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Friend's dog bit a child, whose fault?

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karrabee · Yesterday 09:43

Dog was on a lead, probably 1.5 metres ahead. Family of 2 adults and 2 children walking past in opposite direction. Children probably 4 and 8? As they walked past the younger girl darted towards the dog and put her hand on his head (flat palm almost like she was hitting him but I think she was trying to pat him on the head) and he nipped her. We were passing each other on a path in a park so were quite close already. Had zero time to do anything as from her walking past to touching him happened in about 1.5 seconds. We had no interaction with the other family prior to this. Dog has never bitten before, we think he just got a fright from the girl, but the family went mad and started threatening to call the police saying we have a dangerous dog (he's am old staffy who has never bitten once and we were so shocked that he even nipped her as he is extremely gentle!). Family followed us round the park and kept shouting 'we know where you live, police are going to be well aware of you'. The girl wasn't injured, skin wasn't broken, but she was obviously scared. Surely this is the fault of the family for not teaching their children not to touch dogs? I don't have a dog so haven't really had to think about it before, but my son knows not to touch dogs without confirming with the owner that they're friendly. It is drilled into him!

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Granville82 · Today 06:57

It's not a bite if it didn't break the skin

Noodles1234 · Today 06:41

I would say dog owner at fault, 1.5M too long for a path with oncoming people, also peoples estimations are generally in their favour so I’d guess it was longer than this. A dog with no muzzle should be able to accept people, children and adults sometimes will pat a dog and if a dog bit my dc I would be upset. Best for your friend to muzzle dog now, sometimes as dogs get old they get cranky.

I do tell my dc to ask before stroking a strange dog, but either way a pet in public should always be safe so question.

maxslice · Today 03:22

The child’s parents should teach them to ALWAYS ask if it’s okay to pet a dog. If the answer is yes, the child should offer their open palm for the dog sniff before petting the dog. My children knew this by the time they were 4 even though we didn’t own a dog. I understand that the child and parents were shocked, but as OP said, it was a warning nip, not full on chomping on her hand drawing blood and crushing bones.

AutumnClouds · Today 00:03

beaglescurleduplikebagels · Yesterday 15:21

Maybe so, but either way it's the dog owner (and the dog) who will potentially pay the price. A dog control order at best, euthanasia at worst.

In the case where a child has serious injuries from a dog bite you think that ultimately it’s the dog and owner ‘paying the price’?

spaghettiandicecream · Yesterday 23:37

If a dog bites a human it should be put to sleep. It’s not acceptable for a trained animal to bite a human, especially a child. I agree child shouldn’t have touched dog but, dog owner should be in control of dog in all situations, as a responsible owner. The owner was not paying attention this time.
Child and its parents - not great behaviour but it’s a child/human being
Dog owner- not paying attention - not acceptable when around small children
Dog (on lead) - bit small child - completely unacceptable
Too many dog owners think their dogs are humans when they’re not. Dogs are not trained and are spoiled. I have always had dogs, but it’s getting out of hand with lazy dog owners.

WorkingMum90 · Yesterday 23:30

This dog should be properly controlled and/or muzzled on walks. Dog owners are forever telling me & my kids that their dogs are friendly and please pet them. Whilst we don't, most kids do, and it's now the norm to see kids round here petting dogs they don't know. If a dog isn't happy with that the owner needs to put him on a shorter leash or have him wear a muzzle on public paths because other dog owners are encouraging this behaviour in kids and your dog can't react like that & bite them.

Mischance · Yesterday 23:20

Our lives are ruled by dogs now. It is so depressing.

QuizNight · Yesterday 23:16

Both parties are at fault. Unfortunately, the dog now requires a muzzle on all walks. I know it’s upsetting, especially as it seems like it was partly the other party’s fault, but once a dog bites once it’s what must be done. They can now no longer truthfully say their dog has never bitten anyone, and once that’s the case, the dog needs to be acknowledged as a biter and precautions need to be put in place going forward.

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · Yesterday 23:15

ilovesushi · Yesterday 17:49

There's a nip and a bite and this was a nip. Girl needs to learn some sense around animals and her parents need to learn some manners.

