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NerrSnerr · 15/09/2026 17:37

LondonLass2026 · 15/09/2026 17:32

When she shat herself in the race? That wasn't last weekend! I remember it, I was away for the weekend and saw it then.

We must be talking at cross purposes then.

The race was in Beijing the weekend just gone. I would edit your first post as it’s clearly not about this incident.

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/09/2026 17:33

Bitsostuff · 15/09/2026 17:22

Perhaps by reflecting on their behaviour and making different choices next time? Or should we just continue pretending it OK to spread shit on stuff?

I have crohns and am sadly no stranger to continence related accidents. When they happen do you think I should a) take some time to sort myself out even if it disrupts my work/plans/evening out? Or would you be happy for me to just continue with my day and fuck everyone else? Seriously?

She’s not going to get a next time is she? The woman’s life and career as she knows it is over.

have you seen the ray gun documentary? She came through the other end eventually (albeit with a changed life) but it was very, very seriously damaging for her and could’ve gone the other way.

LondonLass2026 · 15/09/2026 17:32

catsarethefuture · 15/09/2026 15:03

How did you watch it a few weeks ago if it happened last weekend 🤔

When she shat herself in the race? That wasn't last weekend! I remember it, I was away for the weekend and saw it then.

We must be talking at cross purposes then.

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/09/2026 17:31

Cailleach1 · 15/09/2026 17:21

The other option is someone like JW spreading faeces (liquid) over items, and flooring, with which the other competitors come into close contact. Or even to the extent of inhaling droplets. That could severely damage their physical health. Even life threatening under the right conditions, if with infection.

If you throw body fluids at someone, I think it can be classed as assault. JW was depositing her faeces (it may be inadvertent or/and a pattern) around the course with which her opponents had to come into close contact.

Now, if the poster who said they had seen JW excrete liquid faeces was watching a previous competition (it wasn’t this one considering the timeline), that means that JW is repeatedly doing this. I imagine it is a bit of a handicap for the other competitors. Not to mention the hygiene and contamination aspect.

Does JW spread her faeces (like slurry) around all the events in which she competes, I wonder? How about wearing an adult nappy then?

The other option is the organisers stopped the event, which is their legal and ethical responsibility

Hghardy · 15/09/2026 17:30

Bitsostuff · 15/09/2026 17:22

Perhaps by reflecting on their behaviour and making different choices next time? Or should we just continue pretending it OK to spread shit on stuff?

I have crohns and am sadly no stranger to continence related accidents. When they happen do you think I should a) take some time to sort myself out even if it disrupts my work/plans/evening out? Or would you be happy for me to just continue with my day and fuck everyone else? Seriously?

I have ibs and have to take a change of clothes to work and have constant anxiety about shitting myself. I would be mortified.

MummyJ36 · 15/09/2026 17:28

I was so shocked when I saw this. This is absolutely disgusting for everyone involved. Most people would feel shame if they did this publicly (unless they were very ill - in which case they shouldn’t be doing a competition). They definitely need a rule moving forward about not being able to continue if you literally shit your pants and subject everyone to that for the remainder of the competition 🤮

Jaxhog · 15/09/2026 17:23

KidsAndDogsGalore · 15/09/2026 15:25

You are joking, right?

My point is - would we still have been so critical?

Bitsostuff · 15/09/2026 17:22

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/09/2026 17:17

I don’t think me, sat in London on my arse, is a useful additional in adding to, or calling for, the public shaming of an Australian athlete who competed in a sports events event in China, no.

do you think your challenging is doing anything apart from adding to the clicks, algorithms and coverage that a human person at the centre of it will see?

how does anyone deal with that?

Perhaps by reflecting on their behaviour and making different choices next time? Or should we just continue pretending it OK to spread shit on stuff?

I have crohns and am sadly no stranger to continence related accidents. When they happen do you think I should a) take some time to sort myself out even if it disrupts my work/plans/evening out? Or would you be happy for me to just continue with my day and fuck everyone else? Seriously?

Cailleach1 · 15/09/2026 17:21

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/09/2026 17:08

Until it’s so great people severely damage their mental health or kill themselves, anyway

The other option is someone like JW spreading faeces (liquid) over items, and flooring, with which the other competitors come into close contact. Or even to the extent of inhaling droplets. That could severely damage their physical health. Even life threatening under the right conditions, if with infection.

If you throw body fluids at someone, I think it can be classed as assault. JW was depositing her faeces (it may be inadvertent or/and a pattern) around the course with which her opponents had to come into close contact.

Now, if the poster who said they had seen JW excrete liquid faeces was watching a previous competition (it wasn’t this one considering the timeline), that means that JW is repeatedly doing this. I imagine it is a bit of a handicap for the other competitors. Not to mention the hygiene and contamination aspect.

