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Most dog owners do not consider others.

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Globules · 16/09/2026 19:33

An incident shocked me this morning (see DO1).

It led me to closely observe all the dog owners i subsequently saw this morning on my 6.30am run.

My evidence is conclusive proof that most dog owners are stupid, self absorbed, rude and/or many other negative verbs due to more ❌ than ✔️

YABU: Your evidence is just sampled from the early morning dog walkers on a seafront.

YANBU: I agree. Thank you for the evidence proving it.

NB: This is not a dog bashing thread, as i love dogs. It's a dog owner bashing thread.

DO1: Dog walking one side of the road. Owner walking the other. Extendable lead joining them. Road is a cut through for a busy A road, so it's frequently used at 6.30am. I waved at the car driver, who did an emergency stop. I didn't want the poor dog to die. DO1 at least had the grace to look embarrassed. ❌

DO2: Short lead. Dog tucked into the side of the pavement while pooing. Owner had a bag ready. ✔️

DO3: Extended lead. Owner pulled dog in when they saw me running towards them. ✔️

DO4&5: Pavement 3m wide. Owners walking in the middle. Dogs walking on long lead either side, blocking the path. I jumped over the lead of one of the dogs. ❌❌

DO6: 3 dogs taking up the whole pavement on short leads. The owner glared at me as i approached and huffed at me as I passed.❌

DO7: 2 dogs walking towards me across the whole path. Owner looking at his phone and saw me at the last minute. I stopped while he pulled his dogs in for me to pass. ❌

DO8: Stopped dog from running into the road on an extendable lead when a car was coming.✔️

DO9: Dog walking happily at the side of the 3m wide pavement with owner using their phone. ✔️

DO10: Dog nearly tripping up a pedestrian as they bolted on their extendable lead to chase a seagull ❌

DO11: Dog intermittently being "walked" in a pram.🤦

OP posts:
AllIwantForChrismasIsAKitchenAidStandMixer · 16/09/2026 21:38

Dunnocantthinkofone · 16/09/2026 19:35

Oh good. A dog bashing thread. Disguised as a dog owner bashing thread obvs.
we haven’t had one of those for around 14 minutes 🙄

Why do you think there are so many of them? Couldn’t possibly because it’s a real problem for a lot of people

Papyrophile · 16/09/2026 21:37

Fuckmyliferightnow · 16/09/2026 21:18

It’s 3 particular houses that back onto ours, 3 out of the 3 houses have dogs and happen to be shit owners. We’re probably just unlucky.
I personally know of friends and family that bought dogs during covid and they are the worst behaved dogs and none have been trained correctly, the dogs just rule the roost.
It’s quite shocking how relaxed people have become in training their dogs properly.

No, the problem is the humans.

Batshitkerazy · 16/09/2026 21:32

Globules · 16/09/2026 20:09

Why?

Do you acknowledge everyone with eye contact or a nod who walks towards the left of a pavement if they see you walking (without a dog) on the right? I don't. If i did, I'd look like i had a strange quirk with all the looking and nodding at people i walk past on a shared pavement.

Edited

Isn’t it just common decency to acknowledge someone who has given way to you?

I’m imagining that the poster means she pauses her walk and tucks her dog to the side whilst she waits for people to walk past them

I can’t imagine not acknowledging someone doing that - same as if someone held a door open for you

Melsy88 · 16/09/2026 21:30

I don't think it's specific to dog owners, I think people have just become much more self absorbed the past few years!
I walk past a local primary school in the morning and the amount of times I end up walking in the road because parents are blocking the entire pavement standing chatting with prams etc and no attempt to give any space to anyone else. Had someone tut at me last week for saying "excuse me" 🙄

Globules · 16/09/2026 21:24

@Dunnocantthinkofone @allthiscarryon @missmollygreen

You're all very welcome to join me on my 6.30am run on Friday.

Hopefully I'm not going to need to prevent a dog being killed again.

However the other examples are regular occurances.

But i expect it's easier to believe I've made it up. S'alright. I understand it's easier to say I'm lying than find a reasonable excuse for the poor behaviour i witnessed today.

