Just MC and ready to try again? Pack your cake, wine and tightie whities and join us for more ranting, weeping and most of all laughing! All welcome! (Part 13)

cep your worrying is only natural, but hopefully it will go swimmingly and you'll have nothing left to worry about!

iggy welcome, I'm so sorry for your loss but I'm glad you've found us. I've seen you on the nov bus but I stuggle to keep up with both threads so don't post often. Everyone is really lovely here so feel free to use us as support or a friendly ear to rant at! X

Hi Hadrian how was your week at work? I think pg people are stalking us! I feel the same. I can't get over the number of pg announcements recently. 3 in a week! Thankfully people I don't see too often. Someone brought their new born twins to work yesterday but thankfully I was in a meeting and missed the whole affair!

melies that's really good of your DH to not go, I can imagine it's the last thing he felt like doing and would only be worrying about you. How are you feeling today. It's very dull and wet here today but I hope it's sunnier where you are and you do something nice x

I don't know many people trying for their 2nd DC but when I mc a friend did tell me all of her friends who where pg or trying lost their first. I think it's very common to lose your first..... But noone told me this before I had a mc. I just thought the chances of mc were the same regardless.

melies I drive an hour to work too. Sometimes I cry on the way, but in a way it's a good thing as it gives me quiet alone time to be sad and get it out of my system.

Tokyo sorry your having a hard time a the moment.

I fell asleep infront of the TV last night so feeling refreshed. Woke up at 4 this morning which had messed up my temps again though!

Hope everyone is ok?

My experience in RL is many ppl lose thier 1st pregnancy. Out of my group of friends, 4 of us want a baby, 3 had a mc with 1st pregnancy and 1 of us is having difficulty conceiving. Thankfully one is now 6 months pg, so hopefully we'll have 1 baby in 2011.

You are right mellie that most ppl here are ttc#2. Maybe more mummy's use MN so it scews the stats.

Hi Melie, I know what you mean about 2nd pregnancies. In my group of 9 friends, 7 have had mcs with their 2nd pregnancies.
Thing is, I can't think why this would be the case. It is very odd though.

hadrian hi. it is difficult pg women seem to be everywhere, shortly after mine i had a friend who already has 2 dc's announce she was pg with twins. my other friend had her ds. an old school friend announced on fb she was pg. Todays my first hurdle af due date, i may just make myself comfy upstairs on the loo with a good book/my ds for the day.

tokyo i'm sorry things have been so tough lately, i hope dd gets better soon.

mel sorry hon i remember you saying something about that before. A hard job as it is i would imagine without the tough time you're going through at the moment. an hour to work cor that's horrible, especially if you don't feel like going in. Just don't forget we're here for you to vent to even about work if you need us. There does seem to be quite a few/most of us who have mc on their second.

tokyo and Hadrian I just notice you'd posted whilst I was writing my last one, sorry you are both having a hard time. I know what you mean about hospitals, my dd hurt her foot a few days after my mc so we've been back and forth a lot, I've had enough of those places!

Hi iggly, sorry you had to jump off the bus but welcome.

cep I'm a scbu nurse, I work mainly nights, 2 shifts a week, one is usually at the weekend for childcare reasons. My dd goes to nursery 2 mornings a week so I can catch up on sleep. I'm going back on Monday night as long as my scan mon morning is clear. I'm not sure how it'll go, I'm not looking forward to it to be honest. Plus I live an hours drive from work so it'll be a long hard night I think.

I'm beginning to see a pattern here, has anyone else noticed that we mostly seem to have lost our second babies? It's seems to be the same in rl for me too, I don't believe those stats about the first pregnancy being the most likely to mc any more!

Hi Everyone,

I haven't had a chance to read through the past few days yet, but I just wanted to pop in and say hello.

I've spent the last few days dealing with dd who's been poorly. She still is but after a visit to hospital yesterday we now have antibiotics for tonsillitis, so at least I know what's wrong now.

I am so fed up of hospitals, illnesses, and winter and burst into tears at the GPs yesterday and then apologised for being such a basket case. Poor guy probably thought I was nuts.

Anyway, hello everyone and hope the week ahead is sunny for us all.

Morning all and hello to iggly. I'm very sorry for your loss and you are most welcome here. I'm ttc my first and my MC was in December. Am now in my first proper cycle after the WTF cycle so we are in about the same place. It's a tough old journey isn't it?

melis and olis I'm being driven mad at the moment by friends with babies, friends giving birth, friends getting pg. If one more person tells me the glorious news that they are pg I'm going to scream. Am trying to be happy for everyone but think it's easier to be honest with myself and recognise that it makes me sad and there's nothing I can do about that.

My SIL is pg with her 4th and due 5 days after I was due. We'd had all those conversations about our babies growing up together. Now I can't even talk to her or my brother about it. Am hoping I'll be able to deal with it by the time the baby comes in July...

