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To feel everything I do is wrong?

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sunisntshining · 24/09/2026 18:53

I usually put the washing on the line but as Dh was home today, nope I was doing it wrong and after a lot of tutting he did it his way and when I went to bring it in he snatched the washing basket off me so he could do it “properly”

I am a qualified hairdresser but no he rather take them to a “proper” hair dressers ever thought on the occasion I have cut their hair he has been impressed and expects me to cut his hair every week.
I set boundaries for the kids regarding phone time and other devices but he overrides it and if I say they need a shower he will say, you can have one tomorrow.
If I override him by accident he makes a big deal but thinks nothing of overriding me.

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glendabrownlow · 24/09/2026 18:55

How many children do you have OP and what are their ages? Do you go to work? Do you want to stay in your marriage?

WhatNoRaisins · 24/09/2026 18:55

Have you tried telling him how this behaviour makes you feel?

HelpfulHelena · 24/09/2026 18:56

What a horrible man.

SerendipityCat · 24/09/2026 18:56

Going on what you've told us so far, op, he's a massive twat. Now, what are you going to do about it?

Smallpoxy · 24/09/2026 18:57

You need couple's councelling. Good luck.

AllTheWatersTurnedToClouds · 24/09/2026 18:58

Doesn't like you much, does he?

sunisntshining · 24/09/2026 18:59

I have 3 kids 1, 8, 10 I am a full time carer to middle child who he losss his temper with.

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Dryshampoofordays · 24/09/2026 19:04

We can all give you validation that he sounds like a knob. But you already know that. What do you think you need to do to change the situation you’re in? Talk to him? Counselling? De-centering him? LTB?

sunisntshining · 24/09/2026 19:08

WhatNoRaisins · 24/09/2026 18:55

Have you tried telling him how this behaviour makes you feel?

Yea and he denies it.

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sunisntshining · 24/09/2026 19:15

He is so passive aggressive, he mumbles criticism under his breath in the kitchen when I am just in the lounge next door so I can’t quite hear and will deny it.

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Sparrowsandbudgies · 24/09/2026 19:17

Why are you with him? He’s sucking the life out of you.

PinkyFlamingo · 24/09/2026 19:17

sunisntshining · 24/09/2026 19:15

He is so passive aggressive, he mumbles criticism under his breath in the kitchen when I am just in the lounge next door so I can’t quite hear and will deny it.

So why are you putting up with this?

WhatNoRaisins · 24/09/2026 19:22

Do you feel like you have no option but to stay until the kids are older?

thistimelastweek · 24/09/2026 19:23

He's an arse.
But just out of interest, how can you bring washing in the wrong way?
I know some people - saddos - have views about how it should be hung out but I've never met anyone with views on how it should be brought in.

sunisntshining · 24/09/2026 19:26

WhatNoRaisins · 24/09/2026 19:22

Do you feel like you have no option but to stay until the kids are older?

No I feel like we like we have a joint tenancy which is social housing and he won’t leave unless he’s in a box and I can’t either so this is my life.

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Abstaining · 24/09/2026 21:43

Oh, you can’t live like that. He’s horrible.

I’m surprised you went on to have a third child with him tbh.

If you start divorce proceedings, he’ll likely leave.

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