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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 14)

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Collie2 · 04/03/2011 19:40

If you are TTC after Miscarriage (or waiting to start trying again), this is the place to be. This thread is full of lots of lovely ladies on the post MC rollercoster and is full of support and advice from people who have been through it, and know what you are going through.
Jump on board and join in the for some laughter, crying or even the odd ranting (whatever you need). There?s lots of Wine, Brew (caffeine free of course Smile ) and chocolate, and more importantly, friendly ?ears?.

The thread moves fast so bob in and out as you please. Don?t be afraid to ask anything ? nothing is ever TMI!!!

If you want to join the stats, just add yourself to the list:

WTTC = waiting to TTC
UCL = usual cycle length
WFT cycle = what the f*uck cycle (cycle after mc but before first AF)
For more accronyms see here

Good luck to all ? The last one was a lucky thread for lots of people so here's hoping for lots more healthy, sticky BFPs by the end of the thread Grin

This is the previous thread

Stats to follow.

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cep · 15/03/2011 15:47

collie it was, also helped google was saying still might not see hb at 6 weeks. Oh but i've lost any small amount of positivity i had, i'm so scared i'm going to have to go through it all again. i'm going to be a mess by monday.

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Collie2 · 15/03/2011 15:36

cep just reading some of the replies you've had on the other thread and think what owl said was very true. Better to be able to see more at 7 weeks than struggling to see anything at all at 6 weeks as could leave you wondering and worrying still. That bean better hang on tight! The only reason I want to see you on this thread is to hand hold us lot! Grin xx

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cep · 15/03/2011 15:25

mel no i completely forgot to mention it Blush i've made another app on the 28th to see my normal dr, and will mention it to her (well will try to remember) it was all just matter of fact, with my normal gp i feel i can sit and chat which i probably why i'm always late going in.

enjoy your busy night. Smile

sg i can't afford it, i've just been reading that you might still not be able to see h/b at 6 weeks so although i'm going to hate this wait, at least it may be a more positive outcome. (i hope)

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Collie2 · 15/03/2011 15:19

YAY to the line mels go get busy tonight!! Grin

I totally get what you mean about being relieved at knowing that things are back to normal. Thats been my biggest fear, it all being c*cked up!! Smile

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meliesmummy · 15/03/2011 14:51

I just poas - line not quite as dark as control line bit definately there so stuff the trauma - early night tonight! ;) I was so happy to see that line and know (well assume) that things are as they should be. I might pop to boots for some preconceive bcos it's on offer (surely a sign?!) but it'll be a rush because dd normally wakes up at 3:30 and she's got swimming in the opposite direction to boots at 5:30, so we'll see.

Cep did they check your cervix at the drs?

securegal · 15/03/2011 14:20

Monday's List

Shorty ttc#2 cycle 1, ucl 30 cd55
Collie TTC#1 MC#1 Cycle 1 UCL 40 CD36
LILI80 TTC #2 Cycle 1 UCL 34 CD36
BackOnceAgain TTC#3, Cycle 7 UCL28-32 CD33
oli TTC#2 M/C#1 FEB 2011 UCL 30-31 CD31
lily06 TTC#1 EP Jan 10, MC May 10, UCL 25-? CD29
Banana87, TTC#2, MC#3, UCL35-37 CD29
harassedinherpants TTC#4, MC#2, UCL 28 or 31, CD29
Hadrian TTC#1, MC#1 Dec 2010, cycle 1, UCL35-40,CD28
IfAtFirstUDontSucceed: TTC no1, MC no2, Jan 2011, UCL 28/29 cd28
IzzyWizzyletsgetbusy TTC#3 cycle 8 UCL 24-30 CD26
Loola2shu TTC#3 Cycle 6 UCL35-38,CD22
ZamMummyInGabs TTC#3 cycle 3 postMC#2 UCL26-32, CD21
Iggly TTC#2, UCL 29-31 CD 21
Youremindmeofthebabe TTC#2, Cycle 7 UCL33 CD 17
Blackkat TTC#1, MC#1 Jan 2011, UCLrandom CD15
wellieboots cycle 2, UCL 29 or 30, CD13
meliesmummy ttc#2 cycle 1 UCL28 CD11
HidingInTheUndergrowth TTC#1, cycle 5 UCL 28 CD11
MumTumWanted TTC#2, cycle 2, UCL29 CD6
laylasmummy09 ttc#2 mc#2 28/28days cycle 1 cd5
Chloe55 TTC #2, cycle 6 post MC#2 UCLrandom CD4
Skitoo TTC#1, WTF CD?

