Awful woman slagging off my family home

@misscee5

Shes throwing rocks to save face that she couldnt afford a bigger/ better house and your "friends" are shit stirring

Are you going to pick the rocks up or step to the side?
Ignore, its her house now

Honestly, I’d make a point of walking up to her, big smiles and say “so I hear you’re a bit overwhelmed with the house? [sympathetic head tilt] Renovation is tricky isn’t it. Choosing a new bathroom can be daunting”

i bet you anything she won’t want to be seen as lacking and will deny that there is any issue or struggle on her side. Then you can either choose to simply say “oh good, glad to hear it” or also add “because I’d heard you felt it was a big renovation and it seemed like you were overwhelmed”

that should stop her running her mouth off any more.

@misscee5 I do think there’s an element of shit stirring with the ‘friends’ who are feeding this info back to me. I’d rather not have known tbh.

So call them out on it! “Janet, why are you telling me this? It’s not my house, I don’t want to hear it. I know what needed doing to it as much as she does. She paid a fair price based on the condition and it was cleaned for her to move in. Any unpleasant comments are on her, not me, and you too by the way for repeating them. Why do you think I want to hear this? She’s just the person who bought my old house.”

Yes and also comments about how OP had to take a lower offer as the buyer couldn’t afford it 🫢

Anything could have happened thst you’ll never know about- maybe they got quotes and they hadn’t realised how much it would cost, maybe her dh said ‘we don’t need to get that done’, maybe the bank gave her less money than expected etc etc. it’s just really unfortunate ye have to be in the same space!!!

' She knew it needed work and it was priced accordingly. She offered less and we accepted. If she didnt want to do work she should have bought a new build. "
If shes bring rude then give it right back.

Unless of course there is stuff needing done that you knew about and didn't mention or declare. Then I can see why she is pissed.

Yes, I realise that and I agree it's a dick move. But that's my point really, that's why OP shouldn't take it to heart. It's just her opinion, people won't necessarily believe her and even they do, so what? Each to their own.

Her blanking you at the school gate is totally crass snd shows the woman has no kindness or manners like you say youre better off without her

fuck her don't give her head space

thats not all she's doing though is it? she's saying how could OP live there with her kids to people she knows will tell OP and is also blanking her and ignoring her in real life.

She's a dick

Fine to have different priorities. Not find to imply OP is scruffy and neglectful.
OP, ask her what her problem is?

Tell her to piss off if she starts. She obviously thought the house was OK to buy it. She's probably just a manky cow who wants someone to blame because her house is a dump so she blaming you. Spread that around about her.

Honestly she sounds like a drama queen and I imagine any mutual friends will take it very much with a pinch of salt. Don’t let it get to you. You’d done nothing remotely wrong or embarrassing. No one will think you have or think poorly of you. If they are generous minded they will think she is feeling a bit overwhelmed by life and if they are not they will think she is a bit OTT and give her a wide berth. Just smile and ignore and look forward.

I think all houses look worse when empty so she probably did get a shock (as we did when we got into our new house) and maybe she does have buyers regret and feels she paid too much. However she is extremely rude talking like this to your mutual friends/acquaintances especially as your children go to the same school. Am sure it will blow over soon, people will get bored of her.

She is going to renovate it, not live in it in that condition. All she is saying is 'I couldn't live like that, these repairs need to be done'.

Er...,then why buy a house that needs re plastering if you hate it so much.

Good grief, this woman has eyes, she didnt buy the house blind did she?!

How is saying you can't believe someone lived there with kids not passing judgement on them?

some walls needed replastering that kind of thing

That's not just decor and individual taste. Some people would not want to live like that. Surely you can see that she just has different priorities.

I voted YABU. The house was your family's home for over a decade, plenty of living and some wear and tear and perhaps not much attention paid to the latest in bathroom trends. So what? Your family had other priorities.

Your buyer seems to thinkit requires top to bottom renovation - again, so what? Her house, her project/ problem. Nowt to do with you.

Don't let it get to you. Shrug off the implied slights with a comment that makes it clear you were too busy living your lives to fret over peeling paint, spotty tiles or the lack of a heated towel rail or whatever she's getting aerated about.

She isn’t implying that the house was dirty or that your family are scruffy. She’s talking about it being a renovation project that needs work, which is perfectly reasonable. It’s her house. She can say whatever she likes about it.

I bought a house which needed more work than we thought it did. I also moaned about it because it was stressful and difficult. I have definitely thought that certain things must have tricky for the previous owners who had two kids because there were a couple of things we had to put right that must have required them to watch their kids like hawks in a certain room.

That didn’t mean I was passing judgment on them. The house was clean and they seemed like nice people. I have zero opinion on them beyond that. But the fact that they seemed nice has fuck all to do with my opinions on the house I’d bought, which I reserved the right to share because it was my bloody house.

Clearly she did not have a 5 star budget or she’d have purchased a 5 star house. She needs to be reminded of this basic fact by your ‘friends’.

I mean Meh

coulsnt get worked up about this to be honest

ignore and she’ll soon get bored.

Err no, I haven't come across people making horrible and personal remarks about a house to mutual acquaintances where they know the previous owner. Things like saying it was grim and she couldn't believe that the OP lived there with kids are horrible things to say, implying she's a shit parent who doesn't house her kids properly. It's no different to being invited over to someone's house and then telling people what a shithole it was and you can't believe they live like that. It's very personal and hurtful and any decent person wouldn't dream of doing it and it normally reveals something about them rather than the person whose home they are trashing.

Frankly we’re amazed and grateful she paid as much as she did

Why on earth would you be "grateful" that someone paid market value for your house?

She offered 5k below asking price and she knew it needed some work done prior to buying it.

I dont know why OP is expected to gush over this woman like she did her a huge massive charitable favour.

Maybe all this hot air she is blowing is HER embarrassment that she cant afford a flashier home and maybe doesn’t have the money to do it all up how she dreams and so blowing hot air to cover up

it’s literally nothing about you and all about her insecurities

totally understand your feelings though

i remember once a man copied photos from rightmove and put it on a local face book page and was laughing at “ the state” of a bungalow

everyone put him in his place because it was a well loved old lady who had moved in to a nursing home home