To be really miserable about my body?

Should say as well, I have lost about 28kg in the last 20 months, plus my body has really changed shape. I used to have fat flabby arms, and large solid legs, and I am looking much more lean and toned now. I still have a little ways to go, but my arms are completely normal sized now with very little wobble. I still have a little tiny bit of protrusion in my lower belly. I think it looks enormous and out of proportion to my slim waist, but no one else does, and I am a size 10 so it can't be that bad. Although not really a planking in a bikini body 🤦‍♀️😂

I am short and small boned, so I actually have to be a low-normal BMI of 18-20 to look a good shape. Any heavier and weight goes to my tummy/boobs/face/bum and I look out of proportion. When I'm slimmer I'm an hourglass with weight only on my boobs and bum/hips.

Sorry this probably isn't helpful, but what I mean is you might actually need a lower BMI to get an in-proption "shape". Sorry if that isn't helpful, but it's the case for me!

You sound more like an apple than a pear I think. Pears carry weight on bottom and legs. Apples carry weight on their stomachs.

Do you progress your weights? Are you working all muscle groups? How many times a week are you doing weights and for how long?

I do body pump twice a week and some of us are lifting heavier weights and pushing ourselves to failure, really working up a sweat. Some people have a really light weight on and stick with the same weight over a long period of time. Which category would you say you fall in?

Are you tracking your food? Exercise alone wont help, you need to be in a calorie deficit as well. Do you try to eat plenty of protein?

I was going to ask this. Are you lifting heavy? Until your muscles can’t lift or push/pull any more? My shape has definitely changed since I’ve consistently started going to the gym. Sounds like you exercise a lot though!

Ultimately you can lose the fat by eating less, and it takes either willpower or WLIs. Describe a typical day of food. Also what weights are you lifting? As in how heavy how many reps

Unfortunately, most people can’t carry much fat without their body looking out of proportion. At a bmi of 20, my body looks great. At a bmi of 23/24 I obviously don’t look fat but I am much less well proportioned IYSWIM. Most people don’t gain weight evenly. I suspect your skeleton is perfectly acceptably proportioned so you either accept your body the way it is, or you lose weight.

What working out do you do?

I go to the gym but I don’t think I’ll ever get rid of my Mum tum entirely. Maybe if I went into a calorie deficit, and I don’t want to.

Would a tummy tuck be helpful?

It’s the body you’ve been given . So you just gotta learn to accept the build you have !