WTTC
Choccybick TTC#1 (post mc1) cycle 6 UCL 27
Mousebacon TTC#2 MC#2
MaybeBaby TTC#1 MC#1
babypops
tokyotwist TTC#2 MC#1 Feb2011 WTF
WildSheepChase TTC#2 MC#6 Jan 2011, UCL 33-36
vegasmum ttc#1 wttc ucl? cd? WTF
LadyBee TTC#2, UCL27
Brooke ttc#1? wttc ucl? WTF
Milkyway2007 ttc#? wttc ucl? WTF
jkklpu wtc ucl? WTF
securegal, TTC#1 MC#1 March 2011, WTF, UCL 28

MIA
BrownB TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL 24-26
Getawiggleon TTC#2, Cycle7 UCL28-32 (Lurking)

RECENT BFP's
Digitalgirl TTC#2, MC#3 Oct 2010
Emoo TTC#2, Cycle 1 (post MC1) UCL 26-30, 30/1/11
DachshundsRule TTC#1 cycle 5 UCL28 CD31 BFP 25 Jan 2011
Hairytriangle TTC#1 cycle 1 (post MC2) UCL ?28 BFP Jan 2011
Tigger15 TTC#2 cycle 22 UCL24-9 CD29 BFP 16 Jan 2011
Pinkfondantfancy TTC#1, cycle 5, UCL 28-35 CD29 BFP!!
Lemonsherbert BFP 18 Jan 2011
HongKongBaby#2, cycle 5 (post mc1), UCL 37, CD30 BFP 18 Jan 2011
MamaPower TTC#1, cycle 5 (post MC#2) UCL 25- 27 CD28
Wombat33 TTC#1 Cycle 3 (post MC) UCL 31
PrettyQuichey TTC#1, (round 7) UCL 28-30
Lovebeingadaddysgirl TTC#? WTC cycle
GetDownYouWillFall TTC#2
KnitterNotTwitter TTC#2, MC#2, cycle 6 UCL 25-30 CD28 BFP 7/2/2011
AandRmum TTC3 cycle 4 UCL29 BFP 18/2/11
Velvetcu TTC #1 Cycle 6 UCL 30-33, 18/2/11
MummyAbroad TTC #2, cycle 2 (Post AS Op)) BFP 23/02/11
Cep TTC#2 Cycle 2 UCL24-28 BFP 24/2/11
Hils74 TTC#1 MC#1 Jan 2011 BFP 28/2/11
Ochaye TTC#3 cycle 1 UCL 31 bfp 02/3/11
Ninunina TTC#1, MC#1, WTF cycle, bfp 09/03/11

RECENT GRADUATES

VivClicquot BFP 25 August
Loopymumsy BFP 29 August
CaribouMoo BFP 7 September
StarflowerGirl BFP 24 Sep
Appleblossoms BFP 9 Oct
Littlemiss72
Urbanlolly BFP 1 Nov
Inbetweener BFP 10 Nov
Owlbooty BFP
Nickstermum BFP

meliesmummy · 15/03/2011 14:18

I usually get a positive opk between day 12 and 14 Cep. I went to a & e when I bled with dd on a sat and they made me wait till Monday, they only do early scans on weekday mornings, so the gp/midwife books you in for the next morning, that wait is horrible, I hope the week goes quickly for you.

