To keep my three nephews up all night?

Nice friend you are.

At that age it’s not the day after the late night - it’s the day after that and it’s bloody savage

have fun but be aware that such late nights can take 2-3 days for little ones to recover from and it’s brutal

I really don't understand this.

Back in the day my kids had massive sleepovers with their grandparents, along with their similar aged cousins (my in laws were spectacular grandparents). They must have been riotous, but there was no downside for me afterwards. They were fine.

I usually have my DGDs all day after a sleepover and they're good as gold. They pile into my bed in the morning and we don't get out of it until we have to! But even if we get up at normal time, they're fine.

I did, after he broke several promises.

I’d say to enjoy fucking up their routine and making them miserable when letting them stay up an hour later would have the same excitement for a 6 year old, but I doubt they have a routine if their parents don’t give a shit either. Poor kids.

@Upfiner have you actually asked or been told that it didnt effect them though? Because I would silently be annoyed but at the end of the day wouldnt say anything because obviously the person has done me a favour

I’ve got 3 kids and never found that. If they were tired the next day, they’d just have an early night that night.

@Upfiner yes lovely memories to make when you are actually old enough to remember making them 🤣🤣🤣

Do you also apply this logic when booking a holiday? No need to take your toddler with you as they won't remember it?
Or do you book child-friendly holidays in a hope that they have a good time in the moment?
I would assume the latter. So what's the difference?

Kin el, there’s some weird comments on this - why are people swearing at @Upfiner ?? I’m a mum to a just turned two year old and while I wouldn’t want this for my own, I can defo appreciate your style at the same time! 😂 I hope the evening is a fun one for you and the boys

My NDNs do this set up when they have visitors at the weekend....the 5yo stays up through the night with the adults socialising (been doing this since she was 2yo). She's usually hysterical crying from around 12 midnight onwards. Personally I think it's cruel. Young children who have been out all day at nursery or school shouldn't be expected to stay up all night just so the caregivers can have a "long lie".

Try doing what's in the best interests of the kids first and foremost. No one is saying don't let them have a bit of ice cream or pizza or watch a movie etc. Just all in moderation. As other PPs have pointed out, young children need guidance to fall asleep. They rely on adults to support them to do this at these young ages.

People are swearing at Upfiner because she dares to have an opinion about kids and SHE'S NOT A MOTHER!

Keeping kids up late into the night is done not for the children and their best interests....it's purely for the adults.

The NDNs also farm the 5yo and three older DC off to relatives as well. Obviously very relaxed about it all. Anything as long as they get their long lies on a weekend...then there's others like myself who have sports matches for the DC at weekends. So getting up early doesn't marry with going out and drinking. Getting rat faced is the last thing I am interested in tbh. Would rather have a weekend spent with the DC than farming them all out. Each to their own.

I did all the getting p*shed stuff years ago as a student.
I go out during the school day for lunch or brunch with DH. That's all that I need if I want to do something independent of the DC or need a break.

My rules for babysitters is just keep them safe - if they sleep that’s a bonus. But in terms of whether it works out well…it just depends on the kids. A late night doesn’t have much knock on effect on mine later in the week but it does on others I know. And the parents aren’t worried about that. And a late night and treats would be fine with my DD - she’d love it and we’d have fun. My DS would just totally lose his shit - get overtired and go totally manic for about 3 hours - not enjoyable for him, me or his sister. But either way you will all survive! Enjoy

and what a nice sister taking 3 kids for the night!!!

You sound like a lovely auntie. Have a good night!

I have sports matches every weekend with my kids. We’ve got to be an hour away for a hockey tournament by 9am tomorrow, which my two eldest are both playing in. We’ll be at the side of a football pitch on Sunday too.
That doesn’t stop us sometimes having a night away while their loving family care for them/spend time with them though.

If you think that this is a good idea and argue with everyone who says different why not just to do it, the way this is going seems really intense and coming across as odd

I cant put my finger on it but the it sort of feels like you being 'right' is the most important thing so not sure the point of all this