Neighbour waking me up

Sorry for your loss OP
I sympathise re the bins. We were renovating and lived in a caravan in the front garden which was along the fence line. Every bin night at 11:00pm on the dot, my neighbour would bang out the contents of their food caddy, then roll the bins, one at a time along their cobbled drive way- right next to the caravan- which has absolutely no insulation/noise reduction and was only single glazed.

I used these ear plugs. They don't completely block everything, so I'd still wake to the alarm, but were enough to help block the bin noise. www.boots.com/boots-soft-disposable-foam-earplugs-20-pairs-10330236?traffic=paid.shopping&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=19973635567&gbraid=0AAAAA-AdmwT3yS7gbwAwHKLF0kH0DHRJ6&gclid=Cj0KCQjw8c3VBhCsARIsAA_xJ92ilPPW31WFddD_or7lYm0rINk1Dz6356vCsgtg3rXVXiH4reXl6SkaAjN3EALw_wcB

Your grief and tiredness are making you unreasonable OP. Hope you get some much needed sleep soon

Oh love, what a crappy day. I'm very sorry for your loss, I hope you get some sleep soon, and all wheely bins can fuck right off! ❤️

Ok so he forgot it and thought shit - got to get them out before work.

Unless the drip is he’s always inconsiderate

Have you tried sleep earbuds (mine were £25-ish from Amazon and block out noise too) and listening to gentle music or audiobooks, to occupy your mind a bit and maybe help you to sleep?

I have chronic insomnia and listening to music or 'heavy' factual audiobooks helps me to drift off. When I'm getting sleepy I set the sleep timer on YouTube (Premium so no adverts)/ Audible/ Borrowbox/ whatever app I'm listening to. I find the Marconi Union Weightless playlist particularly helpful, but I know many people prefer 'sleep stories'.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

What led you to believe he's new to the area?

Putting bins out at 6am on collection day is a perfectly normal and reasonable activity.

Sorry you're grieving OP. This no doubt makes normal things feel much bigger and more unreasonable than they actually are!

So you're supposed to get up at silly o'clock just to put your bin out? That's ridiculous.

I miss the days (pre wheelie bins) when binmen would tell you off if you put bins at the front of your house, it was a 'back door service' - and they'd put them back when they had been emptied. I hate to see wheelie bins everywhere, they're a blight on our streets.

Another vote for wax earplugs OP, I have noisy children next door and I don't hear a thing in the early morning.

Our neighbours have got very noisy young DC and every Sunday they go for swimming lessons which means about 20 trips to and from the car, door slamming, shouting, MUMMYing at full blast and eventually the car revving off the drive. All of which starts around 7.30am and they leave around 7.50am.

I daren't leave a window open but the noise disturbs our dogs who in turn disturb me. Last Sunday, I opened the upstairs window and said "what on earth is all that noise at this time of the morning" very loudly. I doubt they'll have heard me over the screaming of MUUUUUUUUMMMMMMMYYYYYYYYYYYYY though

Thought 'now' in the OP was typo for new?

I’m sorry for your loss and struggling to sleep is awful - I’ve had awful sleep for about 30 years.
You’re being unreasonable though. He has to put his bins out and doing it isn’t being selfish. He may not want to put them out the night before (where I live I wouldn’t do it because the local yobs would be knocking them over or setting fire to them!).
I hope you manage a nap this afternoon.

my husband passed away this summer and one of the hardest things to accept has been how the world just keeps on going. Sometimes I want to scream in the most inopportune moments 'My husband died why won't you bastards respect that and shut up and stop the earth turning'

But that would be insane and wrong so I just cry when I'm alone and keep putting one foot in front of the other.

I'm sorry. Grief is HARD. The only way out of it is to go through it and part of that may mean poor sleep.

Hating someone for doing normal things during normal hours is a waste of your precious energy.