sg don't worry about work, you need to look after yourself, a mc is a huge trauma x

securegal · 15/03/2011 13:49

Thanks Collie - I'll paste myself in! I'm OK, I think. I'm still in the 'up and down' phase of things, but today is an 'up' day, so that is nice! I had the ERPC 10 days ago and have been off work ever since. I am starting to feel better physically, but have just contacted work to arrange another week off. I feel bad for taking so much time (it'll be 3 weeks in total), but I have been really poorly (lowered immune system with the pregnancy led to me getting a chest infection as well), so want to be in tip-top shape before going back into the office. My job can be pretty high-stress, so I have decided to give myself a bit of a break. I am going to wait for my first AF before TTC, so might be lurking with intent on this thread for a while!

Cep - I am so sorry to hear that they won't scan you yet. How are you feeling? Good idea to take time off and put your feet up. Could you afford a private scan - I know they are really expensive, but it might help put your mind at rest. I suppose, though, that it might not help much. When I had a private scan the NHS asked me to wait a week anyway, so that they could compare results. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you!

cep · 15/03/2011 13:47

Ironically collie my original app was next monday anyway so if i'd have waited i would have probably had a scan same day or on the tuesday as my app was at 9:30, i've rebooked so that if everything is ok i can ask for another scan to check a couple weeks later.

sorry securegal you're more than welcome to add your details to the list no protocol. Grin

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Collie2 · 15/03/2011 13:46

EWCM melies just checked list and your cd11 right? when do you normally ov? I would expect its soon given your cycle length. I think its good to have dtd in the run up to ovulation so if it was me i'd try and give it a go. Do you have any pre-seed? I got some as people on here suggested it and it was really helpful. I couldn't find anywhere on the highstreet that sold it but aparently boots do their own 'sperm friendly' lub, so maybe try than if you haven't???

good luck, let us know what the opk says!

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cep · 15/03/2011 13:43

thankfully no, and it's all been on wipes not on st. Although have to admit i'm scared to go to the loo, Blush

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Collie2 · 15/03/2011 13:41

hmmm sorry about the bold!

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Collie2 · 15/03/2011 13:40

cep oh thats annoying that they won't see you any earlier. After waiting so long to go to the gp and in the end they are no help. I am so sorry that you are left feeling all anxious and worried. Big squishy hug!

Thats good that you have the week off now, lots of rest can do you no harm, just try to relax. (easy to say i know)

You know if you are still worried you could always go to A&E during the day, maybe then youd get a scan - but don't go in the evening as they won't scan. I know you post on the freak out room so ask them, i'm almost certain lots of them have had very early scans. I know a private scan is expensive so i won't suggest that, and i know a week will seem like ages off, but it will come around. If the bleeding gets worse though cep, get yourself down to A&E.
xxx

SG of course you can add yourself to the list, just copy todays list, add youself and re-post. How are you SG

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meliesmummy · 15/03/2011 13:39

Cep that's awful that you have to wait so long! I agree though, put your feet up, im crossing everything for you, come on bean stay put!!!!!! Have you had anymore bleeding?

Stay strong banana! keep away from the sticks!

Hi everyone else, not sure about your cervix sorry collie but I'm leaving mine alone to heal, thing is I've got ewcm today which I don't want to 'waste' but I dont want any more trauma! Decisions decisions...to dtd or not to dtd? I think i'll do an opk later and then decide.

Anyway food time I'm starving!

cep · 15/03/2011 13:28

hi all, sorry i had to go get ds.

well basically epu won't scan me until i'm 7 weeks, which is next week. i have to do a pg test on friday to make sure it's still showing a strong +ve if it is i can have a scan on Monday. Surely though unless i have a really heavy bleed (and even then for a little while after) would come up +ve anyway wouldn't it? so i'm in limbo. i've contacted work to say i don't want to be in this week (they love me after being off throwing up last week) i just want to stay at home with my feet up, i know ultimately won't stop anything, but at least i'd feel like i've done what i can. anyway they said that's fine am having it annual leave.

securegal · 15/03/2011 13:28

Hi all,

Cep - so sorry to hear that you are so worried - I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you at the dr today.