Sorry for the miserable post, I'm not feeling miserable at all today but once you start a rant it's hard to stop!

cep how are you feeling today? I think you're holding it together really well so far!

thanks ninu i have no doubt you will all be right behind me. and i want to be here to see it.

iggly welcome, there are a few ladies on here you'll recognise from the bus. i'm sorry for your loss in november, sounds like you had a really traumatic time. This is definately the place to be for support and answers to any queries (if we can) feel free to rant (or ramble ) and stress as and when you need to. Do you want to be added to the stats? i had that with a pg lady, she had dd a week before i had ds, she had her second in jan.

blackkat are you around today honey? are you ok?

mumtum haven't seen you for a while are you ok?

Hi ladies (and hi cep from the bus!)

I wondered if I could join in please? I was kicked off the November bus by AF this week. Had a miscarriage last November, ended up in hospital, lost a lot of blood, had an ERPC (have I got the letters right?!) and took about 5 weeks to feel normal. On third cycle since then. Not sure everything is back to normal although have had two AFs and on my third. Cycle lengths are a bit irregular - used to be like clockwork.

Anyway I thought this seemed a nice friendly place to share my TTC adventure as finding it harder as yesterday another woman I know who had a DD the same time as DS is pregnant.

Sorry for the ramble!

cep hopefully your gp will refer you for an early scan. Perhaps you just need to show that your worried, and maybe say you have cramps. But in the mean time try and enjoy the bfp! :) hopefully we'll be joining you soon, so we can stress together.

i think like you said collie my fear is of tempting fate, saying something is wrong when actually it isn't and then something does go wrong. sorry it's only day 1 and already i'm getting daft. right i'm off to bed, will try to get a good night sleep.

You do what you need to cep, to get that scan on nhs then to get piece of mind xx

mel am glad dh is staying home with you this weekend. will be nice for you to have a good weekend before you go back to work. What area do you work in? what days do you have off if you work every weekend?

i jut checked the same place as i went before and it was £55 now so not gone up too much, but i just don't think we can afford it.

Thanks again everyone x

My dh isn't going away tomorrow now, he knows I'm struggling and says he's not in the mood for it. The stag was our best man, a friend from uni that we dont see that often any more and I think we both feel that we don't have much in common with that group anymore, we're the only ones with a child and we've grown apart. I'm glad he's not going but I wouldn't have asked him not to, it'll be nice to have a family weekend before I'm back to working every weekend again.

cep scans around here cost about £100, I'm going to have one (even tho the clinics an hours drive away, the local private hosp to me won't do them till after an NHS one for done reason) bcos I was told I would only get an early one if I bled again. The hosp dr told me that tho, I'm hoping my gp or midwife will be a bit more understanding.

LILI glad it all went well

Good night

collie i can't really afford to get a private scan. when i had one with ds (ooh 3 yrs ago??) it was £50 then goodness knows how much it is now.

banana some people only have a days worth of ewcm. if you find you don't get much/enough, preseed is really good. i don't unfortunately i'm down fareham way. i think my local epu has to be dr referred.

i was going to make an appointment for about 8 weeks anyway. so will ask and see what they say. I just don't see the point of going through a booking with the midwife until i know the bean is ok.

Cep Are you near St. George's in Tooting? They will scan you with no referral at the EPU, just walk in (for 8am as its first come, first serve).

at your 'seeing it as getting fit' comment LILI that really is putting a positive on it!! Lol

Shit! I'm on CD 11. Should I be having EWCM now if I am getting ready to ov? I don't seem to have any...perhaps will go out and get some digital ov tests tomorrow!

Congrats cep and MummyA. Fx I am joining you both soon :)

Oh cep isn't it so cruel how it happens?! Not for you this time though. To be honest I said exactly the same thing after I mc. That I would demand an early scan and lie if they wouldn't give it to me. I don't know if I could though. It does seem very wrong and would hate to temp fate (which I don't really even believe in) but on the other hand I can imagine every week symptom spotting could feel like an eternity. I think see how you go and cope. I know they are expensive but maybe you could buy one private, a friend of mine did at 9 weeks after she mc at 8. Think of all the money you'll be saving now on cbdigis!!

sorry cep just x posted.

I sort of agree with your DH. If it gets you a scan it's worth it....

olis you need a gold star for that effort . I so want another baby though that i'm going to try and take the drs advice!

collie thank you she was lovely. I know what you mean about us being on a long cycle and exactly how much sex that involves! I'm going to give it a go and see it as getting fit in the process

cep Think you should mention about getting an early scan,it's worth it just to try and put your mind at ease. My DR did say it wouldn't be before 7wks but certainly from 8wks onwards they would try and scan. Can imagine how scared and anxious you are, think it's only natural after everything. If it helps any my dr said that the chances of having a heathly pregnancy after m/c are really high

I had a small bleed (on a wipe) at just before 7 weeks, had a scan saw h/b everything seemed ok, then had another slight bleed (again on a wipe) at about 11 weeks went for another scan and it'd died at 7 weeks. i want to ask if i can have a scan at about 9 weeks, but don't know if they'll give me one. dh reckons i should just tell them i've had a bleed to get one. which sounds absolutely awful.