OP posts:
Smallestshadow · 16/09/2026 21:24

What’s with all the silly ticks and crosses? Is this AI?

Smallestshadow · 16/09/2026 21:22

What’s wrong with a dog in a stroller? They’re not causing any problems and some dogs struggle to walk a lot for various reasons.

Fuckmyliferightnow · 16/09/2026 21:18

noctilucentcloud · 16/09/2026 20:44

That's unacceptable, but unless you only have 3 neighbours there's likely to be a lot more houses that have dogs that you don't hear. I have 5 immediate neighbours with dogs, for 4 of them you don't know the dogs are there, the other 1 you hear barking sometimes during the day but they are told to shut it by their owner.

It’s 3 particular houses that back onto ours, 3 out of the 3 houses have dogs and happen to be shit owners. We’re probably just unlucky.
I personally know of friends and family that bought dogs during covid and they are the worst behaved dogs and none have been trained correctly, the dogs just rule the roost.
It’s quite shocking how relaxed people have become in training their dogs properly.

seahorsessky · 16/09/2026 21:17

nomas · 16/09/2026 19:34

YANBU to be frustrated by inconsiderate dog owners.

But I don't think it's most dog owners, most seem fine.

Apart from dogshit on streets, I don't see too much bad behaviour.

Exactly. There are a lot of rude and entitled people around, and sadly some of them have dogs. It's just like saying all parents are selfish-some are, some aren't. More dog owners than parents tend to be considerate, and at least you're not paying for the bills of the dogs that aren't looked after, but you are paying for health/food/social etc for people who have kids but don't bother looking after them.
There's more litter on the non dog section of the beach (and needles, used condoms etc) than on the dog section.

Papyrophile · 16/09/2026 21:15

But some are lovely. Karen, you are awesome....

Papyrophile · 16/09/2026 21:12

Our main trails circuit 25km, originally for dog walkers, is now dominated by mountain bikes who think it's built for them. I do get quite stroppy. They have an obligation to ride with care and respect for all the trail users, which include motobility scooters, horses and riders, joggers, runners and dog walkers, but they are all less important than cyclists. I hate most cyclists.

Neuronimo · 16/09/2026 21:09

Mostly YANBU and there is so much indignation from people if you express a dislike dogs. The dog in a pram was probably elderly or unwell though. I hate those retractable leads, there have been so many accidents or near misses with bikes and people near me.

DancefloorAcrobatics · 16/09/2026 21:08

Now now... peace & harmony!

Just listen to that Peppa Pig song for a bit of zen

Dog Love GIF
BishBashBoshDumpling · 16/09/2026 21:07

To balance the dog MN doghate -

Cruddy day in the hsopital with my unwell mum yesterday. So many appointments and tests and we seem to be getting nowhere while she gets worse. I was feeling really low and just wanted to cry but didnt want to in front of mum; I want to be strong for her.

Next thing who walks in but a man and a hospital therapy dog! I've never been so happy to stroke a soppy lab and look into those soulful eyes. Exactly what I needed, just when I needed it. Thanks, Clover 🐾

Livelovebehappy · 16/09/2026 21:05

Silly statement, as you don’t know ‘most’ dog owners, only a snapshot of some you’ve seen on your run. On the other hand, don’t get me started on the keep fit brigade of cyclists and runners. They’re such a self entitled bunch, and seem to think they have more rights than pedestrians. They often have a superiority complex and look down on everyone else. I’ve nearly been knocked over on a few occasions by runners. Just balancing up the debate here…..

Papyrophile · 16/09/2026 21:04

@OonaStubbs , if you don't like dogs and consider their existence an affront, then please live in a place where dog ownership is forbidden. In the UK, we rather like dogs, enjoy the company of well trained animals, we use them for sport and for exercise. My beautifully trained, well mannered Lab would have ignored you completely unless you engaged with her. And she would not have bothered your children. In fact, unless you were a squirrel or a rat, or a deer or a cat, and could run fast, she would not even have noted your existence.

