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To ask if it’s worth seeing the GP about lack of periods

35 replies

PithyPoet · 15/09/2026 23:48

I just turned 30 in August and haven’t had a period for around three years. I’ve been irregular since I started at 11. Just think because I’m quite overweight (which I’m working on) they won’t take me seriously

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Jerrybalanitis · 15/09/2026 23:51

Yes! Please don't ask Mumsnet, you will be told it isnt a GP job to see patients. This isnt normal and needs investigation.

AutumnAllTheWay · 15/09/2026 23:53

At 30? Yes!!

nocoolnamesleft · 15/09/2026 23:53

Please do see your GP. Agree that this needs looking into.

nozbottheblue · 15/09/2026 23:57

Yes, please talk to your gp. If the lack of periods is connected to being overweight they will be able to tell you, but they will do investigations as well to check for other problems.
If they don’t ’take you seriously’ you need to ask to see a different gp!

StrugglingAlong75 · 15/09/2026 23:58

Yes. It can be due to severe iron deficiency among other things.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 16/09/2026 00:28

@PithyPoet then find a new doctor.
It could be anything.
JFC you've been irregular your whole life and have never had a proper exam, diagnosis and plan? That is criminal. It's not 1975, fgs. You have a right to proactive health care.

StolenTeapots · 16/09/2026 00:30

Yes!!!!!!!!!

It could be poi in which case out need hrt

Mumtobabyhavoc · 16/09/2026 00:46

To add, from AI:

The fact that your periods were always highly irregular before stopping completely for three years points toward an ongoing, long-term ovulation issue rather than a sudden lifestyle shock.
When a young woman experiences irregular periods followed by years of no periods, it often means the body's natural ovulation signals have been weak or inconsistent for a long time.
Common Potential Causes
A doctor will likely investigate a few specific conditions based on this history:

  • Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS): This is one of the most frequent causes of long-term irregular periods that eventually stop. In PCOS, hormone imbalances prevent eggs from maturing and releasing regularly, which can cause periods to be months apart or stop entirely.
  • Hypothalamic Amenorrhea: If you have experienced chronic stress, long-term low body weight, restrictive eating, or intense athletic training over the last several years, the brain's hypothalamus may have gradually shut down the signals that trigger ovulation.
  • Primary Ovarian Insufficiency (POI): Though less common, POI occurs when the ovaries stop functioning normally before age 40. This can cause periods to become increasingly irregular before stopping completely.
  • Prolactinoma: A small, benign growth on the pituitary gland can cause an overproduction of the hormone prolactin, which gradually suppresses ovulation and stops the menstrual cycle.
StolenTeapots · 16/09/2026 01:00

Mumtobabyhavoc · 16/09/2026 00:46

To add, from AI:

The fact that your periods were always highly irregular before stopping completely for three years points toward an ongoing, long-term ovulation issue rather than a sudden lifestyle shock.
When a young woman experiences irregular periods followed by years of no periods, it often means the body's natural ovulation signals have been weak or inconsistent for a long time.
Common Potential Causes
A doctor will likely investigate a few specific conditions based on this history:

  • Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS): This is one of the most frequent causes of long-term irregular periods that eventually stop. In PCOS, hormone imbalances prevent eggs from maturing and releasing regularly, which can cause periods to be months apart or stop entirely.
  • Hypothalamic Amenorrhea: If you have experienced chronic stress, long-term low body weight, restrictive eating, or intense athletic training over the last several years, the brain's hypothalamus may have gradually shut down the signals that trigger ovulation.
  • Primary Ovarian Insufficiency (POI): Though less common, POI occurs when the ovaries stop functioning normally before age 40. This can cause periods to become increasingly irregular before stopping completely.
  • Prolactinoma: A small, benign growth on the pituitary gland can cause an overproduction of the hormone prolactin, which gradually suppresses ovulation and stops the menstrual cycle.

Do you not think op could Google herself? Why are you posting bloody AI responses? The is a chat thread not a ai search bar.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 16/09/2026 03:12

StolenTeapots · 16/09/2026 01:00

Do you not think op could Google herself? Why are you posting bloody AI responses? The is a chat thread not a ai search bar.

