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To wonder if I die, will there be a coffin big enough because I'm so fat?

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AppleJuiceAvid · 19/09/2026 01:28

Currently weigh more than 26 stone. Always struggled with my weight but lost a fair amount 8/9 years ago. Before that I had put on a lot of weight after being prescribed various antidepressants. In 2019, I was prescribed an antipsychotic on top of an antidepressant and that's when the weight gain worsened. Not eligible for weight loss medication and cannot get it privately as have a family history of thyroid cancer. Used to walk everywhere and now I can barely walk short distances without bad left pelvic/hip pain and getting out of breath. I've spoken to the GP and they made a referral to a hospital in another area, which could take a while. In the meantime, the weight gain is ongoing and I could die before then. Are there extra large coffins for the morbidly obese? Tired and trapped.

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ILoveListeningToRainAtNight · 19/09/2026 01:33

From experience, I know they sell 1.5 - 2 plots at the local cemetery, if someone is very large and needs that space. There are a lot of larger people out there, so I'm sure they make caskets to fit everyone.

I'm sorry you've had such a hard journey OP.

Otterliee · 19/09/2026 01:42

History of thyroid cancer in my family and me and my sister both got the jabs. We both have underactive thyroids.

You need to contact different suppliers.

ILoveListeningToRainAtNight · 19/09/2026 01:44

Otterliee · 19/09/2026 01:42

History of thyroid cancer in my family and me and my sister both got the jabs. We both have underactive thyroids.

You need to contact different suppliers.

Yes, that's a thought. I'm not a doctor and no expert on this stuff, but it could be possible that the risks of being morbidly obese are bigger than the risk of thyroid cancer if you got the injections. Also, knowing the family history, you can be monitored for that. Have you sought multiple opinions OP?

DollyBee · 19/09/2026 01:45

Hello, I’m sure you’re not going to die for a while yet.
But have you thought about self referring for CBT?
It’s easy to do online and it could help with your problems.
You sound very down but you can start to help yourself, stop eating sugar and ultra processed food.
Excercise alone won’t make you lose weight but eating the right foods will and I can guarantee if you take the first step and cut out sugar, the weight will fall off you.
If walking is a problem, go swimming.
You can do this Apple 🍎 you can be a new you by next Summer.

caringcarer · 19/09/2026 01:51

Have you tried hypnosis for weight loss?

BadLad · 19/09/2026 01:55

My late aunt made sumo wrestlers look thin, and there was a coffin to fit her. It needed quite a team of pall bearers.

So I am sure there will be one to fit you, hopefully many years in the future.

Mollymalone123 · 19/09/2026 02:04

Can I ask why you aren’t able to get help from GP in regards to weight loss injections? Surely you would be eligible and I’m so sorry you’re struggling

CrazyMidget · 19/09/2026 02:27

Sending you hugs, OP. Don't worry about coffins! 😆 You are going to get well! I've had my own journey with obesity and I know how hard it is. At 26 stone, it's hard to believe that you don't qualify for the drugs. But, another option might be bariatric surgery. I really think you should explore both those options thoroughly.

Lots of people have lost in the region of 15 stone or more! Look up their stories.

montysmaw · 19/09/2026 02:35

Obesity and it's related conditions are likely to kill you before GLP induced thyroid cancer if it happened.
I think you need to push for Mounjaro. It could literally save your life.

AlwayAnxious · 19/09/2026 02:41

Yes there is.
MIL & FIL needed bigger coffins, both around your weight
Coffins were fine and availble, no issues, but more money ofcourse...
They were wheeled in rather than carried by people, but no issues what so ever

VashtaNerada · 19/09/2026 04:11

You certainly won’t be the first overweight person they’ll have dealt with, we’re getting bigger as a society and they’ll be adapting their practices to it all the time. Be kind to yourself and remember it’s better to be fat than be a horrible person xx

Hoardasurass · 19/09/2026 04:52

You can have a custom coffin made to fit any size person and some really funky shapes (I've seen them shaped like cars etc) but they cost an absolute fortune (even more than a "standard" coffin which are ridiculously expensive in the 1st place and why most people rent 1 for cremation)

Katemax82 · 19/09/2026 05:48

Hi op my mum was the same weight she died aged 70 and fit in a coffin. I'm sorry your having such struggles I hope someone has some helpful advice xx

cornflakecrunchie · 19/09/2026 09:07

eek, I don't think OP really wanted to know about coffins..

@AppleJuiceAvid
Get rid of 'treat' type foods from the house - too much of a temptation. Move around as much as possible, even if only indoors. What do you like doing? eg gardening & plan for next spring, get bulbs, sketch what you'd like..

I hope you can get off the antipsychotic, they are known for weight gain. Hugs.

Sunbringer · 19/09/2026 09:12

Yes they do. Cremation is also an option.

DustyMaiden · 19/09/2026 09:34

i don’t think you really want an answer to that question. Look into the jabs they’ve helped so many people. I am going to have my headstone engraved,”thin at last.”

Elbowpatch · 19/09/2026 09:40

Sunbringer · 19/09/2026 09:12

Yes they do. Cremation is also an option.

I have been to a fair few cremations. In every single case the deceased was in a coffin.

AbraCaStabYa · 19/09/2026 14:30

You can always opt for cremation

Surroundedbyfools · 19/09/2026 14:37

I wouldn’t really worry about it. You’ll be dead so no worries for you ! Sorry if that sounds rude. When people talk about funeral songs etc I’m just like 🤷🏻‍♀️ do whatever u want il be dead.

likelysuspect · 19/09/2026 14:39

Ive been almost as heavy as you OP and people that havent wont know that the most strange things are fearful to us, needing an ambulance and people to lift you into it, dying and needing a big coffin and worrying about who on earth could lift the thing up, falling over and not being able to get back up again because I couldnt lift myself off the floor, or falling over and needing crutches but knowing I wouldnt be able to support my weight with them. Fitting on toilets, through gates, into showers, into seats, the list is endless

I had weight loss surgery. I would have continued on the jabs but just couldnt inject myself and so was avoiding them and wasting money

Firstly in your case I would contact other suppliers who will prescribe with your family history. PPs are right, the risk to you right now is very very high of obesity related morbidity or life changing illness

Secondly, if that really isnt an option I would think about surgery, do some research, lots of them have payment plans (I borrowed over 2 years to afford mine)

likelysuspect · 19/09/2026 14:40

AbraCaStabYa · 19/09/2026 14:30

You can always opt for cremation

They use a coffin in cremation, you know that dont you? She still has to be put inside one.

Gettingbysomehow · 19/09/2026 14:45

Get your GP to refer you to the NHS bariatric service. You cant do this alone. Ive lost a vast amount of weight and its changed my life. If they can't precribe mounjaro its likely they can do a gastric sleeve or bypass. Im still seeing them they support you for a long time. Im now 9 stone.

AbraCaStabYa · 19/09/2026 14:48

likelysuspect · 19/09/2026 14:40

They use a coffin in cremation, you know that dont you? She still has to be put inside one.

Just put the body directly in the furnace then

BeDandyDenimSloth · 19/09/2026 14:49

It is only a rare type of thyroid cancer , medullary thyroid carcinoma, that is contra-indicated for WLI, most other types are not. So you could explore this again. There will certainly be coffins big enough for you but it is true some crematoriums have width restrictions. Hope you are able to find help to support weight loss

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