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Awful woman slagging off my family home

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misscee5 · 19/09/2026 15:09

I recently sold my old house (where Dh, dc, our dog and I) had lived for 12 years to a friend of a friend. She viewed the house, offered 5k below asking price and I accepted. The house was clean and functional but dated in places and did need work - things that were obvious upon viewing like the old bathroom, some walls needed replastering that kind of thing.

Since she moved in she has apparently been slagging me off to old neighbours, friends and anyone who’ll listen it would seem about how grim the house is, it’s a total renovation project, she doesn’t know how I could have lived there with kids etc etc etc.

I understand that houses can look different when they’re empty and perhaps she has buyers remorse which is fair enough, I’ve felt that way about properties before as well. But I’d never make such personal remarks about the previous owner especially if there were mutual people involved who knew them. Aibu to think this is shitty behaviour? I’ve tried not to let it bother me but her dc has just started school with mine so I have to see her around a bit more now. She blanks me and that’s fine with me but I just think it’s bloody cruel. It’s not my fault that the house isn’t what was expected. I left it clean and even left her a bottle of fizz.

If she starts slagging me off to school mums I will feel really pissed off as she’s basically insinuating my family lived like pigs. Aibu to be pissed off here?

OP posts:
Morecoffeeneedef · 19/09/2026 15:18

misscee5 · 19/09/2026 15:17

It did need some work. But she saw this when she viewed it and we even discussed how the bathroom was old and could do with replacing. It wasn’t like she’d never seen the property before. At this point it’s less about the house and more about the implication that my family and I are scruffy.

I do think there’s an element of shit stirring with the ‘friends’ who are feeding this info back to me. I’d rather not have known tbh.

Yes, why are they doing that? Try to ignore them OP, this is Chinese whispers.

misscee5 · 19/09/2026 15:17

It did need some work. But she saw this when she viewed it and we even discussed how the bathroom was old and could do with replacing. It wasn’t like she’d never seen the property before. At this point it’s less about the house and more about the implication that my family and I are scruffy.

I do think there’s an element of shit stirring with the ‘friends’ who are feeding this info back to me. I’d rather not have known tbh.

OP posts:
Morecoffeeneedef · 19/09/2026 15:17

Your friend's friend has bought a house without realising how much work was needed. Her mistake, and no reflection on you. It's unfortunate that people are passing her comments on. Hopefully they will stop soon.

fuckeditupbadly · 19/09/2026 15:14

Satmod · 19/09/2026 15:11

The house was clean and functional but dated in places and did need work - things that were obvious upon viewing like the old bathroom, some walls needed replastering that kind of thing.

or it’s a total renovation project

which is it?

either way, most people who listen to this woman, not even remotely be interested or take seriously and just get on with their day

Your two quotes are from different people. The op says its a bit tired, the new owner says its a total renovation. I guess there's an element of subjectivity involved .

Satmod · 19/09/2026 15:11

The house was clean and functional but dated in places and did need work - things that were obvious upon viewing like the old bathroom, some walls needed replastering that kind of thing.

or it’s a total renovation project

which is it?

either way, most people who listen to this woman, not even remotely be interested or take seriously and just get on with their day