Buildingthefuture · 16/09/2026 21:04

Globules · 16/09/2026 20:19

It doesnt really help, no.

A good friend sounds like she has a similar life history to yours.

She would give ticks to DOs 4,5,6,7 and 10 as she wouldn't see a problem with them.

She might even go as far as to say the car should have seen the lead across the road for DO1 and should have been driving slower.

We agreed to disagree about what is acceptable dog behaviour years ago.

Nope. I’m with @Theeternalrocksbeneath since our life and dog experience sounds very similar. The vast majority of dog owners (me included) wouldn’t dream of doing any of the anti social things you observed. Other than #11 which, if you are honest op, is judgemental on your behalf and actually not antisocial at all?
I walk miles and miles with my dogs, in different parts of the country, every single day. Have done for literally decades. I do not witness the things you describe.

Tinnybinnylinny · 16/09/2026 21:01

I am a dog lover and dog owner and I would say it’s 50/50. Dogs not being on leads, the extendable lead, and not picking up the poop. It’s disgusting.

Dunnocantthinkofone · 16/09/2026 20:59

OonaStubbs · 16/09/2026 20:57

I meant inherently selfish act. I don't know I wrote intrinsically.

I expect it was your rush to launch into a mad tirade

OonaStubbs · 16/09/2026 20:57

I meant inherently selfish act. I don't know I wrote intrinsically.

allthiscarryon · 16/09/2026 20:57

Globules · 16/09/2026 19:33

An incident shocked me this morning (see DO1).

It led me to closely observe all the dog owners i subsequently saw this morning on my 6.30am run.

My evidence is conclusive proof that most dog owners are stupid, self absorbed, rude and/or many other negative verbs due to more ❌ than ✔️

YABU: Your evidence is just sampled from the early morning dog walkers on a seafront.

YANBU: I agree. Thank you for the evidence proving it.

NB: This is not a dog bashing thread, as i love dogs. It's a dog owner bashing thread.

DO1: Dog walking one side of the road. Owner walking the other. Extendable lead joining them. Road is a cut through for a busy A road, so it's frequently used at 6.30am. I waved at the car driver, who did an emergency stop. I didn't want the poor dog to die. DO1 at least had the grace to look embarrassed. ❌

DO2: Short lead. Dog tucked into the side of the pavement while pooing. Owner had a bag ready. ✔️

DO3: Extended lead. Owner pulled dog in when they saw me running towards them. ✔️

DO4&5: Pavement 3m wide. Owners walking in the middle. Dogs walking on long lead either side, blocking the path. I jumped over the lead of one of the dogs. ❌❌

DO6: 3 dogs taking up the whole pavement on short leads. The owner glared at me as i approached and huffed at me as I passed.❌

DO7: 2 dogs walking towards me across the whole path. Owner looking at his phone and saw me at the last minute. I stopped while he pulled his dogs in for me to pass. ❌

DO8: Stopped dog from running into the road on an extendable lead when a car was coming.✔️

DO9: Dog walking happily at the side of the 3m wide pavement with owner using their phone. ✔️

DO10: Dog nearly tripping up a pedestrian as they bolted on their extendable lead to chase a seagull ❌

DO11: Dog intermittently being "walked" in a pram.🤦

Whatevs OP. I suspect you’re mainly the issue not the dogs or the owners.
Dogs in ‘prams’ are generally old/infirm/ unable to walk long term.

YeOldeGreyhound · 16/09/2026 20:53

OonaStubbs · 16/09/2026 20:52

If dog owners considered the rights of others they would not own dogs. Owning a dog is an intrinsically selfish act.

Boom, and here you are like clockwork.

Papyrophile · 16/09/2026 20:53

I came into this thread very late, so I am presuming this goes back a few hours?

OonaStubbs · 16/09/2026 20:52

If dog owners considered the rights of others they would not own dogs. Owning a dog is an intrinsically selfish act.

Dunnocantthinkofone · 16/09/2026 20:51

missmollygreen · 16/09/2026 20:51

I assume by "most" you actually mean "the tiny selection of cherry picked examples saw today"?

Quite. Or made up to make a point