

Manda can't get too worked about DD being boyed. If used to happen a lot when she was little, she is very tall and had very little hair for ages, and I have a bit of an issue with pink everythings so I guess that didn't help.

afternoon ladies
sorry for th long absence! i will pop back later to catch up!

just marking my place

manda wow 3 weeks to go!!!

And you are right, I have seen plenty of people on other threads mention the fact they lurk on here and find it reassuring even if they don't post.

Hurrah, bonzo!

Indeed, there is the whole 'being here reminds you/increases worry' thing but there is also the 'the women here are the only ones who really know what you are going through' and there's something invaluable about that - especially for a certain amount of time.

We're all individuals and it seems from the way I've seen people post that for the most part the thread is valuable for that time they simply need an ear/support and that's that. And that's fine!

I think I'm still here as, in part, I'm still in denial I'm due to give birth in three weeks... (ARGH!) and that being able to offer advice, a pep talk, distraction, virtual cake or a virtual shoulder, knowing that in some small way i might be doing something good for another woman that is feeling the pain I've felt... it gives a positive slant to it 'all', y'know? God that sounds all a bit hippy! I just like it here!

As for the Bvits (did you take B6 only?) B6 is one of the things they say helps with morning sickness (not for me it didn't, when I was prescribed it with DD) so it's obviously safe to take. So, it's whether you want to take it or not, really. As you're feeling quite sick anyway you may find you feel worse if you stop (or not!). Your call - it's not gonna hurt you either way.

bonzo fantastic news, we are all here for you in these early mentalling days

dorita sorry about AF :(

Hi ladies, apologies for longish absence, I've not read back that far, so further apologies to anyone who does not get namechecked. DH felt MN was fuelling my worrying, which in retrospect it had been. So I promised I'd stay off until either AF got me or I got a BFP. In return he stayed off his computer games, which I think was fair. So I'm back because......BFP. Well, it was a very faint one on a internet strip and a less faint one on a first response. AF not due till Thursday, but I felt so sick yesterday and again today that I thought I'd POAS. It could easily be a CP, or end in a big bloody mess, but today I'm pregnant . I called EPU who said they are happy to do an early scan if I get a referral from my GP, though will have to sit and wait as women with bleeding and pain will be seen first. I'm happy with that. I feel reasonably positive, I feel so sick already, and with the mc pg I only felt sick for a couple of weeks, weeks 6 and 7 I think, and the pg ended soon after then I think. I also feel like I'm walking on a bouncy castle, which is exactly how I felt with DS, weeks before I know I was updiffed.

manda thank you for the B6 advice, I do think it has helped restore my LP post MC. Do you think I should keep taking it now I'm pregnant (it feels weird typing that).

jaffa I am so sorry about the shitty service locally. Fx all is fine. They do say that you can get ligament pain as the uterus stretches, I don't remember if I had that or not. I would second paracetamol and cake is a good idea, as always. On a more boring note, lots of water and perhaps a fybogel just in case it's constipation or a UTI. I assume you have checked other local NHS hospitals to try for a scan.

cake that's wonderful and exciting, hoping so much its a sticky one for you. I assume you have had a BFN between the MC and now.

whyalwaysboris thanks for the link. I actually have the baby aspirin in the cupboard, but undecided on whether to take it. I assume having carried one pg to term, and my only MC being a blighted ovum, it probably is not necessary.

dorita it sounds like you have had a pretty nasty emotional rollercoaster the last few days. I deal with AF by getting pissed and taking lots of nurafen even if I don't need them. It's a bit childish but makes me feel better.

Yes, your DD... and not the DS I mentioned before sorry for giving your little girl a teeny weeny, jaffa!

I have rung round private hospitals, but nothing sooner than Thurs. I rang the EPU, and they said their sonographer is on a training course so no scans today, and that there are women actively miscarrying in the ward who will not be scanned until Thurs. So a fabulous service there then. If there are any cancellations, they will quite rightly take priority.
I am going to take my DD out for cake. That should be nice for us both.

In more mundane "me" news, I have just eaten my lunch and I am now hungry again.

Oh Jaffa, sorry to hear that - I had rotten cramps a few weeks ago that turned out to be, er, constipation. Fingers crossed they turn out to be nothing.

Ohh ~jaffa I am sorry to hear that but cramps can be the sign of a growing and stetching uterus. Are you constipated at all? I sometimes get a sore back and that can feel quite crampy as well.
FX for you.

Has anyone heard from mrsn?

jaffa Hang in there my lovely. Up until 9/10 weeks I had regular period type crampiness... and then in the weeks since (right up until now) I've had random pains that felt like they could have been 'period-like' or 'constipation-y' or 'uti-ish' and I just tried to put them out of my head until, lo, within a day at latest it was all gone again.

Hoping that it's a similar story for you - something and nothing.

Perhaps take some paracetamol and see if that takes the pain away because at least it not nagging you in the background means you might cope a little better. Can you get any help with DS?

oh Jaffa, sit tight. No bleeding, that's good. Cramps could be anything, there is a lot changing down there. I had these a couple of weeks ago and it came to nothing. They may well have buggered off by lunchtime. maybe worth calling EPU first thing tomorrow and see if they've had any cancellations or anything or maybe try another EPU? It can't do any harm and worth a go if it gets you seen sooner, 2 days is crap.

Oh Jaffa I'm so sorry, that is just terrible. I don't really know much about such things but could you go to a&e and demand to be seen there? 2 days just sounds so wrong xx

I am shit scared now. I started having period pain type cramps in my back this morning. No bleeding, but definitely not good.

I rang midwife, who told me to ring EPU. They are very busy, and cannot see me until Thursday. The midwife I spoke to said this might be the start of another miscarriage, but they cannot tell until the scan. So I have 2 days of fear, struggling to look after a 2 year old on my own, in the fucking rain. I don't know what to do.