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AIBU to be upset after a dog jumped at our baby?

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KellyK2026 · 15/09/2026 12:14

Okay, so myself, DH and baby were at a country park the other week. Baby was getting hungry so we sat ourselves down on a park bench and got some food out. A woman was walking with her family and dog and the dog must’ve smelt the food as it suddenly
comes bounding over and is jumping at baby (who is on DH knee) to get the food. We don’t know this dog and don’t know what it's capable of. I scream at the owner that we have a baby and to get her dog under control. At this point, she’s pretty far away and is taking her time to come over. My DH then kicks the dog to get it off them as it just will not stop. The woman wasn’t particularly apologetic and seemed shocked. Did we overreact?

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KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 13:27

Couldyoustfu · 16/09/2026 13:23

You can disagree with me but some things are factually accurate whether you ‘agree’ with them or not.

It has been put to the test many times, it’s well documented. Again, you can read about it and gain some knowledge if you want. If you don’t, you can continue to be incorrect and call it disagreement.

The only reason I can fathom that she wouldn’t want to educate herself is that she has a jumpy dog and wants to stick her head in the sand instead of being responsible to other people and her dog.

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Lacksie · 16/09/2026 13:30

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 13:25

Are you insane? The dog made physical contact with my infant child several times. If you read the law you will be aware that this escalates it from an ‘out of control’ offence to a ‘aggravated offence’. It didn’t have to bite my baby because, legally, contact is enough. While a dog jumping up at an adult is unlikely to cause harm, a dog jumping up and making contact with a baby can be catastrophic. That’s why it is dealt with differently. The law on this is extremely black and white.

No, I’m not insane. I simply disagree with both your characterisation of what happened and your extremely confident interpretation of the law.

If anything similar happens again, do please report it and put your theory—that any physical contact between a dog and a baby automatically constitutes an aggravated offence—to the test.

DontEatTheMushies · 16/09/2026 13:33

Love how completely unhinged the comments got on this - knew it would.

They told it to get down, is kept at them, so they physically pushed hte dog away wit their foot - better than bend down and get headbutted by a strange dog.
It had 0 recall, 0 manners, 0 training. Definition of not under control off the lead. It caused alarm - which doesn't matter if its growling or happy, its the alarm felt by the person the dog is getting at. Dog owner probably would get a fine.

My horse once got chased by an off leash dog that jumped up at it...dog got a swift kick in the guts from the horse - which just reacted as any prey animal would to a perceived predator.

Letting the badly behaved dog jump all over the kid would be bad parenting. That would possibly make the kid scared of dogs - it did for my youngest. I will pet all dogs, OH is a dog magnet, but people having dogs that don't respect boundaries and have 0 recall is why my youngest dislikes dogs. Despite all our attempts to change that.

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 13:33

Lacksie · 16/09/2026 13:30

No, I’m not insane. I simply disagree with both your characterisation of what happened and your extremely confident interpretation of the law.

If anything similar happens again, do please report it and put your theory—that any physical contact between a dog and a baby automatically constitutes an aggravated offence—to the test.

It’s not a theory, it’s the law. I don’t know how you can disagree with what happened when you weren’t there, but alright.

And I am extremely confident because I did the research and you don’t even seem to know that a dog jumping up and making contact with an infant is escalated to a much more serious offence. That’s worrying if you’re a dog owner.

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Cloudysky81 · 16/09/2026 13:35

Completely the right reaction, if a dog approaches my baby and I perceive it to be a risk I’m going to kick it.
My baby is more important than any dog.

Dogs should be leashed or under complete recall control in public.

Couldyoustfu · 16/09/2026 13:36

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 13:27

The only reason I can fathom that she wouldn’t want to educate herself is that she has a jumpy dog and wants to stick her head in the sand instead of being responsible to other people and her dog.

We can only hope she doesn’t have a dog. But I suspect she does and, like an astonishing number of dog owners (not all of course) believes that the law doesn’t apply to her because her dog is generally good natured. Or is very fluffy?

