Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Most dog owners do not consider others.

100 replies

Globules · 16/09/2026 19:33

An incident shocked me this morning (see DO1).

It led me to closely observe all the dog owners i subsequently saw this morning on my 6.30am run.

My evidence is conclusive proof that most dog owners are stupid, self absorbed, rude and/or many other negative verbs due to more ❌ than ✔️

YABU: Your evidence is just sampled from the early morning dog walkers on a seafront.

YANBU: I agree. Thank you for the evidence proving it.

NB: This is not a dog bashing thread, as i love dogs. It's a dog owner bashing thread.

DO1: Dog walking one side of the road. Owner walking the other. Extendable lead joining them. Road is a cut through for a busy A road, so it's frequently used at 6.30am. I waved at the car driver, who did an emergency stop. I didn't want the poor dog to die. DO1 at least had the grace to look embarrassed. ❌

DO2: Short lead. Dog tucked into the side of the pavement while pooing. Owner had a bag ready. ✔️

DO3: Extended lead. Owner pulled dog in when they saw me running towards them. ✔️

DO4&5: Pavement 3m wide. Owners walking in the middle. Dogs walking on long lead either side, blocking the path. I jumped over the lead of one of the dogs. ❌❌

DO6: 3 dogs taking up the whole pavement on short leads. The owner glared at me as i approached and huffed at me as I passed.❌

DO7: 2 dogs walking towards me across the whole path. Owner looking at his phone and saw me at the last minute. I stopped while he pulled his dogs in for me to pass. ❌

DO8: Stopped dog from running into the road on an extendable lead when a car was coming.✔️

DO9: Dog walking happily at the side of the 3m wide pavement with owner using their phone. ✔️

DO10: Dog nearly tripping up a pedestrian as they bolted on their extendable lead to chase a seagull ❌

DO11: Dog intermittently being "walked" in a pram.🤦

OP posts:
Globules · 16/09/2026 20:05

Also fair @HappiestSleeping

It was preventing the death of a dog this morning which made me cross about dog owners.

They're regularly on my runs, and i regularly encounter owners not giving a damn about anyone else on the pavement. So I decided to count what i saw. And more were behaving badly than not.

OP posts:
Ponderingwindow · 16/09/2026 20:05

Having added a dog to our family, I have a new disdain for a subset of dog owners. My area isn’t densely populated. I’m getting to know the other dog people pretty quickly as we all go on walks. It’s always the same people engaging in antisocial behavior. Most people really are trying to be good owners, but there are a few that are just obnoxious.

Globules · 16/09/2026 20:09

DinoLil · 16/09/2026 20:03

I always tuck my staffie away when walking on the pavement. She is always on the lead. And a harness! It would be nice if pedestrians acknowledged the courtesy. Just eye contact or a nod. Not just barging on through like I didn't exist or hadn't moved out of their way. Makes me want to charge on through. And dog owners get a bad name? I must sell the invisible potion i obviously wear online!

Why?

Do you acknowledge everyone with eye contact or a nod who walks towards the left of a pavement if they see you walking (without a dog) on the right? I don't. If i did, I'd look like i had a strange quirk with all the looking and nodding at people i walk past on a shared pavement.

OP posts:
Fuckmyliferightnow · 16/09/2026 20:16

I agree, not all but a lot of dog owners don’t care about anyone else.
We have a neighbour that lets their yappy dog out as early as 4:30am and lets it bark for ages. They are at the back of our house so don’t know which house it is.
Another one lets their dog bark late at night for some reason. Another neighbour goes out and leaves their dog howling, all day long, every week day. It drives everyone mad.
My mil thinks everyone should give as much of a shit about her dog as she does, lets him get away with bad behaviour and expects others to tolerate it because SHE thinks the dog’s cute!

Globules · 16/09/2026 20:19

Theeternalrocksbeneath · 16/09/2026 19:59

I own more dogs than is sensible. I have owned many, many dogs over the last 40 years. I have been friends with/dated/married/socialised with dog owners over those 40 years.

I am not declaring myself an expert on dog owners however I would strongly declare that my 40 years experience carries more weight than your singular walk this morning.

Most dog owners are not stupid, self absorbed or rude. A minority are.

Most non dog owners are not stupid, self absorbed or rude. A minority are.

I do hope this helps answer your query.

It doesnt really help, no.

A good friend sounds like she has a similar life history to yours.

She would give ticks to DOs 4,5,6,7 and 10 as she wouldn't see a problem with them.