Can I add myself to the list of WTTC, or do I need to wait for one of the other ladies to add me? Very happy to do it, but didn't want to break protocol!

Securegal, TTC#1 (post mmc#1 March 2011), WTF cycle, UCL 28 days.

It has been really lovely to come and read all of your posts - this seems such a friendly board and I am really excited to join if you'll let me!

Take care all!

SGxxx

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Collie2 · 15/03/2011 12:46

cep any news? Xxxx

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shorty100 · 15/03/2011 11:35

Collie, i'm not sure whether to test again before the doctors tomorrow. It might be a good idea. Thanks

olismum23 · 15/03/2011 11:35

Hi all,
Cep hope the docs goes ok for you thinking of you ((hugs))

collie and lili sorry at your BFN'S I have not had my AF yet was testing negative a couple of days ago orderd some super sensitive ones off ebay my cervix is high still it comes down lower when your AF is coming so who knows i am on the WTF cycle after all just wish i knew what was happening. Although obviously i m/c when i first went in with pains i was getting faint +ve tests but when they tested my blood it was 335hcg so its supposed to pick up 15hcg i think it might not go though my wee as easy as others? just a thought

Good luck tomorrow shorty, Hi melies chloe and anyone i have missed

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Collie2 · 15/03/2011 11:29

Ok having read banana's post that a high cervix is fertile I googled it. Read mixed things but think perhaps high is right. But this has now led me to question what is high???? I have been charting my cervix since ov as I noticed a changed in it's position for the first time. (sorry tmi coming) I would have said pre ov, my cervix was low (ie closer to my vagina and fingers) and is now high (ie further away and harder to reach) but is this not how you measure it?

I want one of those camera things that woman had from the beautiful cervix thing

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Collie2 · 15/03/2011 09:55

I know i know 11dpo is very early, and I didn't even get a +I've at 14dpo last time. But just had a feeling this morning before I tested that this wasn't our month. Anyway, I'm feeling a bit better now and as you say, it's not over....yet. AF not due till sat but will test again fri as dh out fri night and not home till sat night so don't want to poas without him, especially if it's another bfn

Cep I think seeing the gp is a good idea. I know there is little they can do if anything is going to go wrong, but piece of mind will help. Good luck.

Good luck shorty for apt tomorrow, will you test again first? I hate that bfn too!

Sad lili at your bfn. Your cervix is usually low when fertile (I think) which makes your ewcm odd. I think maybe your having a 2nd WTF cycle!! Smile

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banana87 · 15/03/2011 09:53

cep Sorry you are going through this :( Well done for getting a GP appt. Could you go private for a scan today instead? Fingers crossed for you!

Collie :( BFN. It is still early though, don't lose too much hope! I had BFN at 11DPO and BFP at 14DPO.

Chloe high cervix means ovulation/pregnancy (I think). Fingers crossed for you too!

I am 7DPO here. Ordered 15 cheapies from Amazon which I got yesterday. Haven't bothered to POAS yet as I think its too early.

cep · 15/03/2011 09:42

i've got a gp appointment at 11:30, think that's going to be too late to get a scan today. and with ds having to be picked up at 13:00 and shopping coming between 15-17:00 don't know what we can do if it is the afternoon. We haven't told anyone yet, so we'd either have to break silence to ask a friend to stay with ds and keep eye on shopping. I can ask for tomorrow morning can't i!!

i'm feeling really low, i can't help but think this is it, and even if i see a h/b at the scan, like last time i probably won't at the next one like last time. I've just been comfort eating hot toast (4 slices Shock ) 2 with choc spread and 2 with p/nut butter. now i feel sick.