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Can't be bothered sharing a bed at hen do

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Herecomethegirls1 · 19/09/2026 18:19

Been invited to a hen do in March 2027, the wedding is in May.
As per the previous hens I went on years ago, it'll be a generous sum to share a room and a bed with someone. Seems to be a thing to rent out an airbnb/house, pay £150 and not even get your own bed.

I'm not the best sleeper as it is and I'd rather get a £40 travelodge and have my own room. These are school friends I see now once or twice a year, they've made no effort to travel to me, ever and we barely speak. I think I've just been invited as I'm 'part of the furniture' rather than anyone actively wanting me there.

It'll look odd though if I book my own hotel somewhere else, I begrudge spending hundreds on any of them anymore when I get absolutely nothing out of them. I know people will say just don't go, but I'm also invited to the wedding and I feel like it'd be rude.

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LadyGardenersQuestionTime · 19/09/2026 18:22

Why are you even going?

abracadabra1980 · 19/09/2026 18:22

Polite excuse (feign illness, medical procedure, work etc..) for the hen do. Go to the wedding. In the past it was called a 'little white lie' and ultimately it does nobody any harm.

StarPyjamas · 19/09/2026 18:22

I voted YABU.

But only because you're making a problem where there isn't one.

I wouldn't share either and they can either choose to understand or not.

StarPyjamas · 19/09/2026 18:21

It'll look odd though if I book my own hotel somewhere else

No it won't.

Just tell them what you told us 🤷‍♂️

Herecomethegirls1 · 19/09/2026 18:20

I share a room with my partner, that's it, I'm too old for this now.

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