She might even go as far as to say the car should have seen the lead across the road for DO1 and should have been driving slower.

We agreed to disagree about what is acceptable dog behaviour years ago.

OP posts:
Screamingabdabz · 16/09/2026 20:19

Dunnocantthinkofone · 16/09/2026 19:35

Oh good. A dog bashing thread. Disguised as a dog owner bashing thread obvs.
we haven’t had one of those for around 14 minutes 🙄

Maybe when dog owners stop being a problem, you won’t have to burdened by reading them and having your heart broken by people who see this issue as the objectively anti-social problem it is, and not emotionally and defensive because it might reflect on you and your animal.

SnapAndTap · 16/09/2026 20:19

Im not a dog fan.
I disagree with your statement about most dog owners being inconsiderate. Most are brilliant - so much so them and their dogs exists without really being noticed. A small majority are totally inconsiderate, and totally destroy the reputation of the majority.

FeeLipa · 16/09/2026 20:20

I'm a dog walker and spend my days actively avoiding dogs and owners. It's a rarity that other owners can manage to recall their own dog and either put it on a lead (or miraculously ask and get a good heel ) to pass my on lead dog.
I usually get charged / hear a failed recall attempt / or the dreaded 'mines friendly!'

Last week I wrecked my back as some arsehole let their lab stalk towards my reactive EBT. I called out mine wasn't friendly - they had headphones in. Tucked mine to the side and this moron still didn't react. I ended up just picking my dog up and got a very snotty 'my dog wants to say hello'

Some parks and areas are just no go zones during peak hours as it's carnage.

singthing · 16/09/2026 20:20

Fuckmyliferightnow · 16/09/2026 20:16

I agree, not all but a lot of dog owners don’t care about anyone else.
We have a neighbour that lets their yappy dog out as early as 4:30am and lets it bark for ages. They are at the back of our house so don’t know which house it is.
Another one lets their dog bark late at night for some reason. Another neighbour goes out and leaves their dog howling, all day long, every week day. It drives everyone mad.
My mil thinks everyone should give as much of a shit about her dog as she does, lets him get away with bad behaviour and expects others to tolerate it because SHE thinks the dog’s cute!

Having two dogs near me which bark a lot, I think dog owners must get the same selective deafness that parents do. It drives me demented several houses away so I cannot understand how they tolerate it right in front of them, for so long and so loud all the bloody time - a sparrow takes a breath and off they go, let alone if the doorbell rings....

(I mean like happy playing barking, not "I am all alone" howling)

bobbybigbollocks · 16/09/2026 20:24

No. Most people are inconsiderate twats.
Some of them own dogs, cars, children, bicycles and this becomes an extension of their lack of consideration. Some of them walk, run, use shopping trolleys inconsiderately.
The dog is irrelevant. They are dicks with or without the animal.

Dunnocantthinkofone · 16/09/2026 20:24

Screamingabdabz · 16/09/2026 20:19

Maybe when dog owners stop being a problem, you won’t have to burdened by reading them and having your heart broken by people who see this issue as the objectively anti-social problem it is, and not emotionally and defensive because it might reflect on you and your animal.

😂😂😂
I spend my entire working life fixing the bloody problem. I can’t bloody stand badly behaved dogs
My dogs are not and have never been a problem and neither are the owners I coach daily advised to do anything other than teach polite respectful behaviour in their dogs. Endless threads itemising a few prats with their ill mannered dogs though? Proves nothing and is just tedious clickbait.

FeeLipa · 16/09/2026 20:24

YABU for DO11. A lot of elderly dogs with mobility problems or even young dogs recovering from injuries still get enrichment from being outside and doing their usual routine.

Grumpyoldcat · 16/09/2026 20:28

Perhaps run somewhere else.

CrowsInMyGarden · 16/09/2026 20:30

My dog is 12. He snapped both cruciate ligaments when he was a pup. Recovered well but vet said "it isn't if he will get arthritis when he is old, it is when" - he is now slowing down. Sometimes he wants to walk and sometimes he doesn't. He eats, enjoys his life but he is getting old, maybe in pain and cannot walk far. I am about to get him a pram. It is the equivalent of old/disabled people going out in a wheelchair. What would you want to do with them? Make them stay at home? Euthanise them because they can't walk?

