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AIBU not warning a woman her shorts had ridden up?

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Ilikesundays · Yesterday 15:28

Went for a coffee this morning. A “mature” lady was sitting with male friend at opposite table. I didn’t take much notice, but, suddenly, looking up across the cafe I couldn’t help seeing that her very short shorts had ridden up, she evidently wasn’t wearing isn’t pants underneath and all or almost all was revealed. I immediately looked away but she stayed put for the duration of my visit. Should I have warned her? I was too embarrassed to say anything. WWYHD?

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pokewomans · Yesterday 17:17

MissFancyDay · Yesterday 16:36

Why do you need answers to these questions? It's so odd.

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So the poster can lecture the OP for being ageist.

I have seen this with a ball but not a flap

Oldsu · Yesterday 17:18

Sorry that has made me think of a joke. An elderly lady was on the deck of a cruise ship in high winds holding on to her hat while her skirts were up round her waist making it clear she wasn't wearing any underwear a Purser came running up and said Madam you must pull your skirt down everyone can see your privates to which she replied young man everything you see down there is 90 years old I just got this hat yesterday

WearyAuldWumman · Yesterday 17:18

Daygloboo · Yesterday 16:10

Oh surely not

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It's possible.

Some years back a couple in their 60s were sitting at a table opposite me in - of all places - the food section of Waverley Market in Edinburgh and behaving in a most peculiar exhibitionist manner. I didn't realise what was happening at first, it was so bizarre...and there was hardly anyone there at the time, unusually.

There would be a loud noise and it wold be one of the couple banging rhythmically on the table and then grinning at the other. Okay. Weird, noisy and annoying.

Then I realised that it was some kind of a signal. (No, I'm not barmy.)

At one point, the bloke grabbed the woman on the chest just after she'd banged on the table. That was when I finished my coffee and left.

Grey-haired, bespectacled, wearing woolly hats and woolly jumpers. I recall wondering where there was some kind of a learning disability, given the banging on the table.

Never saw them again, thank goodness.

Morecoffeeneedef · Yesterday 17:18

MissFancyDay · Yesterday 16:36

Why do you need answers to these questions? It's so odd.

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I am making a point about OP's sneering tone and ageism.

Slumgullion · Yesterday 17:19

MissFancyDay · Yesterday 16:36

Why do you need answers to these questions? It's so odd.

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Well, the OP clearly thought they were relevant.

Maybe mature, or ‘mature’ labia are extra-horrifying?

Imdunfer · Yesterday 17:19

Women with a big belly who wear swimsuits without legs on them very often show everything as their suit gapes around the leg when they walk up or down the stairs into the pool and unfortunately that also puts them right at eye height!

Morecoffeeneedef · Yesterday 17:20

Ilikesundays · Yesterday 16:15

She was at the other end of the cafe and sitting with her legs wide apart. I didn’t mean to look at her at all but the unfortunate sight caught my eye for less than a second. I wish it hadn’t.

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Maybe best try to forget it then, rather encouraging a load of strangers to discuss it.

Flannelfeet · Yesterday 17:31

Did she order a flapjack with her coffee?

WinWhenTheyreSinging · Yesterday 17:33

LackingBrainPower · Yesterday 17:06

MN approved response ofc

I CAN SEE YOUR MINGE

what was that posters name, can anyone remember

I still laugh about that post … 🤣

AnnesPuffedSleeves · Yesterday 17:34

Flannelfeet · Yesterday 17:31

Did she order a flapjack with her coffee?

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I’m totally confused how you can see anything, especially at a distance. Were the shorts baggy?

bigboykitty · Yesterday 17:34

JahanaraBegum · Yesterday 16:06

I was at yoga and the man in front was wearing loose shorts with no underwear. I could see up the shorts leg when we were doing things on all-fours and saw all his nethers. I didnt say anything!

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This is a well known, intentional perving technique and should be reported to the yoga teacher/sports centre.

Westfacing · Yesterday 17:39

If they were very short shorts there is no way she didn't feel that they had risen even higher, so she must have known and not cared

Honestly, mature women these days - can't take them anywhere!

AutumnLover1999 · Yesterday 17:41

Sidebeforeself · Yesterday 16:16

As it was in a cafe, are you sure she just hadn’t dropped some thinly sliced ham in her lap? 😁

You cow! I'm in a public place on my own,people around and I snorted 😤😂😂😂😂😂

Flannelfeet · Yesterday 17:41

AnnesPuffedSleeves · Yesterday 17:34

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I’m totally confused how you can see anything, especially at a distance. Were the shorts baggy?

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They must of been eh?! I remember years ago (esrly 90s) when I was at high school and mum and dad were at work when we were coming home, we had to go to the neighbours house to get the key to get in, one day my brother and I went to get it and he must of been sleeping, he came to the door in boxers with the hole gaping and we both seen the lot 😱🤢🤮 his name was auld wullie. We used to say "we seen wullies wullie" after that unfortunate sight.

PrincessHoneysuckle · Yesterday 17:42

Campanulaceae · Yesterday 16:16

Don't just say it, shout it from across the café 🤣

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CalmForCats · Yesterday 17:43

Is there a chance she could have dementia and struggle with dressing etc?

Sesma · Yesterday 17:44

Some cafes are quite small, I doubt it was one like M&S size so you would easily see. Sound deliberate if legs were wide open, displaying

CharlottePotatoes · Yesterday 17:47

Campanulaceae · Yesterday 16:16

Don't just say it, shout it from across the café 🤣

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Does your local caf not have a flaps klaxon?!

NewGoldFox · Yesterday 17:48

Morecoffeeneedef · Yesterday 17:20

Maybe best try to forget it then, rather encouraging a load of strangers to discuss it.

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Think it is the shorts creep again…

Lifelover16 · Yesterday 17:49

Would put me off my flapjack but I wouldn’t say anything

FeliciaFancybottom · Yesterday 17:49

How could you see under the table?
Were her labia in military uniform?
Are you the tuppence troll?

B1anche · Yesterday 17:49

CalmForCats · Yesterday 17:43

Is there a chance she could have dementia and struggle with dressing etc?

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This is such a standard MN response as soon as a mature woman is mentioned.

CharlottePotatoes · Yesterday 17:50

Flannelfeet · Yesterday 17:41

They must of been eh?! I remember years ago (esrly 90s) when I was at high school and mum and dad were at work when we were coming home, we had to go to the neighbours house to get the key to get in, one day my brother and I went to get it and he must of been sleeping, he came to the door in boxers with the hole gaping and we both seen the lot 😱🤢🤮 his name was auld wullie. We used to say "we seen wullies wullie" after that unfortunate sight.

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Oh love I think he was exposing himself :(

FeliciaFancybottom · Yesterday 17:50

B1anche · Yesterday 17:49

This is such a standard MN response as soon as a mature woman is mentioned.

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I did have a reply to that post but I've forgotten what it was!

HideousKinky · Yesterday 17:52

PMSL at many of the responses here 😂

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