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Is this stealing?!!

85 replies

Stilldreamingofsun · 23/09/2016 16:49

Background- my BF has three boys. Very unlikely to have any more kids but I know she would love a girl. She has a lot of health issues and her husband doesn't want anyone so it's highly unlikely. She picked out a name which I love for her last child, in case it was a girl. Would it be mean if I used this for my daughter that is due in a few weeks? Is she entitled to own the name? Would she be justified in feeling pissed off?!!!

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TheVirginQueen · 23/09/2016 16:58

I'd ask her if she would like to use the name on your baby, ask her to be God Mother. Tell her she inspired the name.

If she reacts well use it.
If she reacts badly don't.

Stilldreamingofsun · 23/09/2016 16:57

She definitely wanted to use it- she had a definite boys name and a definite girls name before her c section. Had text messages prepared with same!

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Stilldreamingofsun · 23/09/2016 16:55

I wanted to see the reaction here before I approached her and upset her unnecessarily. My gut reaction is not to do it. However, it would be s childish thing to fall out over.

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smartyclogs · 23/09/2016 16:55

Why don't you ask her and see what she says?
It may be just a fantasy name and she may not have any problems with you using it, or there again...

chinlo · 23/09/2016 16:53

You'd be an absolute fucking prick to use it

Jesus!

AGruffaloCrumble · 23/09/2016 16:53

Purely depends on if you want to keep her as a friend.

chinlo · 23/09/2016 16:53

Why don't you just ask her? She is your best friend, after all.

neonrainbow · 23/09/2016 16:53

You'd be an absolute fucking prick to use it.

DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 23/09/2016 16:51

Call your baby what you like and if she has another baby she can name her the same name. No one has dibs on names, they don't 'belong' to anyone.