Page 2 | To wonder why his Tinder messages have disappeared one day before date?

AmberCatz · 2026-10-17T20:32:36+00:00

I'm due to meet this guy I matched with on Tinder tomorrow night. We moved to whatsapp after about four days and have chatted on there over the last week. We last confirmed final meeting details last night. Well I've just noticed tonight he has disappeared as a Tinder match and all our messages gone too! Would you say something or assume the date is still on? It seems unlikely he would have deleted his profile but at the same time why unmatch me before the date?

SummerAsh · Today 06:36

OrdinaryGirl · Today 05:15

in you position I would probably message saying ‘So sorry - something’s come up and I can’t make our date - apologies for the late notice but hope you have a fab weekend’ and then never message again. Gets you your time back and removes the uncertainty.

Ignore this. Some women are determined to sabotage other women’s romantic lives.

Just send him a normal message, and say you’re looking forward to seeing him. His response (or lack of) will tell you all you need to know.

Idontjetwashthefucker · Today 06:29

OrdinaryGirl · Today 05:15

in you position I would probably message saying ‘So sorry - something’s come up and I can’t make our date - apologies for the late notice but hope you have a fab weekend’ and then never message again. Gets you your time back and removes the uncertainty.

Isn't that cutting off her nose to spite her face, the date may still be on, we have no idea why he's done what he's done

HelmholtzWatson · Today 05:51

Ignore all the terrible advice from the mind readers on here. Just go on the date. If there is no connection, then it's all a moot point anyway.

OrdinaryGirl · Today 05:15

in you position I would probably message saying ‘So sorry - something’s come up and I can’t make our date - apologies for the late notice but hope you have a fab weekend’ and then never message again. Gets you your time back and removes the uncertainty.

Chocolatefreak · Today 04:59

I’d say the date’s probably still on because you’ve made arrangements so recently, but he’s unmatched because he doesn’t want you to see he’s still online, or updated his profile photos 🤷🏼‍♀️

BrickMaker · Today 04:42

I'd say he has unmatched you and the date is probably off.

NoCommentingFromNowOn · Today 02:51

nomas · Today 02:44

How is he on WhatsApp? Quiet or enthusiastically messaging?

plus nice to have the photograph point of reference before date.

hope it’s not a very old picture!

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One word @AmberCatz

Screenshots.

nomas · Today 02:44

AmberCatz · Yesterday 21:46

Thanks @CinnamonBuns67

yeah maybe I'll just send a quick message in the morning but not mention the Tinder thing! I was kind of sad to see all our messages disappear plus nice to have the photograph point of reference before date.

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How is he on WhatsApp? Quiet or enthusiastically messaging?

plus nice to have the photograph point of reference before date.

hope it’s not a very old picture!

NoCommentingFromNowOn · Today 00:45

Whoddathoughtit · Today 00:39

Did you go on the date? X

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It’s Sunday evening I think, OP only posted a few hours ago.

@AmberCatz that can happen when the other person has unmatched you or deleted their account I think.

It’s worth remembering if they unmatch you, you can’t see whether they’re online or not.

Whoddathoughtit · Today 00:39

AmberCatz · Yesterday 21:46

Thanks @CinnamonBuns67

yeah maybe I'll just send a quick message in the morning but not mention the Tinder thing! I was kind of sad to see all our messages disappear plus nice to have the photograph point of reference before date.

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Did you go on the date? X

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AmberCatz · Yesterday 21:46

CinnamonBuns67 · Yesterday 21:41

Just ask. Maybe he's decided that he'd rather see where things go with you so has put the online dating on pause for a bit. A quick "Hey are we still on for tomorrow?" Or if you want to wait until tomorrow "Hey are we still up for (activity) later?" over WhatsApp should do it. He'll either confirm, Say no or not answer (in which case assume it's not)

Thanks @CinnamonBuns67

yeah maybe I'll just send a quick message in the morning but not mention the Tinder thing! I was kind of sad to see all our messages disappear plus nice to have the photograph point of reference before date.

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CinnamonBuns67 · Yesterday 21:41

Just ask. Maybe he's decided that he'd rather see where things go with you so has put the online dating on pause for a bit. A quick "Hey are we still on for tomorrow?" Or if you want to wait until tomorrow "Hey are we still up for (activity) later?" over WhatsApp should do it. He'll either confirm, Say no or not answer (in which case assume it's not)