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AIBU? Kid's kicking rotting apples in a field / parent had a right go

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TheZanyPanda · 16/09/2026 14:34

Took my two boys (DS15 and DS13) out for a walk and a picnic in the Yorkshire Dales over the weekend. It was lovely—other families were around, everyone was relaxing, and we found a nice spot in a field to sit for a bit.

After eating, I wanted to read my book for half an hour while the boys let off some steam. Near the edge of the field, there were a few wild apple trees with a ton of bruised and rotting apples all over the floor.

The lads decided to have a bit of a kick-about with them. They spent about 30 minutes mucking about with the already-fallen/rotting apples, kicking them to each other like a football, and stepping / stomping on some. They were in my sight the entire time, weren't shouting or swearing, and were just genuinely having innocent fun.

Out of nowhere, another parent walked over and had an absolute kick-off at them (and then me). She was furious, claiming they shouldn't be "kicking fruit" or "making a mess."

I stood up for the boys and said they were just letting off steam, weren't being rowdy, and the apples were already on the ground rotting anyway so no harm was done. She wasn't having it at all—told me we were "ruining the area for everyone" and said we "shouldn't come back," before storming off.

It totally ruined the atmosphere and has left a really sour taste in my mouth. They're teenage boys having a bit of fun and letting off steam with mushy apples in a field, not vandalism!

Am I Being Unreasonable to think she completely overreacted and was way out of line? Or should I have stopped them?

YBU - They were making a mess and ruining the area, leave the fruit alone. YANBU - Harmless fun with rotting apples, the other parent needs to get a grip!

OP posts:
ThatJadeLion · 21/09/2026 17:28

YABU. Its not your fruit. Destructive, disrespectful and possibly making an absolute mess everywhere if this went on for half an hour.

Flamingojune · 21/09/2026 17:33

Hildegard25 · 21/09/2026 16:08

There is no age limit for letting off steam,
The question is
Where
When
How

Thats 3

DooDallyHallie · 21/09/2026 23:35

You should have brought up your children to leave a place as you found it. Fundamental manners snd respect!

Littlegreywolfcub · 23/09/2026 12:13

I'm on Team 'let them kick rotten apples about in the corner of a field'

mrlistersgelfbride · 24/09/2026 20:15

This sounds like annoying behaviour to be honest.
It’s not causing harm, but for people nearby it would have been messy and probably loud to witness.
Whilst there’s nothing inherently wrong i don’t think you can look on it favourably either.
I know i would have been roasted as a child for doing that in a public place, and i’d tell DD to stop doing it.

Kicking a ball about is better. Why? Because it’s not making a big mess.

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