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To not buy her a tail, so she can be like her friend who ‘is a therian’

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Laura9899 · Yesterday 23:34

My ten year old has a friend who seems nice and has sane sensible normal parents and yet she wears a tail and tells my daughter she’s a therian. I’m not in any way happy with all the furry rubbish and this feels along the same lines. My daughter has now asked to be a cat for Halloween, then asked for a furry tail as part of her costume, and now I think it’s actually so she can join in with her friend. They are only ten so it’s likely just play but there’s no way I’m letting her go out in a tail 🙄.

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bridgetreilly · Yesterday 23:55

I think she can be a cat for Halloween! But the tail, ears and whatever else don’t get added to her wardrobe afterwards. They are fancy dress.

67789d · Yesterday 23:54

Her friend isn't a therian, she is just a silly girl, with daft parents if they are indulging this stupidity

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · Yesterday 23:53

She just wants to dress up for Halloween on my reading!

Doesn’t sound like she’s going to start claiming she is an animal or any such thing from what you say.

Antisocial81 · Yesterday 23:50

It’s the thin end of the wedge. I know a girl who identifies as a boy (mostly, although sometimes she’s a girl and sometimes non binary). Also identifies as a range of different animals and wears tails and masks. And is gay (except when she’s not). Multiple changes of name too. And her mum just goes along with it all, and expects others to indulge her too. It’s mind boggling. I’d nip it in the bud now and bring her back to the real world.

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · Yesterday 23:43

Its a fad. As long as she isnt insisting on using a litter tray just let her get on with it.

Laura9899 · Yesterday 23:42

Must be something on YouTube or somewhere do you think ?!?

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Tiedbutchorestodo · Yesterday 23:39

I’ve literally just had the same conversation with my 10 year old DD today ??!! - I’ve said Halloween, world book day, fancy dress event or playing at a friends house - go ahead. But she’s not wearing a tail in any other public time or place - she’ll be judged by peers and others at her age and I’m not ok with it.

I get self expression but I also get being bullied and I’m not going to just let my DD make herself an easy target. (And it’s just odd!)