Oh for Christ's sake. 🙄
Whatever.

DoAWheelie · 16/09/2026 03:58

Mine got more and more irregular for a few years before stopping late last year at 35. It turned out that I have severe hypothyroidism, and I'm currently having my first period of the year now that I've been on meds for a few weeks.

I'm fat and they took it seriously from the start and did all sorts of tests.

Wajeehakamran · 16/09/2026 08:13

Definitely worth seeing your GP. Going three years without periods is something that should be checked, regardless of your weight, and you deserve to be taken seriously. There can be several reasons for it, so it’s better to get it properly investigated.

Antsinmypantsneedtodance · 16/09/2026 08:17

Yes even if you have an idea of the source of it. I.e you know you have pmos (formally pcos) it's something to check out. I didnt have a period for over a year. I have PMOS. Had a blood test to rule out some causes and referred for another ultrasound. Nothing showed up. In the end i tried myoinnistol and had a period within a few weeks and then regular ever since.

Tillow4ever · 16/09/2026 08:36

Definitely get it checked out op. It could be something serious, but more likely something easy to resolve (eg iron deficiency, b12 deficiency, thyroid issues, etc).

sharksnip · 16/09/2026 08:43

Yes op go to your gp. My sister didn’t gave a period for a year and went to her gp who was shocked she’d left it that long. She had some bloods and a scan. Pcos was diagnosed and now she’s on the mini pill. You need to protect your womb lining by having regular periods x

PithyPoet · 19/09/2026 16:57

Antsinmypantsneedtodance · 16/09/2026 08:17

Yes even if you have an idea of the source of it. I.e you know you have pmos (formally pcos) it's something to check out. I didnt have a period for over a year. I have PMOS. Had a blood test to rule out some causes and referred for another ultrasound. Nothing showed up. In the end i tried myoinnistol and had a period within a few weeks and then regular ever since.

I think it’s pcos obviously not confirmed but that’s what other symptoms I have point to

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PithyPoet · 19/09/2026 16:58

DoAWheelie · 16/09/2026 03:58

Mine got more and more irregular for a few years before stopping late last year at 35. It turned out that I have severe hypothyroidism, and I'm currently having my first period of the year now that I've been on meds for a few weeks.

I'm fat and they took it seriously from the start and did all sorts of tests.

Do you mind me asking please if you had other symptoms or was it just the loss of periods

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user1464187087 · 19/09/2026 17:03

PithyPoet · 15/09/2026 23:48

I just turned 30 in August and haven’t had a period for around three years. I’ve been irregular since I started at 11. Just think because I’m quite overweight (which I’m working on) they won’t take me seriously

Ah they absolutely should take you seriously. I would speak with your GP.
I've had to do similar recently, but i'm quite a bit older than you.

SummerInSun · 19/09/2026 17:11

As everyone else said, you absolutely should. At 30, you may well want to be trying for a child at some point in the next 5 years, so you need to get ahead of this now and know what your options are. Especially if you might need fertility treatment, it’s worth knowing that and being able to reach the rules in your area eg if there is an age cut off for NHS treatment.

Createausername1970 · 19/09/2026 17:13

StolenTeapots · 16/09/2026 01:00

Do you not think op could Google herself? Why are you posting bloody AI responses? The is a chat thread not a ai search bar.

👏

gorillainbasketballcircle · 19/09/2026 17:15

A family member stopped having periods in her mid-20s - it was POI. Get checked out!

OneNewEagle · 19/09/2026 17:26

I had a health problem in my late 20s one of the symptoms being no periods. The GP was great and I was referred to a gynaecologist.

SleepyHollowed84 · 19/09/2026 17:42

Please, please go to your GP and not Mumsnet. Please.

CoolAsACourgette · 19/09/2026 17:46

I'm a GP and I would absolutely want to see you (I'd want to see anyone who hadn't had a period for more that 3 months to investigate)

fashionqueen0123 · 19/09/2026 17:47

I’ve met women in their ttc journey who lost a lot of weight and their periods came back. But I also had a slim friend who has to take a tablet everyday for a pituitary non benign tumour. So it’s not always just being overweight or obese.

Get checked out. You can still loose weight while waiting for appts