Does JW spread her faeces (like slurry) around all the events in which she competes, I wonder? How about wearing an adult nappy then?

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/09/2026 17:17

Bitsostuff · 15/09/2026 17:13

No, warrants being publicly called out. Or do you think no behaviour, no matter how anti social, should be challenged because suicide?

I don’t think me, sat in London on my arse, is a useful additional in adding to, or calling for, the public shaming of an Australian athlete who competed in a sports events event in China, no.

do you think your challenging is doing anything apart from adding to the clicks, algorithms and coverage that a human person at the centre of it will see?

how does anyone deal with that?

MrsKiplingsSauna · 15/09/2026 17:16

If the other contenders didn't complain and still used the equipment, that shits on them

FirmSnake · 15/09/2026 17:15

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/09/2026 16:59

So if she does a Jason ardy that’ll be the ultimate consequence for shame then? We shouldn’t consider whether it’s sensible to protect humans from this level of public shame, we should encourage it?

Do shitty things, expect people to have opinions.
What they do next is on them. Don't do the crime as they say...

Bitsostuff · 15/09/2026 17:13

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/09/2026 17:12

Warrants her killing herself?!?

No, warrants being publicly called out. Or do you think no behaviour, no matter how anti social, should be challenged because suicide?

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/09/2026 17:12

Bitsostuff · 15/09/2026 17:10

Yes it's a balancing act. In this case I think her behaviour (not the defecation but the spreading it everywhere) warrants it.

Warrants her killing herself?!?

NancyThompson · 15/09/2026 17:10

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/09/2026 16:28

What difference does it make? She’s still being publicly shamed

Which is a reasonable response to someone covering things in their own shit that other people have to touch.

Bitsostuff · 15/09/2026 17:10

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/09/2026 17:08

Until it’s so great people severely damage their mental health or kill themselves, anyway

Yes it's a balancing act. In this case I think her behaviour (not the defecation but the spreading it everywhere) warrants it.

NancyThompson · 15/09/2026 17:09

Boomer55 · 15/09/2026 16:03

I think Paula something did this on a London Marathon. Pretty gross. 🤢

That is different, imo, as it's not getting on anyone else.

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/09/2026 17:08

Bitsostuff · 15/09/2026 17:07

And so? Shame is a very useful emotion for regulating social behaviour.

Until it’s so great people severely damage their mental health or kill themselves, anyway

Notasbigasithink · 15/09/2026 17:08

If it was her period, would you still be so 'disgusted'?!
Looks like diarrhoea to me. I'm sure if she could have chosen between publicly shitting herself or gaining notoriety for winning and being the best at her sport, she would have chosen the latter.
She will be forever known as the athlete that shit herself..........

Bitsostuff · 15/09/2026 17:07

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/09/2026 16:28

What difference does it make? She’s still being publicly shamed

And so? Shame is a very useful emotion for regulating social behaviour.

RubyMentor · 15/09/2026 17:06

CheeseyNacho · 15/09/2026 12:36

I’d - maybe - have more sympathy for her if it was the first time it had happened to her… but it wasn’t, but she didn’t win the other time it happened so it didn’t make the news.

OMG she's done this more than once??? Dirty cow - actually that's an insult to cows

Livpool · 15/09/2026 17:03

It’s absolutely disgusting! Who does that?! Well her, obviously 🤢

Simonjt · 15/09/2026 17:00

Wheesht2 · 15/09/2026 10:27

I think it was right to let her finish the competition but going forward a rule should be put in place for health and safety.

Sorry if someone has answered this, I do Hyrox, Hyrox rules already state that she and any equipment she used should have been removed.

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/09/2026 16:59

FirmSnake · 15/09/2026 16:42

As she should be. She shat all over shared exercise equipment. 100% shame worthy.

So if she does a Jason ardy that’ll be the ultimate consequence for shame then? We shouldn’t consider whether it’s sensible to protect humans from this level of public shame, we should encourage it?

Backedoffhackedoff · 15/09/2026 16:57

AnswerIsNo · 15/09/2026 16:36

you do understand the evolutionary purpose of shame??

i.e. when a member of the group has done something that neither benefits them or the wider group and in fact their actions are net a detriment.

so shame in that context is a healthy emotional response for the individual to have... assuming one has capacity to feel, self-awareness, ability to join the dots and self-reflect... in order to learn from the experience and change their behaviour in future similar situations

From your posts, I assume you compete in extreme Hyrox and therefore should consider fishing waders and a Biohazard suit or two for your next event

Edited

You think world wide public shaming is a good tool for this do you?