Have you cut out a dramatic friend?

Yes absolutely stop responding and stop picking up her calls on a Friday night. Choose peace.

You have to cut people like this off completely. She obviously enjoys the drama and dragging you into it. Just stop responding to her. Ignore calls and messages. When you're not there for her to rant to she won't have any interest in you. Enjoy the peace.

The only potential thing left to try is telling her bluntly that you don't want to know all of this drama. That is exhausting and you've had enough. It probably wouldn't go down well but if you're thinking of giving up completely at least you've not got anything to lose.

Do what makes you feel better about your part in this, sometimes you've got no choice but to cut someone loose.

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I have dumped loads of people over the years - l am age 54 now - the big wake up call for me was when my daughter got type 1 diabetes age nine in 2015 and l had no time to listen to other so called long term friends pathetic complaints - cut her out TODAY - l am married to and like peace and quiet now too - l am to old for drama

Yes indeed the friend at work and out of it who has accused numerous men at work of SA. Also did this in school and her last job.
She's 58 for fucks sake.
Two of them are currently suspended from work pending investigation.
She even accused her GP of SA.
I want nothing to do with it or her because she is clearly nuts. She must have accused nearly 20 people by now. I was horrified when I heard.

She’s not running into the fire, she’s BATHING in it. Let her enjoy it. But don’t join her. And to quote a phrase, “don’t set yourself on fire to save someone from burning” (as not burning but bathing!).

Not in the same way but in the past I definitely thrived on drama. I explored in therapy that essentially you get a rush from it. It’s so easy to create conflict and drama to feed it. I made a conscious decision to change and become a more positive person, to avoid conflict and drama and live a peaceful and contented life.

But many people just never change and if I were you I would cut off this friendship. It’s exhausting being constantly dragged into other peoples drama, especially when it’s a pattern and you know they won’t change.

I cringe now when I look back at how I used to behave. I never harmed anyone, I didn’t even really drag others into it - but it was unhealthy for me.

I would probably explain why I was cutting her before doing it. It would be a long message but it would mean she wouldn't be posting on here asking why a friend is suddenly "ghosting" her. I would be quite blunt and honest about the repeating behaviours, that she doesn't really listen to your advice anyway, so it feels pointless to continue wasting your evenings in a never ending drama you are becoming bored of. I know she has been a pest but I do think leaving her with some info on hand as to why you cba going through this again will save you being bothered by her turning up or whatever. I'd end it with something like "I don't think we need to make a drama out of this, I just thought I would fully explain why I have to move on and discontinue our friendship. Life is too short.".

YANBU Some people might enjoy the vicarious drama for a bit, I suppose.

I've worked very hard for my peace and people who want to disrupt it, I don't have time for them.

I'd be honest about it with her. You're sick of listening to her bf drama and venting about it for 30 years. This is fucking around and not finding out. She sounds immature and attention seeking and that maybe your friendship has been one where the support mainly goes one way. You're there to be the Caring Ear and make soothing noises because it's not like she listens to you. You've just run out of fucks to give now.

It’s amazing how, once you stop giving attention to their dramas they magically disappear.

I stop responding to every conversation, message and I stop asking where they are going on and on and on about something i really couldnt care about. Stop feeding the fire and it’ll die out eventually

A little different but my sil is like this. Everything is a drama and some random man followed her home or someone at church was rude or her mum almost fell...its a complete pain and basically we have to put up with it until mil dies. Dreadful to say but honest.

You can walk away op...so do for your own sake. There's a reason why she has had failed relationship after failed relationship

I felt relief when I completely cut my friend from my life. I've never regretted it.

Yep age 55 now and don’t need drama of my own, let alone someone else’s.

Stop responding, stop being available to her every call. She will soon get the message and if not tell her you don’t need drama in your life. Invest your time in people who add value and enjoyment to your life.

Yes, just don’t answer at weekends - if you don’t want to cut contact maybe pick up the calls in the week when the drama has passed.
I think once we get to our 50s we have less tolerance for people who create their own mess and want us to be the audience/pick up the pieces.

Totally agree, it’s definitely an age thing where you just get to a point where you can’t be arsed with other people’s sh!t anymore.

Ive been the cut out dramatic friend when I was in my 20s. Now im in my 50s I totally get it.

Fair play to my ex f at a young age for not putting up with my shit. In our 50s we are definitely too old for such nonsense.

Don't doubt your decision. Put you and your family first.

Personally I think ghosting her after 30 years of friendship would make you a bit of a d!ck.

You don’t have to be friends with her and her drama of course. However ‘break up’ with her properly. Tell her why you’re distancing yourself from her.

A 30 year friendship deserves some honesty. The end result is not speaking to her either way, so give her closure.

I would just tell her you're in your 50s now and finding her drama simply to much and to no longer ring you every weekend she has an arugement as you can't be doing with it.

Unfortunately you know what she's like and you know she loves her drama, so there's no point trying to have a discussion about it.

You just need to stop answering the phone and any messages all together. I think the term is ghosting.

Don't answer or respond. I blocked and cut out an ex colleague who would scatter call and text or email everyone each time there was a problem which was always her own doing...car runs out of oil on motorway at 3am..so calls friends up....son has a parking ticket...calls etc at 2 am asking for legal advice !!...i could write a book....i stopped answering the calls and emails and then blocked her, she has moved away so now i am safe from any more contact, the whole thing was totally draining, now i am very careful about who gets my number etc. This woman obviously had issues, after blocking her, she would stuff notes through my letter box asking if i was ok, followed by a paragraph about the latest drama or incident !

I have had to do this in the past. I told her it was beyond my pay grade and that I will not respond or acknowledge anything about this topic anymore. I only responded to appropriate topics. She did eventually learn when she had no more audience or at least stopped trying to discuss it with me. Well one of my friends like this at least, lol. I know One still that lives the drama life....I ignore her completely.

yanbu but just remember she doesn’t have the comfortable relationship you have and that’s probably what she’s chasing, she’d probably rather not have to deal with the drama either she’s just meeting the wrong men!