Passive aggressive neighbour?

Why would she have to tell you that loud music every Saturday is a disturbance? Are you self centered that you would assume that if you enjoy, everyone else must to?

A good neighbour would have gone to hers, tell her that it's a treat for you to listen to whichever type of music you like quite loudly, but you don't want to.dusturbe her.

That's being considerate. I wouldn't want you as my neighbour either.

It's understandable. I've only read a few of your posts and I hate you already! You seem completely oblivious to how awful you've been to her.

Oh so you're a nightmare neighbour.
Be thankful she only just retaliated! We had neighbours like you and ended up behaving the same after months of ruined sleep (sex bomb at 6am-11pm at full volume the day before they moved anyone??)

She must have been at the end of her tether!

The council will now probably put an anti social nightmare evicted from somewhere else in beside you. You reap what you sow, they may have had complaints about you.

Team neighbour. You are a dickhead I’m afraid. I also love loud music and occasionally I will put the tunes on full blast on my day off to clean (and importantly when I know my neighbour has gone to work) but the rest of the time I use headphones because I try very hard not to be an inconsiderate knob. Shame on you honestly. Every weekend past 11pm in a terraced house!

@beanbeery You can't be this unaware of social norms (and local council noise regulations), surely?

You know you live in a terraced home with thin walls, yet about twice a week you play loud music non-stop for about 5.5hrs, until 11:30pm? Yet you wonder why your neighbour stopped talking to you and hates your guts??

You don't even sound remotely apologetic or understanding in any of your responses on here, just reiterating that if it bothered your neighbour, she should have said something to you. She shouldn't have had to! In future, operate on the understanding that ALL neighbours are bothered by other people's noise! They put up with a certain amount, because they recognise there has to be a bit of give and take for everyone to rub along (and they're not rich enough for a house miles from the nearest neighbour), but your behaviour was so spectacularly selfish and thoughtless that no one would put up with it! I'm not surprised the poor woman is moving.

She shouldn't have to approach you. She shouldn't be put in a noise nuiscance situation in the first place. You know the walls are thin, so just be mindful and keep it down.

HEADPHONES!!

For the love of God, I’m surprised she hasn’t murdered you!

My neighbour's kids (6, 4 and 2) shout, yell and run around for at least 5 hours every evening.

Nah, I'd still say something. That's not on.

Based on this alone I’d say you’re being unreasonable.
I never understand people who assume others are happy to listen to their music, whether that’s blaring in a house, or a garden.
A party, I get it, but all the time would drive me insane.

She should have spoke to you, but maybe she didn’t feel she could, but surely you’d have way more consideration for those around you?.
Genuinely I’d hate living near someone who played loud music like you describe.

Horse manure is harmless. If it was dog poop it would be another matter.

Our mutual friend has said they were due to move first week October and have already handed in their notice to the Council but now will be calling them on Monday to see if they can end the tenancy this week and will move in with family until then!

Understandable. I would be losing it with the loud music. Hope she gets considerate neighbours next.

Thin walled terreced house and yet you play loud music for hours on end, I pity your neighbour. My neighbour's kids (6, 4 and 2) shout, yell and run around for at least 5 hours every evening. I too am in a terraced house and it really gets to me at times but they are little kids and I accept that is what they are like. You are a fully grown adult who has total control of their actions, turn your music down or use wireless headphones

If you are also a council tenant then you could be on a one way trip to homeless as a consequence of your behaviour

Are you not noticing that sympathy is lacking yet?

You are either seeing yourself as victim or entitled.

You blast music out late at night and you're wondering if your neighbour is passive aggressive? You sound like a nightmare.

The manure wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

The music on the other hand would drive me crackers. Why is it the people who play music the loudest usually have the worst taste in music? It’s always stuff I have never heard. Maybe it’s me who has the worst taste (entirely possible) but if you are going to inflict that kind of thing on others, at least play something that others might like.

I agree with numerous previous posters though - get some headphones. It sounds like you have made this poor lady’s life utterly miserable and you have been completely oblivious to it.

sound like you have upset her

if there is no room for chat, possibly there is room for communication to see if your behaviour has upset her and what you can do moving forward to ensure it doesn't continue.

Pop her a note through the door and ask the question and see if you can come to a better understand of each other so both of you are happy. Explain you are open to being told if you are upsetting her

She did it once and you learnt how it's awful, you automatically knew it was a backfire on you - you've been doing this how long ?!

You are not the one who deserves the sympathy. She literally did it once back and your reaction is not 'oh shes having a lovely evening with music and dancing'

Your thought was 'shes doing that because i've been annoying her'

You knew what you was doing the entire time lmao

Tell her you’re learning to play the bagpipes and ask if she can show you. That should break the ice 😂

If she uses abusive language call the police

Have you considered joining a fiction writing class in the evenings, that would be quieter.

Loud music until 11 every Saturday night is selfish. Why is it ok to inflict that on neighbours

Being able to hear other people's choice of music in your home, especially late at night but really at any time, massively impacts your quality of life.

People who do it are often antisocial in other ways and much more likely to kick off than others, so I can completely understand why she would not want to confront you.