Am I being unreasonable to expect doors to be closed.

I do this to annoy the plant manager at work. 😆 Sometimes I'll wait just to hear him shout "close the bloody door!".

By the time I’ve walked through a doorway there’s no way I’ve remembered whether it was open or closed. I didn’t realise it was something that bothered people.

If he wanted it closed, he’d close it though.

If you desperately want it shut then get up and shut it.

I think it can be less relaxing if you’re watching tv or something to have the door open.

But equally I don’t always like the living room door shut if there are other family members not in the room- or if I’m cooking I don’t like people to shut all the doors making it more difficult to call them for dinner.

If it’s someone’s bedroom and you’ve had to open the door to go in, you should definitely close it when you leave.

So I think it depends!

So is the ‘rule’ the first person in the room gets to decide if open or closed? What happens when that person leaves - is their a ranking in who decides if a door is open or not?

OP why is your door opinion more important than your DH’s? He prefers the door open you prefer it ajar. There is no right answer here.

I’m team door open unless height of winter and needed to keep heat in (or for a few weeks this year keep it out). But that is why I live in an open plan house with only doors on bedrooms and bathrooms.

I generally prefer doors open (unless bathroom/ bedroom for privacy while doing a task, or a couple of rooms off our hall in the colder months for keeping warmth in)

I hate the feeling of being closed in, and shutting doors means that I can't hear what anyone else is doing around the house. The worst thing when I lived in uni halls was constantly being shut in behind fire doors and constant slamming noises around the building. For that reason I'd never want to go to prison!

Our doors weren't brilliantly installed anyway so they're buggers to shove shut.

But that doesn’t always work.

If you’re in a room that adjoins another, why does your preference for a closed door trump their preference to have it open?

IMO, no, it shouldn’t be - because again, it’s just preference.

The only time I’d make sure an internal door was shut again behind me was if it was someone’s bedroom (for privacy).

If it's a room that someone else is in alone you leave it how they want it. Like if you pop in to speak to someone in their bedroom. But a room you're sharing I don't think you get to dictate that. But if he's leaving a room he should leave it how you would want it. But is he leaving and coming straight back in? Then I wouldn't bother.

Although I have just realised that I have had DH take all the doors off downstairs because I hate closed door and actually find just having a door there at all, even open, is really claustrophobic. We have doors on the bedrooms and the toilet and bathroom. And the porch. But not between the living room kitchen, dining or playroom.

I have heavy duty door closers in every downstairs room because nobody in the fucking family is capable of closing bloody door.

Our hose is old and drafty abs I am cold blooded . It gives me the rage if I get heat built up in a room and an open door lets the cold in.

They annoy everybody including the dog. Except me, I love them. If they would just SHUT THE BLOODY DOORS we wouldn't need closers.

Why is everyone confusing closing a door that was previously closed with 'keeping the heat in/out'?!
If you go into a room with a person already in the room, and the door was closed before you entered, you close it when you leave.

I thought this referred to your husband and I was quite confused.

[Matt O'Connor would NEVER].

My doors are all open (including back door) most of the time. You would hate it @ImogenBrocklehurst 😂

If you want it closed and there's no actual reason for it other than preference, then it's on you to get up and close it yourself.

The first house we bought had no central heating, single glazed windows with only a gas fire in the living room for warmth.
It was so cold even if the door was left
ajar so my DH fitted something like these. Worked brilliantly.
Photo to be approved.

For me door closing isn't about privacy it's about noise and drafts. I want all door downstairs kept closed to prevent drafts and noise. Upstairs it's less of an issue.

Unless it was a bedroom or there was a particular reason for a door to be shut (keeping a pet to a particular room or not wanting cooking smells to circulate around a house) then you are being unreasonable. Not only am I doubtful whether I’d even notice if a door had been open or closed when I entered a room, but I get claustrophobic really easily so my default is to have all doors open and I’d just leave it open.

Shut the door to keep the heat in, or noise out thats reasonable,privacy is reasonable, otherwise whatever what is the issue.

mostly open here

"Were you born in a barn?" was my parents retort to not closing any door as a child or teenager.

I never fully understood it, but after living in a house with my own children with no central heating (as it was for me growing up) having a door shut immediately was a huge thing! Just one gas fire, no heating in hallways, kitchen or bathroom... Shut that door! 😂

Now I'm living in a rabbit hutch of a house. Terraced, centrally heated...
Can someone please open a window?!!

I’m with you OP. Can’t stand an open door. Don’t know why but I feel really unsettled. However, if your home suffers with damp , condensation etc apparently it’s better to leave the doors open so there’s an airflow.

All my doors are left open all the time (except bathrooms) because my cats complain otherwise.

to be honest they also complain about the bathroom doors as if my dd goes to the loo without a cat they are most upset.