Lacksie · 16/09/2026 13:39

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 13:33

It’s not a theory, it’s the law. I don’t know how you can disagree with what happened when you weren’t there, but alright.

And I am extremely confident because I did the research and you don’t even seem to know that a dog jumping up and making contact with an infant is escalated to a much more serious offence. That’s worrying if you’re a dog owner.

You are incorrect I'm afraid.

Physical contact with an infant does not automatically constitute an aggravated offence.

The CPS guidance states: “The offence becomes an aggravated offence … if the dog injures any person or an assistance dog while out of control.”

There needs to be injury for an aggravated offence.

https://www.cps.gov.uk/prosecution-guidance/dangerous-dog-offences

The dog could be considered deangerously out of control if there were reasonable grounds to fear injury, but that is a context-dependent assessment - so I suggest you test things out in practice to learn how it is applied.

Dangerous Dog Offences | The Crown Prosecution Service

https://www.cps.gov.uk/prosecution-guidance/dangerous-dog-offences

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 13:41

Lacksie · 16/09/2026 13:39

You are incorrect I'm afraid.

Physical contact with an infant does not automatically constitute an aggravated offence.

The CPS guidance states: “The offence becomes an aggravated offence … if the dog injures any person or an assistance dog while out of control.”

There needs to be injury for an aggravated offence.

https://www.cps.gov.uk/prosecution-guidance/dangerous-dog-offences

The dog could be considered deangerously out of control if there were reasonable grounds to fear injury, but that is a context-dependent assessment - so I suggest you test things out in practice to learn how it is applied.

Its paws did leave a scratch on my baby. Nothing major, but enough for me to notice when I undressed them.

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WannaSweetie · 16/09/2026 13:43

I’ve read OPs posts which include her responses to comments & they’re getting some flak here! I’ve been a dog owner for over 25 years & it always astounds me those owners who let a dog with poor recall off lead.

OP if I’d been in the same situation with any of my grandchildren I’d have done the same as you did with a persistent unknown dog. And fwiw a ‘kick’ doesn’t mean the dog was booted into orbit, more a foot to move/keep it away as a last resort. The OP doesn’t need ‘training’ in how to react to a persistent dog.

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 13:59

Lacksie · 16/09/2026 13:39

You are incorrect I'm afraid.

Physical contact with an infant does not automatically constitute an aggravated offence.

The CPS guidance states: “The offence becomes an aggravated offence … if the dog injures any person or an assistance dog while out of control.”

There needs to be injury for an aggravated offence.

https://www.cps.gov.uk/prosecution-guidance/dangerous-dog-offences

The dog could be considered deangerously out of control if there were reasonable grounds to fear injury, but that is a context-dependent assessment - so I suggest you test things out in practice to learn how it is applied.

So what’s your excuse for the dog and owner now? Nothing?

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KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 14:00

WannaSweetie · 16/09/2026 13:43

I’ve read OPs posts which include her responses to comments & they’re getting some flak here! I’ve been a dog owner for over 25 years & it always astounds me those owners who let a dog with poor recall off lead.

OP if I’d been in the same situation with any of my grandchildren I’d have done the same as you did with a persistent unknown dog. And fwiw a ‘kick’ doesn’t mean the dog was booted into orbit, more a foot to move/keep it away as a last resort. The OP doesn’t need ‘training’ in how to react to a persistent dog.

Interestingly I just came across this where a woman kicked an aggressive dog. It worked on the dog but then the owners attacked her! Mad.

www.facebook.com/share/r/1Dmf2rZeJ3/?mibextid=wwXIfr

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BishBashBoshDumpling · 16/09/2026 14:06

Six of one and half a dozen of the other.

It is true that the dog was out of control according to the 1993 Act. It is also true that you may have genuinely believed that the force you used was necessary. That is how it would be applied. (We can agree or disagree whether it was or was not necessary, but the law works on the force that was reasonable in the circumstances as you honestly believed them to be

It was not an aggravated offence though. @KellyK2026 stated: "The dog made physical contact with my infant child several times… contact is enough [to make it] an aggravated offence.”