WizdomE · 16/09/2026 20:33

Most dog walkers/ owners don’t seem to be in control of their dog, whether the dog is in the lead or not. And they also seem to prioritise their dog over human beings. Crazy! I’ve been to a family get together where there was a shortage of seats, but dogs taking up chairs and the owners just carry on talking and don’t move their dog to allow a human gusss to sit down, needless to say I just push the dog off the chair and sat down. It’s a dog not a child.

ArseSkinForAFriend · 16/09/2026 20:37

God, I wonder what the Mumsnet theme will be for 2027?

Dog moaning has been done to absolute death this year.

BishBashBoshDumpling · 16/09/2026 20:40

ArseSkinForAFriend · 16/09/2026 20:37

God, I wonder what the Mumsnet theme will be for 2027?

Dog moaning has been done to absolute death this year.

Fiver on an SUV bashing theme in 2027

SpanielsGalore · 16/09/2026 20:42

My foster dog has severe arthritis and scoliosis. She still enjoys going for walks, but can't manage as long as my own, younger dogs, so she goes in a pushchair for a rest. I think she's happy with the arrangement. I don't see why it should bother anyone else.

Most dog owners do not consider others.
noctilucentcloud · 16/09/2026 20:44

Fuckmyliferightnow · 16/09/2026 20:16

I agree, not all but a lot of dog owners don’t care about anyone else.
We have a neighbour that lets their yappy dog out as early as 4:30am and lets it bark for ages. They are at the back of our house so don’t know which house it is.
Another one lets their dog bark late at night for some reason. Another neighbour goes out and leaves their dog howling, all day long, every week day. It drives everyone mad.
My mil thinks everyone should give as much of a shit about her dog as she does, lets him get away with bad behaviour and expects others to tolerate it because SHE thinks the dog’s cute!

That's unacceptable, but unless you only have 3 neighbours there's likely to be a lot more houses that have dogs that you don't hear. I have 5 immediate neighbours with dogs, for 4 of them you don't know the dogs are there, the other 1 you hear barking sometimes during the day but they are told to shut it by their owner.

Dunnocantthinkofone · 16/09/2026 20:44

BishBashBoshDumpling · 16/09/2026 20:40

Fiver on an SUV bashing theme in 2027

Nah, my money is on round 374 of ‘I hate dogs and/or their owners’

ArseSkinForAFriend · 16/09/2026 20:44

BishBashBoshDumpling · 16/09/2026 20:40

Fiver on an SUV bashing theme in 2027

At this point a lot of us would welcome the change 😁

noctilucentcloud · 16/09/2026 20:47

SpanielsGalore · 16/09/2026 20:42

My foster dog has severe arthritis and scoliosis. She still enjoys going for walks, but can't manage as long as my own, younger dogs, so she goes in a pushchair for a rest. I think she's happy with the arrangement. I don't see why it should bother anyone else.

What a wee cutie. I would've gotten a trolley to enable my oldie to fully enjoy longer walks as he got older but he was a bit too large to push. I'm glad she's still enjoying life and exploring.

Papyrophile · 16/09/2026 20:47

I am not a dog owner at the moment because our elderly Lab's kidneys failed so I decided to PTS then, while I was with the vet who had done the blood tests. She would have had days left, and much more pain so it was the right decision.

And four weeks later, we are still bereft. It has been 35 years since we were last without a dog or a child to fuss about. Heavens above, we miss the routine, but we also want to relocate, and we shan't have another dog until we do because we'll probably have another Lab via breed rescue and we'll all learn new routes and routines together. I yearn for another pup, but at 70, I shall probably opt for an adoption. An 18-month old Lab dog has immense strength and stamina, and while we are still pretty fit and active, seven to ten miles daily cross country, unless we opt into a shoot circuit, is unlikely.

FuzzyBumbleeBee · 16/09/2026 20:48

A lot of dog owners are self absorbed idiots who thinks everyone loves their untrained mutt
Extendi leads are the majority of the time but not always used by people who can't train their dog, very rarely have I seen them safely used.

Some of us love our dogs more than people but take the time to train them so that others don't need to be bothered by their presence.

Your examples show the two types of owner rather perfectly

Apart from the pushchair that dog could be old, recovering from surgery but need more stimulation, Any reason really as long as they don't take it in food shops it's their dog and their pushchair leave them to it

We often get charged but off lead dogs without a recall, we live at a popular holiday destination, my male has been attacked a couple of times by dogs whose owners scream he's friendly thankfully he's too sweet natured to react but the owners never seem to care.

missmollygreen · 16/09/2026 20:51

I assume by "most" you actually mean "the tiny selection of cherry picked examples saw today"?