Like him but struggling with this physical feature that apparently all men have of a certain age?

A bum made big through exercise when combined with a small waist and slim or athletic physique is fashionable now.

A fat arse wasn’t in then or now. Sadly because they’re far more comfy to have.

His shapely arse was one of the selling points of DH to me…he’s 59 and it’s still shapely….

Why is it shallow to want to be attracted to the man you'll be having sex with? Men are actually rarely encouraged to give women they're not attracted to, a 'chance' by other men, or called shallow for having particular traits they're attracted/unattracted to.

😂😂😂

She said she is attracted to him. So it shouldn't matter. None of us a perfect looking.

Well that's the whole raison d'etre of AIBU sunk then

Yes I'm not keen on flat bums or skinny legs. Also am not attracted to men with big women's bottoms and moobs either. DH is hardly Charles Atlas but has very solid legs and a bottom, still at 55.

You can stop seeing him for any reason you want.

(But YABVVU for your crappy click bait title, eurgh)

It really doesn’t. That you think it does is indivative of the problem really…

Yeah yeah there's no need to be uppity about it.
I am very much aware of his highly regarded musicianship and have seen him in concert.

No idea why you feel the need to be all sarcastic and schoolmarmish about it as if he's being objectified or something.

The reason I'm asking is because I've never really given his ass much thought.

True. I actually think that it is sometimes women who do other women down not men.

Good grief, if she doesn't fancy him she should not be shamed into fancying him.

It's obviously significant turn-off or she wouldn't be asking here.

Quite. Bruce's arse wouldn't have been mentioned as an aside in this thread if he wasn't on most people's radar by virtue of being a phenomenal song writer, musician and performer. The comments were in no way objectifying.

I just don't get why anybody is giving his arse any thought at all, though. How often do you think about Kylie's spleen; or Ben Shepherd's elbows; or Andy Burnham's instep?! It kind of is objectifying to be discussing a random body part belonging to somebody who is famous for his music... not even his face, hairstyle or whatever, but a body part that is hidden by his clothes.

It's not even like he's ever going to be in the running to become the partner of anybody on this thread, and they're considering whether they fancy him enough to be an acceptable potential contender!

It's normal for some people and I'm guessing it might be more normal if you've lost a lot of weight. But you either fancy him and his physique or you don't. But how would you like it if he dissected your looks and said 'I like @Numppp except she's got small boobs or a fat arse'. Not very nice is it?!

Ah. Hank Hill and his Diminished Gluteal Syndrome. Google Hank Has No ASS. Classic King of the Hill episode.

It’s genetics too though. For example, my little sister works out, does squats and yoga constantly etc and her butt still isn’t nearly as big as mine. I’ve had a huge butt since I was a 80 something pound preteen and did absolutely nothing to build it. 😂 Exercise can obviously build muscle, but acting like anyone without a big ass simply “never uses their muscles” is a spectacularly dumb understanding of human anatomy.

My reply was in response to somebody else's comment about Bruce's bottom.

It's not unreasonable to mention famous men's bottoms in a thread like this because it acts as a reference point.

Nobody's objectifying him at all given the subject matter.

It's not as if this is a thread about his music.

I don't think anybody here is thinking they're going to marry him, either.

I don't even fancy the guy. Though yes he is attractive to a lot of women for sure.

I do think you're really over the top about this given the entire thread is about men's arses!

If you're that bothered by objectification of men's arses and the attractiveness of them (or not) why post on the thread?

To tell everybody else off for having preferences?

If you’re going to put your arse on an album cover it’s to be expected people will talk about it.

*edited to say it is in a pair of jeans - I wasn’t talking about his bare arse 😆

I'm a bloke, don't think I have much of an arse. No weight loss & not through lack of exercise as I do & have always done loads & am pretty strong, but more a swimmers physique than say a Rugby one where you'd have much thicker legs/ thighs.

With slim women I tend to notice if they are a runner & have always run, the bum is quite flat, unless they do fair bit if gym work, vs other sports particularly if they do lots of glute work. I don't know how that relates to blokes really. I've not paid much interest or looked at their bums tbh!

Also Kylie is more famous for her hot pants than her spleen

I wish it would happen to mine, it’s the size of a small planet.

Be careful what you wish for. I lost lots of weight from illness and mine disappeared. I remember sitting in the bath and could feel my bones. It was so uncomfortable. Thankfully it is now back to its former “glory”. A bit of padding is a good thing!

Presumably you are somewhat similar in age to this man. I would think eligible, age appropriate men are more difficult to find. Lighten up.

African men never lose their plump rump! Think you might want to try a different market hun 😜

Yes I remember hearing that in the news. Tragic 😥