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AIBU not warning a woman her shorts had ridden up?

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Ilikesundays · Yesterday 15:28

Went for a coffee this morning. A “mature” lady was sitting with male friend at opposite table. I didn’t take much notice, but, suddenly, looking up across the cafe I couldn’t help seeing that her very short shorts had ridden up, she evidently wasn’t wearing isn’t pants underneath and all or almost all was revealed. I immediately looked away but she stayed put for the duration of my visit. Should I have warned her? I was too embarrassed to say anything. WWYHD?

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WhatDoRacoonsSay · Yesterday 16:24

Sidebeforeself · Yesterday 16:16

As it was in a cafe, are you sure she just hadn’t dropped some thinly sliced ham in her lap? 😁

I've just done a snort laugh!

Theotheron · Yesterday 16:24

PrincessHoneysuckle · Yesterday 16:11

Yeah you cant exactly say "excuse me love your flaps are out" can you? .Mortifying for her if it wasnt deliberate.

Flaps down, dip in the briney what!

SeptemberRains · Yesterday 16:25

🤔

WhatDoRacoonsSay · Yesterday 16:26

B1anche · Yesterday 16:18

Couldn't you have done some sort of miming/sign language? Like when you see a friend with a crumb on their lip?

How exactly would that go, we need a diagram

WouldYouLikeAnyToast · Yesterday 16:28

Ilikesundays · Yesterday 15:57

If you can visualise very tight pants, I’m afraid I could see her labia majors on one side. Sorry.

Course you could 😂
Who the heck looks that closely lol

SeptemberRains · Yesterday 16:29

This is a new variation on a theme by a poster whose threads are regularly removed by mn ..

B1anche · Yesterday 16:29

WhatDoRacoonsSay · Yesterday 16:26

How exactly would that go, we need a diagram

I don't know, use your imagination. Just get her attention by waving your hand and then mime poking your protruding flap back in your shorts.

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · Yesterday 16:31

WhatDoRacoonsSay · Yesterday 16:26

How exactly would that go, we need a diagram

I speak Makaton and I’ve got nothing.

Maybe make a V shape and mimic flapping?

CandyCrushLevel14809 · Yesterday 16:31

someone sitting legs apart showing their genitalia is either fully aware and enjoying it or completely unaware due to additional needs. I’d assume the person with them is aware.

IglesiasPiggl · Yesterday 16:32

The only thing like that I would ever tell them about us skirt tucked into knickers at the back. Nothing else though!

dontforgettofloss · Yesterday 16:35

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · Yesterday 16:31

I speak Makaton and I’ve got nothing.

Maybe make a V shape and mimic flapping?

😂

MissFancyDay · Yesterday 16:36

Morecoffeeneedef · Yesterday 15:57

How is a 'mature' lady different from a mature lady, and how is her age relevant?

Why do you need answers to these questions? It's so odd.

Whoevenareyou · Yesterday 16:39

I’m envious your eyesight is so good that you can see that much detail at the other end of a cafe!

Spiderx · Yesterday 16:42

Ilikesundays · Yesterday 15:28

Went for a coffee this morning. A “mature” lady was sitting with male friend at opposite table. I didn’t take much notice, but, suddenly, looking up across the cafe I couldn’t help seeing that her very short shorts had ridden up, she evidently wasn’t wearing isn’t pants underneath and all or almost all was revealed. I immediately looked away but she stayed put for the duration of my visit. Should I have warned her? I was too embarrassed to say anything. WWYHD?

It's a difficult one . Not the same but I was sitting a few rows behind a woman on a bus a while back and saw a daddy long legs land on her head . She didn't notice but then the critter decided it would crawl inside her permed nest of hair...I didn't know if I should tell her or not . Maybe if it had been a wasp or suchlike ?Took the cowards way out and said nowt...!

Chocaholic1216 · Yesterday 16:45

Why is everyone thinking the OP is making this up?! I once saw a woman on holiday who was wearing very short denim shorts but they were baggy on her as she had skinny thighs. When she was sitting on a bench I could see a bit of her flap showing

WhatDoRacoonsSay · Yesterday 16:45

TheLightSideOfTheMoon · Yesterday 16:31

I speak Makaton and I’ve got nothing.

Maybe make a V shape and mimic flapping?

😂

Thecatspantaloons · Yesterday 16:47

Flap attack jokes aside, I think the answer is a resounding not your circus, not your clowns.

Gettingbysomehow · Yesterday 16:50

There is no way Id say anything. Ill bet she knew exactly what she was doing. Not something Id want to see over coffee and cake tbh.

VoltaireMittyDream · Yesterday 16:53

B1anche · Yesterday 16:18

Couldn't you have done some sort of miming/sign language? Like when you see a friend with a crumb on their lip?

🤣

EmeraldShamrock000 · Yesterday 16:55

I’m sure she could feel her skin against the chair. Maybe that’s her style. I wouldn’t have said anything.

Disturbia81 · Yesterday 16:57

What has her age got to do with it?

LackingBrainPower · Yesterday 17:06

MN approved response ofc

I CAN SEE YOUR MINGE

what was that posters name, can anyone remember

KarminaBurana · Yesterday 17:08

Whoevenareyou · Yesterday 16:39

I’m envious your eyesight is so good that you can see that much detail at the other end of a cafe!

Indeed. Quite something. The "mature" comment as well 🙄

Obimumkinobi · Yesterday 17:10

Thecatspantaloons · Yesterday 16:47

Flap attack jokes aside, I think the answer is a resounding not your circus, not your clowns.

Definitely needs a Ringmaster though

Morecoffeeneedef · Yesterday 17:16

CandyCrushLevel14809 · Yesterday 16:31

someone sitting legs apart showing their genitalia is either fully aware and enjoying it or completely unaware due to additional needs. I’d assume the person with them is aware.

Agreed. What else could it be. Either way, you don't point it out.