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CM Club - suitable clothing!!

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MrsFluffleHasAWuffle · 01/08/2008 13:45

It's pissing it down, I was planning on going out - mindee just turned up in FLIP FLOPS, disney princess dress, no fcking knickers and no coat.

BRILL.

I have spares but no coat so we are stuck in now.

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nannyL · 02/08/2008 20:52

I nannied for a little girl who in a day when it snowed was dressed in a long sleeve T shirt and that was IT (and thin trousers and socks and a nappy)

not even a jumper style top OR a vest OR a coat... and i had to take her outside from nursary into my FREEZING car back to her house like that

one (warm) day i picked her up and she was wearing jeans and 2 long sleeve dresses... yes 2 dresses, one on top of the other
(you could always tell if MUMMY hadnt left out the exact clothes she wanted daddy to put her in )

PinkChick · 02/08/2008 20:46

yeah i think thats the best way to go, not express your disgust but put across the hygeine and infection concern..awful situ isnt it!..i used to have my mindee over night and she used to have a lovely soak in tub whenever she was with me

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MrsFluffleHasAWuffle · 02/08/2008 20:45

No I don't do overnights but mum works till late on occasion so I don't mind the odd one off.

Have written in book as above ^^

If that doesn't help I'll have to be a bit more blunt I think. As you say, she'll end up with an infection!

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PinkChick · 02/08/2008 20:14

is she there over night chick?..i had a little girl similar..single mum as well, mindee was always dirty nd i frequently lied about why id washed her coat(feel over in puddle= it was so filthy i couldnt bare the poor child to walk around like that), mum just expected it in end..i would comment in diary and say along lines of dd wet herself today, as she was wearing my spares she needed yesterday(getting point across you know they wernt changed) i have put them in wash to save you job, had noticed x doesnt seem to be able to grasp wiping properly at minute, so as your probably doing already i will keep and eye on and help if needed and i think a fresh clea pair each day will help prevent itching or infections whilst shes struggling...something like that????

aGalChangedHerName · 02/08/2008 18:43

Good idea. You could maybe say like this:

I have noticed that mindee isn't wiping her bottom properly as her knickers are always really mucky?

Then see what mum says.

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MrsFluffleHasAWuffle · 02/08/2008 18:41

and with that I bid you adieu - we are going to watch a bit of Bee Movie before it's bedtime

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MrsFluffleHasAWuffle · 02/08/2008 18:41

Further developments!!

She's just wet herself, so at least I have got my spare knickers back anyway as slung them in washer - anyhoo got her dressed early for bed and whacked a nappy on ( mine as mum hasn't put in again !)

Have written in book that she wet herself and I have kept the pants as they were the spare pair I put on her yesterday, to save her washing them and handing them back

Think that might get the point across?

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imananny · 02/08/2008 18:38

brown bits as in poo [sick face]

thats horrible

crusty knickers

to me that is a type of abuse - ie neglect - sure the mum chnages her underwear daily - well hope she does!!!

guess you can either be tactful or maybe say, guess xxx got herself dressed today - see what her reply is

aGalChangedHerName · 02/08/2008 18:37

Not sure what if anything you could say tbh.

I have had mindees who were bathed once or twice a month etc and my DO said i couldn't say anything. Just had to teach them about good hygiene when they were here.

Eg wiping bottom properly and washing hands.

Bloody awful tho

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MrsFluffleHasAWuffle · 02/08/2008 18:34

occasionally yes, for my sins.
Parent seems clean but crumpled - her work uniform is brand new but looks dishevelled and unironed.

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aGalChangedHerName · 02/08/2008 18:33

God do you work on Saturdays too?

No idea what you would say to mum Poor wee girl tho. Are the parents "clean"?

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MrsFluffleHasAWuffle · 02/08/2008 18:31

yeah complete with brown bits barf

I really need to say something don't I? Any ideas on how to do it anyone??

( oh and I am not really here while minding! but it's saturday evening and it's free n easy then I'm afraid!!)

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imananny · 02/08/2008 18:28

the little girl is in the same knickers again

shudders

that is so not right - that poor little girl

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MrsFluffleHasAWuffle · 02/08/2008 18:25

LMAO!!!!

Well she is here just now and has the same spare pants on from my box as she had on yday

I think it's time for a talk to mum, but how to broach it without coming across all SS-ey??

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MrsWeasley · 02/08/2008 16:56

Ah this could explain it all

imananny · 02/08/2008 16:55

there's not much I can do, not everyone has the same standards and priorities I suppose......

mrs Fluffle -I would like and hope to think, that everyone wears clean knickers daily theirselves ( ie parents)

assume they put in clean underwear for theirselves for the over night stay?if not then and poor child

but know what you mean -

maybe you should get all mindees to leave wellies and a rain coat and a sun hat at yours?

aGalChangedHerName · 02/08/2008 16:44

I once had a little boy i minded who came w/out a coat/hat etc in winter.

Got back from the school run (was snowing) to find dad waiting. Mindee had a pink coat and hat on. I only have dd's so had nothing else to put on him. Dad hit the roof,tried to expalin but he was awful.

Gave him notice there and then. Wasn't worth the hassle. Poor little boy

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MrsFluffleHasAWuffle · 02/08/2008 16:36

I have spares Gal,inc another jacket now! and I think my face yesterday said it all tbh ;)

Just why don't they think on a bit??

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aGalChangedHerName · 02/08/2008 16:27

What about telling the parents you need a change of clothing left at your house? Raincoat,shoes etc in case you go out.

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MrsFluffleHasAWuffle · 02/08/2008 16:21

Yes I do too, but other than keep on about suitable clothing ( put a bit in this months newsletter now!!) there's not much I can do, not everyone has the same standards and priorities I suppose......

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PinkChick · 02/08/2008 15:16

no, not your proba t all chick, im just saying that cos i feel sorry for the dd.

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MrsFluffleHasAWuffle · 02/08/2008 10:16

Yes but not my business is it unless it is a regular thing and even then it's hardly neglect is it, not real neglect?

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PinkChick · 01/08/2008 20:42

sounds like there may be more probs than unsuitable clothing by what you've said??

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MrsFluffleHasAWuffle · 01/08/2008 19:37

Apparently they stayed at a friends house last night after going straight from here - and I know that the day before they hadn't gone home either so judging by the disgusting state of said knickers yesterday, that'll be why no knicks today fgs

anyway I dressed her in my spares and we went out anyway as it stopped raining and was still warm, bought another extra mac while I was out and it's been tropical since!

It wasn't a specific planned daytrip type outing, we often just go out - this was going to the Post Office as part of our topic work.

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juuule · 01/08/2008 16:55

Missed the no knickers bit
Maybe they were in a bit of a rush this morning.
Sorry I know it's not funny really but.. well it is a bit, don't you think?

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