This is not true, legally. The CPS is very clear ... as follows: "The offence becomes an aggravated offence, and triable either way, if the dog injures any person or an assistance dog while out of control." (see link below, under section titled: Evidential considerations – dogs dangerously out of control (all dogs)".

Put another way - Under s.3 of the Dangerous Dogs Act 1991, there is a basic offence where a dog is dangerously out of control. It becomes an aggravated offence if the dog injures a person while dangerously out of control. The CPS expressly describes it that way.

So:
physical contact ≠ automatically injury.

You're sort of right and ... also not right at the same time!

BishBashBoshDumpling · 16/09/2026 14:09

link here ... see if this time works
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Dangerous Dog Offences | Gwasanaeth Erlyn y Goron

https://www.cps.gov.uk/cy/node/5581

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 14:09

BishBashBoshDumpling · 16/09/2026 14:06

Six of one and half a dozen of the other.

It is true that the dog was out of control according to the 1993 Act. It is also true that you may have genuinely believed that the force you used was necessary. That is how it would be applied. (We can agree or disagree whether it was or was not necessary, but the law works on the force that was reasonable in the circumstances as you honestly believed them to be

It was not an aggravated offence though. @KellyK2026 stated: "The dog made physical contact with my infant child several times… contact is enough [to make it] an aggravated offence.”

This is not true, legally. The CPS is very clear ... as follows: "The offence becomes an aggravated offence, and triable either way, if the dog injures any person or an assistance dog while out of control." (see link below, under section titled: Evidential considerations – dogs dangerously out of control (all dogs)".

Put another way - Under s.3 of the Dangerous Dogs Act 1991, there is a basic offence where a dog is dangerously out of control. It becomes an aggravated offence if the dog injures a person while dangerously out of control. The CPS expressly describes it that way.

So:
physical contact ≠ automatically injury.

You're sort of right and ... also not right at the same time!

Edited

As I’ve said earlier, the dog left a scratch on my baby. It wasn’t a major injury and not something I immediately noticed, but there was a scratch where the dog had lunged at them and thrown its weight on them with its front paws.

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BishBashBoshDumpling · 16/09/2026 14:11

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 14:09

As I’ve said earlier, the dog left a scratch on my baby. It wasn’t a major injury and not something I immediately noticed, but there was a scratch where the dog had lunged at them and thrown its weight on them with its front paws.

Wow ...that's quite a drip feed!

One which page of the ten pages of OP's posts was this revealed?

It's a significant enough detail to be in the first one or two posts.

ETA- it also doesn't make your statement of "contact is enough to make it an aggravated offence" suddenly correct. Contact alone is not an aggravated offence according to the CPS. (It's still not good in polite society of course, but it is not an aggravated offence)

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 14:13

BishBashBoshDumpling · 16/09/2026 14:11

Wow ...that's quite a drip feed!

One which page of the ten pages of OP's posts was this revealed?

It's a significant enough detail to be in the first one or two posts.

ETA- it also doesn't make your statement of "contact is enough to make it an aggravated offence" suddenly correct. Contact alone is not an aggravated offence according to the CPS. (It's still not good in polite society of course, but it is not an aggravated offence)

Edited

Well my initial post was about the exact moment. As I said it wasn’t major but I certainly noticed it when I got my baby undressed. Of course it’s going to leave some mark on a baby, whose skin is pretty fragile, if it throws itself at it. As I’ve said countless times it made contact with my baby atleast three times before my DH managed to use his body to shield the baby.

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Lacksie · 16/09/2026 14:14

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 13:59

So what’s your excuse for the dog and owner now? Nothing?

What are you talking about?

I was simply correcting completely ridiculous claims you repeatedly made about the law. Namely - that any physical contact between a baby and a dog constitutes an aggravated offence under the dangerous dog act. That is wrong and silly.

Now on page 35 of this thread you've decided to suddenly claim that the dog injured your baby.

I have nothing to say to that - I think it speaks for itself.

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 14:17

Lacksie · 16/09/2026 14:14

What are you talking about?

