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Dear Dilemma... advice appreciated!

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HelloMama · 29/06/2004 20:41

A very good friend of mine is getting married (big wedding) 10 days before my due date and I just don't know if we should go or not! The main problem is the wedding is 200 miles away from home. We will be staying with family members over the long weekend (its in my home town) but just the thought of being so far away is making me nervous! Lots of people have said they expect baby to arrive a bit early (doctors at work, midwife friends, etc) as baby is already engaged, but I would be so disappointed to miss the wedding to go and be 2 weeks overdue (which is quite likely to happen with a first baby, right?)! What should we do?! So far I have had no problems in the pregnancy and still feel very well at the moment (due on 27 July). I also don't know what I should say to my friend getting married. Help!

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princesspeahead · 29/06/2004 22:47

ooh, I disagree with everyone. I'd stay at home with my feet up. I always felt mammoth and uncomfortable 10 days beforehand and would have hated the reality of a party, even if the idea of it appeals. Plus the stress of being so far from home.... eurgh. Who needs it?!

philippat · 29/06/2004 22:29

likewise I was in the same position 3 years ago (well, the wedding was 8 days before my due date).

Go go go go go! Face the fact you may need to rest and/or leave early and sit down a lot! Tell your midwife so she can tell you if you are fit enough. Find out the phone numbers for the appropriate local hospital (midwife should help) and make sure you have a sober designated driver. Take everything you intend to have with you during labour.

It really isn't the end of the world to go into labour there!

Incidentally, I didn't go into labour (but everyone let me push into the toilet queue), had a great time, gave birth 4 days later (agree with crystaltips about the photos though!).

beetroot · 29/06/2004 22:19

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codswallop · 29/06/2004 22:14

odds

codswallop · 29/06/2004 22:14

Oh go I agree with pupuce
when you ar ein agony where you are makes no idds! :0

pupuce · 29/06/2004 22:10

What's the worst that can happen? You start having contractions at the wedding? Well you go to nearest maternity unit and have babe there..... or is that not an option.... if not, then stay put !

Crystaltips · 29/06/2004 20:48

Eleven glorious years ago I was in the same predicament as you.
I opted to go - and I had a ball. I really milked it though - I got DH to book a room in the hotel where the reception was - and midway - I went for a lie-down. I was very worthwhile.

The only regret was allowing myself to be photographed - I SERIOUSLY looked like a beached whale in a hat !!