Over Here Viroids! Just Shagging with Intent Thread!

Right, I've started the new thread! over here

Aww Josie :( Sorry to see you go. I know what you mean though. Have to say that the horses keep it all in perspective for me. That's not to say I don't feel sad every time ERTD turns up, but that I refuse to let TTC be the only thing that defines me. Easier said than done, I know. Very best of luck, and I hope we see you over on the other side soon :)

Josie sorry you have to go, but I agree with the others it will DEFINITELY all be fine.

Actually, it might be really good to have someone you know pregnant at (fingers crossed) a similar time to you: especially, if you both go back to work after you've had your babies, you might find it really helpful to have someone there with whom you can have all the baby conversations, and with whom you can BAND TOGETHER to make sure that you are treated considerately, given fair hearing for flexitime, or whatever it might be. It's hard to feel it now but it could be GREAT. Anyway, I keep my fingers crossed for you.

Josie - it's fine, it'll all be fine.
When your colleague gets morning sickness, you can wallow in it (but not to her face) and be glad it's not you yet.
Make sure you give her as much sympathy as poss, that way she'll be sympathetic when it's your turn. :)

Practically - there's nothing to stop you changing it now - can't be any more of an inconvenience than you having to change your name when you got married.

babylann - why don't you do the composite name then? I know it's more complicated cos you already have DCs....
or You can keep your own surname on marriage and still let the kids have their dad's name.
I just couldn't give up my name to become someone else.

Lizzy - I can't understand why people are so daft like that - if you know your child has a different surname why on earth wouldn't you tell the school/person on the phone that??
Obviously, I have no problem with them thinking my kids have my name , but if DH rang and they assumed his name, I'd be fuming!
I believe that surname is justas an important part of the name as the first names, so if you give your name, you should give it all. (well, maybe not middle names....)
If i rang a school, I'd say "hello, it's nickelbabe here, DDfirstname surname's mum.
If they had the same name, i wouldn't bother.

Couldn't leave without saying:

Practically you don't always say the wrong thing, you made me smile, which is difficult to do right now

Sorry Josie .

Sorry to see you go, wishing you all the best.

Aww :( Sorry to hear you're leaving Josie. Hopefully you'll feel better (or preferably get a BFP) soon.

Thanks Practically it's the belly rubbing and questions that I want, but I understand it'll get old hat pretty quick, and she won't get maternity pay so ha to her

It's very hard today again but I have made a decision that I need to take a step back from the whole thing, so, unfortunately, I have decided to take a break from MN. I need to relax and stop thinking about it so much and I'm on here constantly so it's not helping.

I love all you viroids, you've been so so good to me, but I need to get it out of my head, I didn't sleep a wink last night thinking about it and I've become too obsessive. I will lurk and post occassionally, and feel free to send me PMs, especially when people get BFPs, but other than that I will be takin a leave of absence

(waves and hands out choccy bars to everyone)

Josie, your pg definitely wouldn't be any less special than your colleagues. She'll have to bear the brunt of the annoying questions and belly-rubbing. And when you actually have the baby, she'll have less time left of maternity leave. And your other colleagues will have had practice making lovely cups of tea which you will be spoiled with automatically. Plus, when you get up duffed it will be special and exciting, she'll be old hat by then, and you get to ride in and steal her thunder .

babylann, I agree. I think it's the I in SWI that gets you. It's all the hard (!) work only for ERTD to come and taunt you with the cramps and the ick and the bad moods.

I took DH's surname when we got married. I wish I had pushed for him to take mine. We both agreed that we wanted to have the same surname as our kids but in hindsight I liked my name much better :(. DH's is ugly and harsh sounding and awkward. Mine was a lovely soft-sounding Irish one. I was a bit of a child-bride (21) and didn't give it enough thought.

Is it just me or is this SWI thing pretty hard work? I can't imagine if I was doing some proper hardcore TTC with temperature checks etc. We're only on day 13 and I'm already fed up of all the SWI.

I miss condoms :(

I know.....if they knew I put coke in it I would be in proper trouble

I don't think the men folk 'get' what it means. AF to hubby is a inconvenience in the normal ritual. Not sure he will ever get how it affects me emotionally. Its a bloke thing rolleyes
Take care G2D and sending possie vibes to your sis x

Not caught up on thread - sorry

Sister not had baby yet. Refusing to come!! Sending her home tomorrow for a few days.

Will catch up tom. x

Whisky and Coke??? In the Western Isles??? Are you mental? . You'll get lynched if the locals see that!

Glad your hubby is properly on on board. Still not convinced that mine is, he goes along with the JSing, but doesn't seem to care that I get ERTD each month :(. Bloody men.

God....you lot dont half talk some shat.....helped no doubt by the shat troll Its taken me an age to catch up and thanks to the whisky and coke I have in my hand I have forgotten most of what I have read so far

AF has officially left the building so I is celebrating For the first one in 8 years it was a back to reality with a bump 10 days!
No idea if I will ovulate this month so I plan to Swi and treat it as good practice and await her return at some point.

Was having a bit of a low time this last week as I decided hubby wasn't really committed to #4. I have definitely been the driving force in the decision and was panicking he wasn't really on board but he has surprised me. Caught him checking out 7 seater's on the interweb other day and he causally asked when he gets his shag fest He took me out for a picnic yesterday, in 40 mph winds and went and booked me a hair appointment for today to cheer me up. I is thinking he is being a bit of a darlin!

We have made some pretty serious lifestyle changes in the last 6 months including moving 450 miles away from home to a remote island off the west coast of Scotland. I was worried it was all a bit too much too soon but I think he's alright...just not "talk about it endlessly" kind of guy.

Gawd.....Whisky makes me waffle

I prefer DP's surname, but do think it's a bit boring. So it's a question between - boring surname or kinda embarrassing surname? Think I'd rather be boring.

But I have a name that is more commonly a boy's name than a girls, and there's a footballer with the name I will have when I'm married, which doesn't make me happy. :(

oH and I aren't married. Don't think it has actually occurred to him to ask ;). But I'd defo be keeping my name. Trying not to give it away but, although it's spelt differently it is a type of bug. On holiday we would turn up for trips and be asked " are you the x's". Input a bug and it is something like " are you the spiders" .

I never thought I'd take his name, but as a teacher, we have so many complications with parents ringing, and not giving the surname of the pupil, office assume its the same name, and messages get lost in the post. I also have a thing about double barrel surnames, I currently teach a Heppinstall-Taylor, never fits on forms or boxes for exams. [hopes she hasn't offended anyone emoticon]

I wasn't particularly attached to my name

just can't - love my name too much - it's mine, mine!!

Thanks Lizzy It's a tiny office here and the girl in question sits directly opposite me so there's no getting away from it. The other annoying thing is, if I got pg too it's a bit of a let down cos she got there first ifswim. I've been here 5 years and keep thinking how excited I'd be making the announcement to everyone, but it won't be that special now if it does ever happen

Meh, another friend/colleague of mine has announced her pregnancy. I couldn't help but go green, I'm sure everyone knew. The teachers in my department were joking around, saying what if I get pregnant and go off at the same time. They were meaning to be nice, as in, how could the department cope without the two of us. All I could think was Shut up shut up shut up shut up shut up... SHUT UP. I went to my next lesson feeling wound up, and had several unfortunate year 10's in detention tonight.

Josie you are not alone. ((((not really a hugging person, but hugs anyway, you deserve them)))