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Passive aggressive neighbour?

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beanbeery · 20/09/2026 11:31

Basically most Saturdays nights when the kids are with their nan I like to put music on etc.

Lasr night one of my NDN was blasting music on my bedroom wall side as well as playing playing some kind of bagpipe.

She also moved manure on the side of her driveway where I walk past with my DC.

We used to get on have a chat about out DC etc but over time she just blanks me.

If the music was bothering her surely she could have just approached me?

Of course I will be more considerate moving forward but is their behaviour passive aggressive?
They have never played music loud enough for me to hear and when I heard it I turned mine off.

Aibu

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Ayarreet · 22/09/2026 22:20

wishfulthinking25 · 22/09/2026 08:01

Why has she got horse manure on her drive?

I think she might have a Piper on a horse in her garage, next to the shark tank.

NewNameW · 22/09/2026 20:05

Onceuponatime32 · 21/09/2026 23:34

Well you should have said! Why don’t you pop round and have a word with her?

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😂😂this 100000000 times this

Daisymail · 22/09/2026 18:05

Now you know how she felt.

Hopefully you will be more considerate to your new neighbours.

AngelRoja · 22/09/2026 14:23

As your neighbour appears to be moving, I hope you plan to keep the noise down for the new neighbour. Having a neighbour who plays loud music at any time of day is a nightmare...and "only" 7 times in a month is a lot. The only time its ok is if you are having a party and warn your neighbours first (and/or invite them).

Rescuedog12 · 22/09/2026 13:33

beanbeery · 20/09/2026 11:46

But surely she could have just approached me about it?

There is also horse manure by her side of the drive where I walk with my DC.
Not very nice.

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But why do you walk on her drive?

TwoBagsOfCompost · 22/09/2026 09:54

beanbeery · 20/09/2026 11:46

But surely she could have just approached me about it?

There is also horse manure by her side of the drive where I walk with my DC.
Not very nice.

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Also it’s her side of the drive as you say. Maybe don’t walk there??

TwoBagsOfCompost · 22/09/2026 09:51

beanbeery · 20/09/2026 11:46

But surely she could have just approached me about it?

There is also horse manure by her side of the drive where I walk with my DC.
Not very nice.

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Maybe she’s tried to knock on your door, but you couldn’t hear her over your five-hour sessions of loud music.

Muffsies · 22/09/2026 09:51

Partingofthewaves · 22/09/2026 09:45

Wtf has that got to do with anything? Any music played at a loud volume for over 5 hours is going to be an annoyance.

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I'm curious to know? I'd make a difference to me.

I think it's been more than covered how inappropriate and anti-social playing loud music is, making that point is pretty superfluous. I just want to know what music she was playing.

RatsCatsandPuppies · 22/09/2026 09:47

I wouldn’t be able to deal with living next door to this I’m afraid.

Partingofthewaves · 22/09/2026 09:45

Muffsies · 20/09/2026 13:38

What was the music and do you always play the same thing?

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Wtf has that got to do with anything? Any music played at a loud volume for over 5 hours is going to be an annoyance.

Partingofthewaves · 22/09/2026 09:39

beanbeery · 20/09/2026 11:41

Last month I would say the music has been on about 7 times and last Saturday it was from 6pm - 11:30pm.

I have only been playing music since the summer.
The walls are very thin. Its a terraced house.

It would drive me nuts to have to listen to 5 1/2 hours of old music during the summer, when people have to have windows open, in a terraced house with thin walls. You are unbelievably selfish and I’m surprised your neighbour has been so restrained up to now. Get yourself some headphones ffs.

EveryoneUsingOutro · 22/09/2026 09:34

PilotingAWail · 20/09/2026 12:28

Are you possibly a person who
Can't
Understand
Normal
Thinking?
If so, try a little harder, be more considerate and buy headphones 🎧

Haha pinching this!

angelos02 · 22/09/2026 09:07

Why on earth would you play music so loud that your neighbour can hear it? She might not have said anything as she's worried how you would react. If someone is doing something so antisocial, they are often the type to react aggressively.

FaceIt · 22/09/2026 08:45

You would honestly be my worst nightmare.

You’ve got to consider other people and stop being so utterly ignorant.

I really hope this thread has made you think, otherwise believe me you are going to be hated by your neighbours.

JustLookingThanks · 22/09/2026 08:39

Get headphones

BeKhakiReader · 22/09/2026 08:28

Only read OP posts, so this may have been suggested. Put a note through her door saying you won’t play any more music and maybe buy some headphones to listen to your music in the future?

ThatBoilsMyBagels · 22/09/2026 08:24

You are an absolute nightmare neighbour. I hope her loud music from now until she leaves teaches you a lesson.

OvernightBloats · 22/09/2026 08:11

She is giving you a taste of your own medicine. You know the walls are thin and yet you played loud music until 11 in the evening. Get some headphones when you want to play loud music.

At least she is moving out so you can have a new start with the next neighbours.

Mermaidmusing · 22/09/2026 08:08

It’s really selfish of you to play loud music in a terraced house, which you know has thin walls, at ANY time, but definitely doing it for several hours up to 11.30pm is utterly selfish and un-neighbourly. I’m not surprised you’ve pissed your neighbour off. I would have been round hammering your door the second time you did it, so I think you’re getting off lightly.

Learn your lesson now, be more considerate, turn your bloody music down at any time, and off completely after about 9.30pm.

wishfulthinking25 · 22/09/2026 08:01

Why has she got horse manure on her drive?

Blushingm · 22/09/2026 07:43

beanbeery · 21/09/2026 22:59

Well the music is on again tonight, and it is bagpipes on YouTube as I can hear the ads.

When the music stops a heavy loud fan noise with chimes comes on and is coming from the shared wall.

I have kept music really down/ off last few nights.

Sorry but you completely deserve this. It’s what you’ve been doing to your neighbour for years isn’t it? You don’t like it? Well neither would she. Now she’s moving she’s got nothing to lose by giving you done of your own medicine.

Bamboozle30001 · 22/09/2026 07:23

Is your family tree just one big circle? JFC

Shittyyear2025 · 22/09/2026 06:48

beanbeery · 20/09/2026 11:41

Last month I would say the music has been on about 7 times and last Saturday it was from 6pm - 11:30pm.

I have only been playing music since the summer.
The walls are very thin. Its a terraced house.

Are you a bit thick op?

You openly admit to regularly playing music loudly late into the night and wonder why your neighbour is acting pissed off?!?

FMFL

HelpMeGetThrough · 22/09/2026 06:13

Well if she’s moving, between now and then, she’s going to make your life hell, which to be honest you deserve.

The horse shite on the drive is a nice touch.

FreddysFingers · 22/09/2026 04:59

How loud are we talking for the music, and what time until?

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