I am 11 weeks pregnant and am now really scared.
DD1 was born in March 2004 by emergency caesarian section.
I was in labour for 38 hours, was examined and told I had got to 10cm dilated and was feeling quite a lot of pressure. The midwife who was with me at the time told me that I was ready to push, but had a slight anterior lip? which they should be able to push it out of the way. A second midwife was then called in along with the registrar.
The second midwife examined me again - I'm not sure why and agreed with the first midwife that there was a slight anterior lip, but agreed that I was ready to push.
The registrar then called both midwives out of the room - did not say anything to me.
They all then returned and I was told by the registrar that I would have to have an emergency c-section and that if he let me continue naturally I could be there for days and that the baby would get distressed and could die.
I was then in floods of tears and agreed to the c-section and was taken to theatre almost immediately.
After the birth I was advised by a different midwife that we should not start trying for a baby for at least 2 years. (We had always wanted to have 2 babies with no more than a 2 year gap between them. The ideal gap for us would have been 18months.)
At my 6 week check my doctor asked what we were planning with regard to having another baby so that he could help me decide on an appropriate contraception. I explained to him that we were originally planning on trying for another baby fairly soon, but because of the c-section we had been advised by the midwife to wait at least 2 years.
His response was this:
"What rubbish. This kind of scaremongering is completely unnecessary nowadays."
He advised me to wait at least a month before we started trying to conceive (this was to allow csection wound time to finish healing and also to try and lose a bit of weight).
I felt that I trusted my doctor completely. He has always been very helpful and all of his diagnoses/advice has always been correct in the past.
However.... we took his advice and started TTC after the months wait. I became pregnant the first month of trying and am now 11 weeks. I have now had my first appointment with my midwife and she said what on earth was I doing and hadn't I been advised not to start trying for at least 2 years.
I was too upset to continue talking with her so ended up leaving the appointment early and she didn't seem to be able to explain why I should have waited for the 2 years.
Does anyone know who is right?
If it's the midwife that's correct what problems am I likely to encounter? I really don't want to have to have an abortion as this baby is really wanted. Is the risk to me or is it to the baby?
Sorry for rambling...Any advice would be much appreciated.