I was simply correcting completely ridiculous claims you repeatedly made about the law. Namely - that any physical contact between a baby and a dog constitutes an aggravated offence under the dangerous dog act. That is wrong and silly.

Now on page 35 of this thread you've decided to suddenly claim that the dog injured your baby.

I have nothing to say to that - I think it speaks for itself.

Edited

My baby wasn’t injured, it was scratched which is what happens when an adult dog lunges at an infant with its paws. I know the law and I know what happened. But no doubt you’re still insisting that it was just a friendly dog.

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Lacksie · 16/09/2026 14:21

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 14:17

My baby wasn’t injured, it was scratched which is what happens when an adult dog lunges at an infant with its paws. I know the law and I know what happened. But no doubt you’re still insisting that it was just a friendly dog.

ok

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 14:22

Lacksie · 16/09/2026 14:21

ok

I’ll take that as an apology

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Lacksie · 16/09/2026 14:25

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 14:22

I’ll take that as an apology

ok 😂

Spidey66 · 16/09/2026 14:25

Of course you’re not unreasonable. And I say that as a dog owner and lover.

my dog is friendly and loves being petted and fussed. She’s very good with kids. However I will only let her interact with older children say 3 up (between 3 and 6 or so if VERY closely supervised by me and the parents with my dog on a very short lead) who understand ‘be gentle, don’t pull her tail’ etc. I’m very nervous of her near babies and toddlers. I’m sure they’ll be fine but at the end of the day both can be unpredictable and I don’t want to take the risk the baby might poke her eye or something and she’ll respond by snapping. Also she’s a border collie and medium sized, which is quite big next to a baby. It’s not worth the risk. The baby could be hurt and/or traumatised, my dog would be put down, and both myself and the parent could never get over it.

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 14:25

Lacksie · 16/09/2026 14:25

ok 😂

Yep

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KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 14:28

Spidey66 · 16/09/2026 14:25

Of course you’re not unreasonable. And I say that as a dog owner and lover.

my dog is friendly and loves being petted and fussed. She’s very good with kids. However I will only let her interact with older children say 3 up (between 3 and 6 or so if VERY closely supervised by me and the parents with my dog on a very short lead) who understand ‘be gentle, don’t pull her tail’ etc. I’m very nervous of her near babies and toddlers. I’m sure they’ll be fine but at the end of the day both can be unpredictable and I don’t want to take the risk the baby might poke her eye or something and she’ll respond by snapping. Also she’s a border collie and medium sized, which is quite big next to a baby. It’s not worth the risk. The baby could be hurt and/or traumatised, my dog would be put down, and both myself and the parent could never get over it.

Edited

Thank you for being a responsible dog owner. I share the same thoughts. You’re not just protecting the people around you, you’re protecting your dog by taking precautions. I’ll never understand dog owners who make up excuses for their dogs like they don’t realise that they are actually putting their dog in danger.

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BishBashBoshDumpling · 16/09/2026 14:29

KellyK2026 · 16/09/2026 14:17

My baby wasn’t injured, it was scratched which is what happens when an adult dog lunges at an infant with its paws. I know the law and I know what happened. But no doubt you’re still insisting that it was just a friendly dog.

Whether it is friendly or not doesn't matter. It was out of control according to the law.

Your language is very emotionally intense, naturally of course. You are a mother to a young infant and you were frightened. ETA - you used the force that you deemed necessary at the time which is entirely ok and fine according to our law.

You appear to be insisting that any contact between infant and dog will always result in scratches which is obviously emotionally overwrought and not entirely true.

It is possible a dog could touch a baby without leaving a scratch. In this instance however, it did leave a scratch, which could potentially constitiute aggravated offence?

In other words, moving from “the dog touched my baby” to “the dog scratched/injured my baby” is legally significant.

I notice you have also gone from "jumping up" to "lunging".

It must exhausting being in a courtroom all day debating nuances, subtly of language, reasonable force etc. No wonder they are paid so well.

As Aristotle once said (I'm not high brow, anyone who has watched legally blonde will know this one) - "The Law is reason free from passion" - which is how this debate of the legality of wording has ended up unfolding!

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