AIBU? Kid's kicking rotting apples in a field / parent had a right go

1 They are already damaged and rotting. Feed your own horses. If it's not fir your own horses, don't feed fruit to other people's horses .

2 It wasn't a ball game

3 Squashed or otherwise the fruit will be eaten.

4 Insects are part of the food chain and ecosystem too. If you can't walk around squashed apples without slipping , you probably need carers.

Squashed apples on a grassy surface would not make it any more slippy.

It depends on the ‘fun’ and how it affects others. I would hope that was obvious.

A few years ago a couple of teens were pissing about throwing milk at each other at the train station. It wasn’t vandalism. But it was inconvenient to the poor sods who had to spend their day stinking of milk. 🥛

The lads were just ‘having fun’.

omg it’s not a frigging library!!!! Seriously kids have to sit quietly when outside in nature so it’s peaceful and quiet?? Get a grip.

It’s downright mental!

You clearly don’t have kids

It’s interesting that people can’t see anything between sitting quietly and annoying people.

Why do the annoyed peoples rights trump the rights of kids playing in an outside space? Why do they not need to be tolerant when they’re not on their own property of other people?

I can not imagine they were very quiet whilst doing this

😂😂😂😂

Do people really go outside and expect silence?

The prescence of children, especially children having fun, seems to really annoy people, though.

You are not seriously expecting children in a public park to be “sitting quietly”, are you?

It wasn't a ball game

Exactly - so why were they kicking them

Probably not wanting screaming ferral kids either

Tough shit, though.

If you don’t like the sound of children having fun, don’t visit public parks.

I like the sound of kids laughing and having fun
I don't like little shitheads causing trouble

I don't like little shitheads causing trouble

This is how you view 2 teenage boys kicking some rotten apples to each other?

This. The boys behaviour sounds like it was probably inbetween and this one woman preferred they were "sitting quietly".

This is my feeling. Seems disrespectful to nature, and its food for wildlife.

Chill your jets love! I am well aware of the misogynistic behaviour young boys and teenagers are allowed to get away with, with poorly informed parents repeating the phrase you used.
I hardly think kicking rotten apples around means these you lads are going to become serial killers 🙄 Misogynistic behaviours are learned by many social factors, are they not?

"Disrespectful to nature".

Ffs 😂

Ok, clearly you feel strongly about this. I see your point of view, but disagree. That’s the thing about points of view; there is by definition more than one. There is no “right” one. I can see your perspective but I disagree - I would rather see them feed people/horses (always my own and always with windfalls from our orchard - we get plenty) and it seems probable to me that they are likely to sustain insects for a longer period if they are not squashed, which is surely better for the ecosystem?

But it’s just an opinion. I tried to express mine mildly and without judgement. Because it’s not a big deal, which is why I said I’d likely have thought those things, but wouldn’t have said anything.

Don’t really understand why it’s apparently not possible for you to express a differing opinion politely and respectfully, but that’s really a you problem, if you want to work on it.

The kids were left to kick rotten apples around for 30 minutes before anyone spoke up. By then people probably got fed up of having to dodge rotten apples. They were tolerated for 30 minutes. It won't kill the little darlings to then be told to pack it in.

Nowhere but in your post is there any mention of screaming.

Don’t be ridiculous. Read it again. Nothing wrong with them having fun. People aren’t claiming they should be sitting quietly.

But posters are acting like the only options were sitting quietly or fucking about sufficiently to piss someone off to the point they had to say something.

Surely they could have amused themselves without pissing people off?

I think what is tricky about this thread is that it was a public space.

I think if this were a private garden, I really couldn't have an issue with it whatsoever, which to me tells me there is nothing fundamentally overly destructive or inapproriate.

People have been discussing whether it was actually harming anyone or anything etc. And probably it wasn't in any really tangible sense, like broken windows or harming living trees or plants.

But maybe what some people are objecting to comes from envisioning - and we cannot know this, having not been there - a sort of behaviour that IS annoying and anti-social, namely when people take over a public space and treat it as their own, with lack of awareness of those round them. This is a really common thing in family pubs or restaurants, especially with large groups, where they talk loudly, laugh very loudly, move about from the table to wherever they go (car, loos, toddlers to see the goat outside...) more obviously and more often than others and just generally make themselves hyper CONSPICUOUS. Often this can involve things that are not harmful per se, but which indicate an over-familiar or presumptuous interaction with their surroundings, such as extensive swapping of cushions from where they have been provided, or excessive moving of furniture. Obviously, sometimes you do gently remove a cushion from behind your back, or swap one chair for another, but this sort of behaviour can involve these types of people doing things like piling all the cushions in one area on the banquette for toddlers to lie across, or pulling the table to a different space to catch the sun etc. And I do think there is a very anti-social element to this, even if you cannot argue they are harming anyone or anything.

The OP has said the boys were not close to other park users, but we are possibly all seeing this differently in our mind's eye, because, despite trying to rationalise this game as harmless, I still have an overwhelming reaction - as have many others on here - that I wouldn't let my dc do it - or at least not for such a prolonged length of time.

Similarly, I might well enjoy being part of one or two loud, belly-rocking jokes when dining out in a group, but if this continued for a sustained period, I would start to feel awkward and as though we were using the place in a way that was being oblivious to other diners.

To me it has something to do with the unspoken social contract that while, yes, we all have a right to be in a public space, to use it politely and considerately, we try to be relatively discreet. And booting rotten apples about, even if a little distant from other people in the park, maybe trespasses on this considerate and discreet usage of a public space.

I didnt know there was an age limit for letting off steam

There is no age limit for letting off steam,
The question is
Where
When
How