Would this behaviour be enough to make you move house?

Oh yes we’ve had that a few times, everyone is the enemy, she is always the victim. I’ve had to step away until she gets help. It’s tough isn’t it.

Why does she have your numbers????
Get moving you dont need that!!

She will prob blast the music out from indoors instead! What a nightmare.

Is she called Ali?
Asking as I had a neighbour just like that, Tailored Swift and everything. Also she had drums and 3am drumming was a thing when she’d been on the sauce. I moved. It was cheaper than bail.

@LondonLass2026
I've have shit neighbours and the only things after a lot of aggro that worked and made them keep their distance was us going to the police to lodge a formal complaint (tell them about the drug/alcohol/paranoia) with written/recorded evidence, police visiting theirs keeping records for the housing association we're with and when they tried pushback, denial, lying and spreading rumours the housing association telling them the next step was eviction based on their own experience of total non-coperation and anti-social behaviour
We have cameras and eufy doorbell which the woman claimed we were using to spy into her bedroom and record her in her naked in her bathroom until the housing officer/police asked to verify her claims which she refused to do
So watch out for even spitefuller shite to hit the fan
And you get cameras with sound for the outside of your property and write everything down
Life is wasted on some people isn't it?
But
Good luck and wish you a better future

I would go round and have it out delete and block her number from your husbands phone and I would rightly report this lazy unwanted arrogant mess of a neighbour I wouldnt give 2 fuks about the reputation of the estate id rather have my sanity and id also install noise monitors and send to council

You think noone will notice this if they come to see your house? And irrespectove of reporting, you have to declare this if asked. So, deal with it. Get Env Health involved, noise montioring, call outs, confiscation of equipment etc. She will get an ASBO which she deserves and be relocated. I have no idea why you've put up with it for 5 years!

Sell up, but decline for sale signs being put up outside the house. Just tell the neighbours you're having surveys done to remortgage or building quotes etc. We didn't want some family knowing we we're moving so that's what we did.

I work in Housing and a lot of neighbour issues get resolved only when one of the neighbours moves on. It is catch 22 as you could be unlucky again but that risk is worth taking. Legally you need to declare if you are involved in a neighbourhood dispute, often this is why it is best to try and put up with issues but this sounds extreme. Well done for doing 5 years, we have had issues with neighbours in a mid terrace before loud tvs through the walls, people having gatherings until the early hours. The difference moving to a semi detached has made wow, we have one side which can be noisy from 6.30am but it is only one side now, if you can afford to do it then I would look to move :)

She drives as well? 👀😬🤦‍♀️

When you sell, do NOT put a for sale sign outside!

Very tough. We always make sure there's at least 2 of us with her when she's drinking if we cant avoid her so we cant be accused of saying something we haven't said. She even falls out with her kids all adults now thank goodness. She will not ever say sorry even sober , just denies it. She starts trouble with neighbours, friends , family. We've tried to get her help she just says the right things to whomever it is trying to help and then goes off and drinks. She's lost the right to play the victim as she makes everyone suffer . No one answers the phone to her anymore because it's just either lies about people or abuse.

I know someone who has moved flats twice over the past five years due to noise from anti social neighbours.
Both times she did not declare the noise problems to the Estate Agents who sold the flats.

She took a chance and both of the flats were sold on to Private Landlords and let out straightaway
I wouldn't recommend doing this and l think it is wrong. But it is quite common place.

If she’s drinking to excess daily she won’t be around for long.

Sounds like she’s mostly interested in getting a reaction so don’t give her the satisfaction.

Yes i would move. You can be much happier.i lived next to a couple who fitted speakers inside and out. Though they were very nice people it just became relentless.

While you prepare to sell can you get some insulating wall coverings ? I’ve seen panelling that can absorb noise ? Try to insulate against the noise as much as possible because it will also help you to sell

OP could still report to the police as it is domestic violence against the daughter

Move. The sooner this woman is out of your life the better.

Report her first to the authorities before making such a drastic step!

I’d contact housing associations and see if they are looking to buy houses in your area

Yes I think you should move.

I think it would be really horrible to try and hide it from prospective buyers (by making sure that you only do viewings when you know she is quiet etc). It's not fair to not disclose to anyone when it's your main reason for moving and it could equally ruin someone else's enjoyment of their house and they might not be able to move.

Speak to your solicitor and accept you might have to get a bit less than you were hoping for

block her number
if she is housing association otherwise contact enviromental health

I agree with a PP.

If you sell then you may have to be sneaky/private about it.

No for sale signs, and arrange viewings when you know she is asleep or not there and hope someone offers.

If there is no for sale sign outside, its highly unlikely she will know you are trying to sell it and won't be able to scupper any viewings.

Tell no-one else you are selling, not even other neighbours. Be discreet.

Hopefully the sale will go through without her even knowing you are moving.

But yes, this would be enough to make me want to move.

You are not dealing with a rationale person, I would talk to your solicitor and see if you actually need to declare anything. If there is no record of a complaint or problem with the neighbour then I would recommend you declare nothing. But you need to ensure you have not spoken about the problem with other neighbours nor gave a record of filing a complaint. Requesting a log to record isssues is ok but if you then filed it as a complaint you havre a problem. So ultimately after you have sold the house it’s up to the new owners to find evidence that you knew there was a ‘dispute’, you can always say, no it never really bothered us and we often talked to our neighbour and helped out.
viewings need to be strictly controlled and if she is quieter when you are out I’d park my car around the corner. I’d also limit the number of viewing, if you have too many she will twig on.

We had similar not as bad but pretty bad. We moved would have moved anyway but this brought that forward.

We were so paranoid we parked and sat in the street outside our new house at several random times. Lived here peacefully for 18 years now but never take that peace for granted.