To have a "Girl only" kids party.

My Mum banned whole class parties when I was 5 after my brothers friends broke an antique chair at his 7th birthday party. I think the best kind of parties I had after that involved 5 or 6 good friends, a Dad cooked dinner with cake then an outing to the theatre or cinema. I like the craft idea, i would have loved that too when i was little then finish off with the traditional cake and party bags. Party bags were the best bit when i was little.

Stereotyping much. My DD was much more boisterous than DS at that age.

This. My son would love this party far more than a crazy loud soft play party. He’s a sensitive and fairly shy little guy who gets overwhelmed with the craziness.

But if not then yes, a whole girls party is fine.

My daughter would be the little rat running around making noise, my boys - never ever. My 8 year old specifically is insanely gentle has been since birth.

But, I think you aren't unreasonable to only want girls, but you are unreasonable to say who she can and can't invite - let her make the list and then work from there. If there is 8 loud lads and 2 quiet girls THEN you have a word with her, are you sure you want so & so?

Yeah I think invites that don't leave out just one or two children are fine, so unless you now say it's all girls apart from 2 boys then it's fine.

I would however say maybe it depends on the party activity. It does seem a bit stereotypical saying noisy boys. I work in KS1 and really it depends on the class/activity and different personalities! The girls can certainly be as loud, if not louder than the boys, plus my current class has quite a few sensitive boys who would not enjoy a loud environment either.

Your not being unreasonable to do a quieter party with only some of the class if thats what your DD would enjoy. You are being unreasonable to assume that making it all girls will make it quieter. I know plenty of girls who can be just as loud as a lot of boys and plenty of boys who can be quieter than a lot of girls.
Something more organised than soft play with a quieter activity sounds like a good idea for her but I would find out which children she enjoys spending time with an invite some of them regardless of gender

Oh and don’t forget to consider that a bouncy castle makes a lot of noise in itself let alone the noise it encourages from kids!

Reception is an age where the children and also often the parents are forming new relationships.

My DC has just started year 1 and in Reception year every single child who had a party invited the whole class. It would have been seen as seriously weird not to do so.

It helped massively with all the parents getting to know each other.

So far this year the all class parties have continued although I suspect they’ll fade out over the next year or so and become more targeted to friendship groups which is fine.

Let’s be honest, most girls are quieter than most boys, it’s not just about the volume, also the running around, jumping, pushing, etc There is a physical aspect when most boys play that is not there for most girls.

Not sure why people feel like they need to bring up examples of one especially boisterous girl or one especially quiet boy. Just watch a primary school playground for 5min and you’ll without doubt observe boys being loud and physical and girls chatting in small groups.

Yeah that’s just not true at this age for a large portion of kids though if we are being honest. Inviting all girls to a bouncy castle party assuming it will be quiet enough for a noise sensitive child is daft.

I think it's a valid point. Without the 'boisterous' boys being present this will give the girls chance to do all these behaviours instead! Chances are the girls didn't do this was because they couldn't get past the boys, if they aren't there I expect you will get some climbing up the slides and running wild 😂

If you know your child is sensitive then a sit down activity that is adult led might be better. Though remember at that age the attention span is limited!

it pretty much moves to girl/boy only from year 1 upwards so please don’t fret!

My daughter went to loads of girls only parties and the disco / bouncy house ones were crazy loud. Something about a bouncy castle makes everyone very shrieky

My daughter is very boisterous but she has requested girls only at her 5th birthday party - I wasn’t sure about doing it at first but then reasoned it’s not like only one or two kids are being left out (which I would never allow) so I think it’s fine. A couple of my friends have done the same with their DDs.

It is absolutely fine to do a smaller, quieter event. The division doesn't have to be by sex, tell your DD to choose 10-12 people who she most wants to have there.

I think it depends what you are doing were. We have held girls only party before but they were in. The house. A lot have had girls only essential as were doing an activity like a pamper party and the limit was 10 so had 20 of the girls.