Passive aggressive neighbour?

Yeah you’ve pissed her off with your music. I think people need to realise that not everyone enjoys your taste in music. I live in a terraced house and every time the weathers nice my neighbours start with their shitty thumping house music. It drives me mad that steady boom boom boom bass line. Why do you feel you have to play it loud enough that the neighbours can hear it? 5 hours of loud music would drive me up the wall. YABU.

You don’t sound like you’re very approachable!
You’re the nightmare not the neighbour

Are you actually so thick you didn't realise this would annoy people around you?
She didn't tell you because anyone with 2 brain cells would know that blasting music for hours and hours will annoy their neibours, no body has to be told that.

Thank your lucky stars she’s being so nice about it. If I lived there with your awful music blaring out twice a week at nearly midnight I’d be putting pig manure and dog shit there to piss you off tbh.

If you’re an awful neighbour who doesn’t care, you have no right to expect anything different from your neighbours.

No-one should have to approach neighbours to ask them to turn their music down.

Use headphones and show some common sense.

I'd do exactly the same as your neighbour... Why on earth do you think it's acceptable to play loud music until 11:30pm?

In my view, if I were your neighbour, from the behaviour you've described doing, I'd automatically assume you were unreasonable and wouldn't bother approaching you as I'd expect to be met with opposition.

I'm not saying that's right by the way, assumptions are often wrong, but just trying to explain why the neighbour potentially hasn't approached you.

I do ultimately agree that the neighbour should just approach and ask you to stop your ludicrous behaviour, but I would definitely be passive aggressive first in attempt to diminish some of my built up anger.

So to clarify - your music was so loud that the only time you noticed her music was when you turned your music off? It was so loud you could not hear bagpipe music?!

you had that loud music playing for five and a half hours in the evening and night.

you did this 7 times alone in August, Im guessing for the same length of time. So that is over 38 hours of loud music in one month. She is basically living next to someone that is having a party for one every weekend (at least). She is not being passive aggressive she is responding like for like.

I’m not surprised she hates you. Stop being so selfish, stupid and inconsiderate, turn your music down and don't play it after 9pm.

Yeah, there'll be a waterski and a shark any minute now.

Terraced housing, thin walls, loud music past 11pm....

Yep you are the issue @beanbeery

I also think this is a reverse, but just in case it isn't... You said you only put the music on on a Saturday night when your kids are at their nan's. So how can it have been 7 times in a month?

Which summer? It was still summer a month ago, so how long has it been going on if you've only been playing it since the summer but you've played it 7 times in a month. None of it adds up.

You sound like an inconsiderate nightmare and I would like to hear the neighbour's side of things.

Sorry OP but the use of bagpipes must be a clue (and made me chuckle!).

I have a friend who used to live in a terrace. One night “Hallelujah” came on on the radio and she turned the volume up and really, really went for it, booming along. She came to the end, turned the music down, and heard her neighbour next door shout “hallelujah that that’s over!” She took the point that the walls were thinner than she’d thought.

So you are fully aware that you have played loud music every weekend for months on end in a thin walled and terraced house, to the point you know how loud it is and that it would have been heard… carried on even though you yourself have said you are fully aware how loud it is… and you wonder why your neighbour had gone a bit crazy and bought some bagpipes and is loading manure on their drive to piss you off.
You knew categorically that you were being antisocial and carried it on for weeks on end, it’s not a case of she may or may not have been affected, you knew she would be. You expected her to come and tell you when you knew this already.
you are an arsehole neighbour and I am not surprised by her reaction after weeks of enduring this.
it’s the same as if your neighbour kept dumping their rubbish in your bin, they know this is wrong, and out of order. It’s not a case of they may not realise it’s your bin, they are just doing it to be an arsehole. Like you with your music, you know this is wrong and out of order but you are just being an antisocial arsehole about it.

I don’t understand people who go out of their way to upset their neighbours and that includes playing loud music until late at night. It only makes your own life more difficult. However your neighbour is clearly bat shit crazy, she could have spoken to you about it.
in situations like this always go for the high moral ground. Do not feel or act in any way diminished by her rude behaviour. Instead smile at her brightly say good morning and chirpingly go on your way. She will eventually be the one who gets embarrassed and even if she doesn’t, your other neighbours will see you as the reasonable and polite one and act accordingly.

Oh and keep your music low.

If it’s on her drive why are you walking there? She’s likely out it there to keep you off her drive

Christ!

Have you heard of Headphones?
Please buy some ASAP! 😬💐

You're an awful neighbour.

The problem is YOU.

Another nightmare neighbour.

You are the nightmare neighbour here, not her.

These are in no way the same thing, though. How can you not see that? Also, it’s quite “main character”’of you to assume that everything this woman does is to annoy you 🙄.

I’d hate to live next door to you. Have you never considered that your behaviour is totally unreasonable? Loud music, thin walls is bad but to play it after 10pm is disgraceful and disrespectful. How old are you?

You're definitely going to reveal that this is a reverse, because quite clearly, with this post you're admitting that you're being unreasonable.

You sound an awful neighbour. How can you possibly think your behaviour is ok? Turn the music off/down, and stop being so selfish!

Can you put some sort of fence / trellis up along the boarder to block out the sight of the manure ?

7 times in a month is a lot, 6.30 til 11.30 is a long time and late. You know the walls are thin. You have been awful.

You should have known, if you didn't now you realise you should be mortified not annoyed/surprised the neighbour is pissed off.

Stop playing the music loudly get some ear phones and it will blow over, ideally apologise and smooth it over.

You’re lucky she hasn’t put some through your letterbox at this stage. Maybe she’s trying to hint to you that you’re behaviour is shit😂