AIBU to find YABU and YANBU poll hijacking on threads annoying

MNdrama · 2026-09-26T12:07:52+00:00

Maybe hijacking isnt the best word, but these supposed "poll results" are honestly delusional when people think they're somehow backing up their original statement by directing the narrative to begin with In other words, AIBU to think it's annoying how people effectively hijack these threads by initially suggesting their own YABU/YANBA opinions?

Darragon · Yesterday 13:10

I don’t understand.

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MNdrama · Yesterday 13:16

Darragon · Yesterday 13:10

I don’t understand.

Sure. Might have not worded it very well, and i know it's only mumsnet, but i find it surprisingly stressful when someone posts something on AIBU and then you have to think about if you're supporting them or not

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theneighbourgotmycake · Yesterday 13:18

MNdrama · Yesterday 13:16

Sure. Might have not worded it very well, and i know it's only mumsnet, but i find it surprisingly stressful when someone posts something on AIBU and then you have to think about if you're supporting them or not

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that sounds like a you problem...

They're not highjacking the thread, you don't seem to agree with the poll results.

You know voting is not mandatory? You can read and even comment without even looking at the poll

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MNdrama · Yesterday 13:22

Just to clarify. I know it's only mumsnet, but it can just be a little stressful when AIBU used to be so simple and then people are putting things in their description that make it complicated

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Blackandyellow65 · Yesterday 13:25

The only thing I’m finding complicated or confusing so far is your thread and post

McSpoot · Yesterday 13:28

I think your issue is when people provide definitions for YABU and YANBU when they start threads (but I may not be understanding your posts).

I completely disagree with you (if I'm correct on your comments). The problem is when people DON'T explain what they mean by YABU versus YANBU. When there isn't clarification, people may not be using the options the same way and the results are useless.

5128gap · Yesterday 13:28

I never bother with the polls. If I've got an opinion on a thread I comment. It's rarely as straightforward as a binary YABU or YANBU anyway.

Blackandyellow65 · Yesterday 13:28

After reading your thread for the 3rd time I think I’m getting my head around what you’re trying to say. And I disagree. I find a lot of the polls go the complete opposite of the ops intention. And the example you’ve used is a poor one as the op has stated her opinion, yet the polls divided, which she’s pointed out. Unless this is even more complicated than I first thought and I’ve got your thread completely wrong

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MNdrama · Yesterday 13:40

theneighbourgotmycake · Yesterday 13:18

that sounds like a you problem...

They're not highjacking the thread, you don't seem to agree with the poll results.

You know voting is not mandatory? You can read and even comment without even looking at the poll

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This has nothing to do with the poll results themselves. Just a paradox regarding the simple idea of voting in the poll, but then having the complication of people suggesting their own narrative

And I wouldn't have mentioned it until that person in that screenshot thought it was somehow backing up their statement

I know I'm rambling, but there's a point in their somewhere

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Releasemeplease · Yesterday 13:44

On some threads it's impossible to know which way to vote because the OP doesn't make it clear what they are asking posters to vote on.
The example you show is actually helpful because there is no dubeity about the opinion the options represent

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MNdrama · Yesterday 13:57

McSpoot · Yesterday 13:28

I think your issue is when people provide definitions for YABU and YANBU when they start threads (but I may not be understanding your posts).

I completely disagree with you (if I'm correct on your comments). The problem is when people DON'T explain what they mean by YABU versus YANBU. When there isn't clarification, people may not be using the options the same way and the results are useless.

Yes, you definitely understood the original post. It's annoying that people provide this initial definition, and then you don't know if you're agreeing with them or not. Pretty much goes against the whole concept of AIBU

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ColdAsAWitches · Yesterday 14:03

MNdrama · Yesterday 13:16

Sure. Might have not worded it very well, and i know it's only mumsnet, but i find it surprisingly stressful when someone posts something on AIBU and then you have to think about if you're supporting them or not

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You find it stressful when a meaningless poll on mumsnet makes you think? It's definitely a You issue. Nobody should find scrolling through AIBU stressful.

SoRestedHeByTheTumTumTree · Yesterday 14:08

I never see any polls on MN threads by choice.

I think it must have been something I changed in my settings?

theneighbourgotmycake · Yesterday 14:09

MNdrama · Yesterday 13:57

Yes, you definitely understood the original post. It's annoying that people provide this initial definition, and then you don't know if you're agreeing with them or not. Pretty much goes against the whole concept of AIBU

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Your thread is a little bit confusing to be honest, can't you see the irony here 😂

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MNdrama · Yesterday 14:11

Releasemeplease · Yesterday 13:44

On some threads it's impossible to know which way to vote because the OP doesn't make it clear what they are asking posters to vote on.
The example you show is actually helpful because there is no dubeity about the opinion the options represent

I appreciate you saying it's helpful, but my point is that the OP shouldn't be providing options in the first place. It's an AIBU VS AINBU thread. There shouldn't be other options

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MNdrama · Yesterday 14:21

ColdAsAWitches · Yesterday 14:03

You find it stressful when a meaningless poll on mumsnet makes you think? It's definitely a You issue. Nobody should find scrolling through AIBU stressful.

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Obviously not. When did I suggest scrolling through AIBU is stressful?

I was saying that it's stressful when there's a simple x/y poll and the OP makes it more complicated by adding other options

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MNdrama · Yesterday 14:23

theneighbourgotmycake · Yesterday 14:09

Your thread is a little bit confusing to be honest, can't you see the irony here 😂

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Definitely 🙃

Should've probably posted this tomorrow when I had better brain capacity

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FrodoBiggins · Yesterday 14:26

This is such a non-issue that you really shouldn't be "stressed" about it or need "brain capacity" to post about it. I presume you have a lot going on, it might be an idea to take a break from forums and do something nice/ relaxing for your mental health.

ClarasSisters · Yesterday 14:30

MNdrama · Yesterday 13:16

Sure. Might have not worded it very well, and i know it's only mumsnet, but i find it surprisingly stressful when someone posts something on AIBU and then you have to think about if you're supporting them or not

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I don't think AIBU is the board for you then love.

McSpoot · Yesterday 14:58

MNdrama · Yesterday 13:57

Yes, you definitely understood the original post. It's annoying that people provide this initial definition, and then you don't know if you're agreeing with them or not. Pretty much goes against the whole concept of AIBU

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No, it is the opposite. If they don't provide the initial definition, that's when you don't know if you agree with them or not since you don't know which way is which.