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Brothers with same first initial OK?

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2qwerty · 11/12/2010 19:13

Is using the same initial for brothers something to avoid (thinking of confusion with post)or does it not matter?

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HelenaRose · 11/12/2010 19:16

I think it'd end up being really confusing with post, but it's not so much of a big deal. Cheques to "Mr D. 2querty" and "Mr D. 2querty" may end up being confusing, though.

RockinRobinBird · 11/12/2010 19:19

The post argument always makes me laugh... How the hell old will they be before they start getting significant post. They'll learn to use their middle initial, it's no reason not to use a name you like.

ReformedCharacter · 11/12/2010 19:19

DP used to get really pissed off with his brother opening his post. I wouldn't do it personally.

ReformedCharacter · 11/12/2010 19:22

People start to receive a fair amount of post when they're about 16 I suppose Rockin. I don't know how you make a company include your middle initial in correspondence. A lot of my mail comes addressed wrongly, such as Mrs DP's surname.

It's not a massive deal or anything though, just a bit annoying.

maryz · 11/12/2010 19:27

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SoupDragon · 11/12/2010 19:28

I always found it convenient that my SIL and her two children all had the same initial, making it easy to write checks to S Dragon which could then be paid into anyones account.

However, I would avoid doing it.

RockinRobinBird · 11/12/2010 20:03

Everything I get has my middle initial. It just does, nothing special done.

Due to a stupid family quirk, DH and his dad have the same first name (known by middle names). DH was in his late twenties when he moved out and there was never once an issue over post.

DilysPrice · 11/12/2010 20:07

Surely the clothes labelling is a good thing? You only have to buy one set of labels, and can pass uniform on without fannying around taking them off and replacing them with new ones. It's pretty easy to work out which belongs to who by size, once the school has sent them home.

DancingThroughLife · 11/12/2010 20:11

DH has this with his father, they've just learned to use their middle initial on everything. Some things slip the net, but ho hum.

It does make the cheque thing V handy. We were given a cheque to Mr & Mrs D Throughlife - we don't have a joint account so we couldn't pay it in. However PILs do, so they paid it in and gave us the money. Job done.

By the time brothers are old enough to be getting a noticable amount of post, they'll be almost moving out age anyway so it won't matter as much anyway.

Greenshadow · 11/12/2010 20:12

Was important to us not to have the same initial within the family, including us the parents.
It may be a little thing, but it so much more convenient to be able to use a single initial and not just in relation to post.

maryz · 11/12/2010 20:21

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midnightsun · 11/12/2010 20:42

My DH has the same initial as his siblings, and I have a few friends who have deliberately done this with naming their DCs. I would never say anything to any of them but privately I think it's quite cheesy.

OctaviaOstrichJollster · 11/12/2010 21:25

you know I hate matchy matchy and contrived things, but the initial thing doesn't bother me. I guess as my Dad and his brother was Arthur and Albert, and my 3 siblings all share G, Gregory, Geraldine and Georgina, it seems normal to me... Never understood the post issue problem!

millymae · 11/12/2010 21:28

My sister and I had the same initial and our parents were the least cheesy people you could ever meet. Our names might have begun with the same letter but there weren't at all similar.

It never caused us any problems - all 'official' stuff came to us with our middle name initial included and everything else we just seemed to know who it was intended for.

If you like two names with the same initial I would let the worry about possible confusion put you off.

maryz · 11/12/2010 21:30

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OctaviaOstrichJollster · 11/12/2010 21:35

maryz it's my siblings not my offspring.
My mum was generally in charge, and she was a Genevieve. Don't know if she wanted all to match. I DO remember some comment about making name tags easier (though they were all at different schools Hmm). I would have been a Gemma or Gisela but my dad finally objected... Grin

cat64 · 11/12/2010 21:37

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OctaviaOstrichJollster · 11/12/2010 21:38

ah... no fights in my family. One look from Mum and that was it. Grin

maryz · 11/12/2010 21:50

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reddaisy · 11/12/2010 22:00

I know someone whose four children have all got four letter names. And know someone else whose first two children have got the same initial (T) and her third child's name begins with an O.

The third child has a different dad though so I think she thought that meant she could/should change the tradition.

MrsDingDongMerrily · 11/12/2010 22:06

I've got the same initial as my Dad and it has caused some problems with mail etc. I moved back home after Uni, when I moved out again one organization who we both belonged to switched his account to my new address instead of mine which took quite a bit of sorting.

DH has the same two initials as one of his brothers, think that caused quite a bit of confusion too.

I would have hesitated to choose the same initial as either of ours for the DCs, or the same one for both of them (mine are close enough in age and size for me to be heavily reliant on labels to differentiate the uniform too)

Cathycat · 11/12/2010 22:15

My two sons do. I wouldn't want them to have any other name but am always stuttering! :)

maryz · 11/12/2010 22:16

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evamummy · 11/12/2010 22:29

The whole point of naming someone is to IDENTIFY him or her. Having two males in a family (or 2 females) with the same initial and surname clearly defeats that purpose and CAN be confusing, especially in relation to post, bank statements etc.

cat64 · 11/12/2010 22:30

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