And OP’s friend needs to learn how to walk her dog on a short lead

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · Yesterday 23:08

beaglescurleduplikebagels · Yesterday 15:41

Except that, legally speaking, that isn't true. As a dog owner and breeder, you should know that.

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MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · Yesterday 23:05

QueenietheGreat · Yesterday 15:33

@karrabee
It's not the dog
It's the child's
Be interesting to see the parents reaction if next time she stuck her hand in a fire
To me, its the same difference

But not to the law

WiddlinDiddlin · Yesterday 22:53

Ylvamoon · Yesterday 15:33

According to you, it's guilty until proofen otherwise.

Having had countless children touch & pat my dogs in passing it's a horrendous law and hopefully won't be upheld under reasonable.

Other people's children are definitely not my responsibility.

Not 'according to me' at all. According to the law, passed to me by dog law specialist solicitor, Trevor Cooper at several dog law seminars.

It isn't fair and I've said that - but ultimately the dog owner is responsible for protecting their dog from other people, other peoples kids... AND for preventing their dog from harming anyone - the unfair part is, that counts EVEN if the other person chooses to do something stupid, cruel, dangerous... the dog owner still runs the risk of legal action against them, particularly if there is no photographic, video or reliable witness accounts of the incident.

Now hopefully should anything go as far as court, the courts would be reasonable, see sense, see that a dog on a lead was approached by a stranger, see that the owner is responsible and had no reason to believe their dog was a particular risk in that situation.. but that isn't a guarantee. You could get a dog hating judge, you could be dealt with by police officers who are scared of or really dislike dogs.

Best to know how the law works and avoid falling foul of it than put your dog at risk!

Nearly50omg · Yesterday 22:34

karrabee · Yesterday 10:56

Where did the narrow bit come from? The path is large, I'd say about 4 metres wide at least. It's a wide path that goes round the outside of the whole park. People cycle and walk around it. Thanks for all responses!

4 metres wide path with 2 sets of people walking past each other IS narrow!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · Yesterday 22:26

I think the parents are more at fault as they shouldn’t have let their child go up to an unknown dog like that.

But I also think an extendable lead and the dog 1.5 m in front is too far in front on a pavement with pedestrians. Seeing the family approach was a time to bring your dog closer to you even if you had been using the extendable lead beforehand.

You just never know - as a pp has said, children and dogs are an unpredictable mix.

QuietComet · Yesterday 22:23

dustabsorber · Yesterday 18:37

All dogs above a certain size need muzzling in public. I would rather a 1000 muzzled dogs than 1 kid losing fingers.

Muzzling can be very distressing for dogs and make their behaviour worse, a blanket approach is completely unnecessary.

There are consequences for running up to strange dogs, which is why it is better to teach people not to do that. Punishing a dog by muzzling them because of someone else's poor behaviour is awful.

SaySomethingMan · Yesterday 22:19

It’s bitten now so could do it again. Having yoir dog so far ahead that you can’t react to it is irresponsible imo

ThatUmberCritic · Yesterday 22:02

Skin wasn’t broken? Not really a bite then, just a warning.

Ireallywantadoughnut36 · Yesterday 21:40

People are idiots. If that had happened to my child I'd have said "well you've learnt a lesson, don't pat strange dogs without asking". If it had been my dog, I'd have apologised but added in "he doesn't like being touched by strangers and wasn't expecting it". We've a lovely lab, very good with kids but he is over enthusiastic and large, I always say no to requests for petting him from kids under 8. He is so large he can accidently knock them or scare them or try and lick them. If people don't take heed of that warning, absolutely not my problem. A genuinely "dangerous dog" is a dog who can do serious damage without provocation - this dog gave a warning nip when touched inappropriately without warning, he's not a snarling beast out lunging at people and he was on a lead. Dogs are animals and therefore unpredictable, in theory they can all be dangerous and as a result you should respect them and listen to their owners who know them, not randomly slap them on their heads. Same goes for horses being "bomb proof" and then people moaning they bolted when a fire alarm went off or a bird flew at their faces - animals are animals, not robots and that means there's always risk involved.

Mardiesmum · Yesterday 21:18

It's 50/50

Parents should make sure their children don't approach dogs without permission.

Dogs should be on a short lead.

Somewherenorthofhere · Yesterday 21:17

It is no suprise that the siscourse has, in some cases become hysterical.

Nipping = warning. It leaves no marks or injury and is a "leave me alone" signal

Biting - what it says on the tin.

Two different behaviours.

A dog nipping or someone does not automatically mean an offence has been committed, and there is no rule that every dog that has nipped must be muzzled in public.

The Dangerous Dogs Act requires the legal test for a dog being “dangerously out of control” to be met; the circumstances matter. A dog reacting defensively to a child nanhandling it is not legally equivalent to an unprovoked attack.

An actual bite can be serious, but “it touched someone with its teeth, therefore instant criminal offence” is not how the law works. The CPS is very clear in this regard. It is case by case basis where all circumstances leading up to and during the event are taken into account. You can check their website. It's all there, make sure you read carefully and see what it actually says, not what you want it to say.

Clocking out of the thread now as I can see it descending into hysteria 🙄

ForNewHedgehog · Yesterday 21:15

50/50 on the adults here. Children and dogs are unpredictable it’s up to the adults in the situation to manage it safely and both sides have responsibility here. FYI if the dog is elderly I would also get it checked at the vet to make sure it’s seeing and hearing ok and in general good health because if this is unusual behaviour for the dog something could be going on health wise.

imavet · Yesterday 20:31

Balloonhearts · Yesterday 20:23

Nobody is going to destroy a dog because you weren't supervising your child properly. Any dog might snap when assaulted. The child literally banged it on the head. What would your reflex be if I ran up to you and randomly smacked you in the face?

If you don't want your child hurt, it's your job to keep them out of dangerous situations. Can't blame others for your own ineptitude.

Legally speaking there is now mandatory reporting of dog bites and the police are a lot more proactive since the high number of dog bites that happened in lockdown and the XL bully deaths.

I would not be so dismissive. the police take all incidents extremely seriously and whilst this incident would not meet the threshold for euthanasia it is likely a muzzle in all public spaces would mandated and a record would be kept about any future incidents. The owner has to be very proactive now.

Balloonhearts · Yesterday 20:23

GoodLife26 · Yesterday 20:04

The dog should have been on a much shorter lead if the space was that tight you couldn’t pass at a reasonable space. If I was the kid’s parents I’d be furious too. I’d have called the police then and there and be pushing to get the dog destroyed. There are too many aggressive and untrained dogs out there.

Nobody is going to destroy a dog because you weren't supervising your child properly. Any dog might snap when assaulted. The child literally banged it on the head. What would your reflex be if I ran up to you and randomly smacked you in the face?

If you don't want your child hurt, it's your job to keep them out of dangerous situations. Can't blame others for your own ineptitude.

imavet · Yesterday 20:12

byedriver · Yesterday 09:56

Two things. Dog walker needs to be more proactive around keeping dog away from oncoming children (as already suggested keep to side on short leash). And secondly, this dog now needs to be muzzled when out. The outside world is unpredictable. If a dog is reactive when startled it's a problem, especially a dog with a powerful jaw like a staffy.

very sensible advice here. Some leads are utterly ridiculous - extendable and long lines are totally unsuitable. I’ll just add if this is genuinely a new and surprising before have her checked at the vet, it’s quite possible that dental or other pain in affecting behaviour and this is common in older dogs.

Ithoughtitwouldbebetter · Yesterday 20:07

@SoVeryVeryBored that works if he is next to me and walking sedately and I am not making sure a different child isn’t drowning or something! If he’s running ahead or has briefly lingered behind or if I glance the opposite way and a dog approaches us or he sees an exceptionally appealing one he isn’t guaranteed not to pet it. I am on him and I do remind him he must check with the owner but children do things on impulse and I do think it is wise to remember that, not just where dogs are concerned either. He has got better, there was a stage where I thought he needed a lead. And treats, and poo bags, and a crate. I do often think he has a lot in common with your average golden retriever, he even looks a bit like one with wavy blonde hair Smile