Drug taking in daughter's student house

No you can’t phone the landlord. Your daughter is an adult. No wonder young people can’t do anything for themselves these days

You would seriously phone the landlord every day because your adult daughter had told you someone was smoking in her house and you wanted it to "be sorted".?😂 The landlord might tell him not to smoke in the house as a result but the daughter and her housemates could do that themselves. It sounds as if they have done suggesting they are not as clueless as some of the posters on here.

And your job now is to support her to take steps in life herself. You can advise her and guide her, but she needs to make the decisions and take the actions herself

But surely first step is just speak to the guy, presenting a united front. He might just say “oh sorry- yeah no worries” and then it’s solved. He might not in which case escalate but no need to make the first step “get him evicted”.

Of course landlords would rather deal with a inexperienced 19 year old than their battle axe of a mother. I'd buy that if the landlords didn't also want said mother be a guarantor for the rent!

Moving his girlfriend is highly likely to be breach of the tenancy agreement. As is illegal activity like drug use.

To honest if I my daughter. I would phone the landlord - and phone for an update every single day until it was sorted.

If no response I'd start reporting fire risk, smoke alarms not working etc to the local council, and reporting the student to police - Weed is still illegal in the UK - and your daughter is almost certainly going to be seeing large enough amounts to warrant a charge.

There is no way one drug using scum bag would be impacting my daughters university experience.

I agree with others that say you should help your daughter and stay involved. They learn a lot during their first few years but don't automatically become equipped to deal with these issues the day they leave home. Also, it's typical for landlords/letting agencies to brush off young people and students but they tend to take more notice when parents get involved.

I'd assume smoking is a breach of the tenancy agreement - fire hazards etc... - and go with that. Are they disabling smoke alarms?

Are the rooms let individually?

Don’t wait for it to happen again, it needs reported now if all in the house are unhappy. It’s inevitable it will happen again and smoking in the house, weed or not, impacts everyone.

I am just amazed by what people think a landlord or even student welfare could do. They just need to talk to the student and come to an agreement. The daughter doesn't have to do it by herself because there are two other housemates who agree.

Do you seriously think a landlord would "get him removed" because a student's mum, or even the student phoned him and said their housemate smokes weed and had friends around last night?! I am not sure that they could evict for that reason even if they wanted to and why would they want an empty room in the house and presumably lose out on rent.

Perhaps it’s not the landlord, perhaps it’s student welfare or someone else who can provide advice. In any case, the point I’m making is that this needn’t be a black and white case of daughter just needs to get on with it by herself, as some are suggesting. I wonder why the aggressive double question mark. Im
not under interrogation am I?

Get him removed and the tenant who let him in if necessary. Happened in my son's student house.

Does the uni have a,student support centre? Housing support? Your dd could speak to them.

Aged 19 its not easy to deal with these sorts of issues. My dd was in a flatshare at that age and none of the 5 of them were keen to speak to the LL about household items that needed replacing.

By the time she was 21 she was much more able to speak up.

But there must be lot of students who end up in this sort of situation and feel unable to sort it out.

What do you think the landlord will do??

Completely understand why you’re worried about this. Encourage your daughter to phone the landlord and perhaps she can practice what she’s going to say with you.

They learn by talking to the housemates and coming to an agreement on what is reasonable. Their parents phoning the landlord will just teach them that their parents are interfering and clueless.

So you don't have adult children. I do and I very much doubt the average 19 year old who had at least a year of experience of living away from home would want their parent interfering in something like this. Obviously they don't suddenly know everything but they probably know more about renting privately than a lot of posters on here seem to. What exactly do you think a landlord would do?

You need to let your daughter sort it out
One of the main benefits of going to uni is to learn how to navigate situations such as living with other people and dealing with landlords/utilities etc

Also, none of my student landlords would have cared at all about this. They would have just used it as an excuse to keep everyone's deposit as a cleaning fee.

Sorry but to me that sounds mild for student houses.
If your daughter and the others don't like the other guy or he breaches tenancy they need to club together and get evidence of breach and contact landlord themselves.

You need to let her navigate this. With support from afar obviously.

The phrase 'wet' is unnecessary. They are inexperienced.

Yes they need to learn - this is an opportunity to do that.

People with supportive parents learn really effectively by talking things through with them. It actually isn't better to go to the school of hard knocks, people don't necessarily end up more competent.

This is extremely common at uni.

It’s up to the landlord to tell him not to smoke weed in the common areas and not have people over (I suspect the latter is against the tenancy agreement anyway from a fire/safety/insurance point of view).

It’s up to your daughter and other tenants to report this. They could be breaching their tenancy agreements by not reporting such to the landlord, so they definitely need to speak or email him before he finds out for himself (which could happen if he knows the neighbours being a private 1 or 2 property type landlord).

Help your daughter compile an email or a list for her to say on the phone but it has to come from one of them (or all of them collectively).

They do sound a bit wet. They don't need their parents or their landlord to deal with this. There are 3 of them and only 1 of him. They need to tell him to fuck off round to his friends' houses if he wants to smoke weed as they don't like the smell and don't want to get evicted. And if he wants to have sleepovers then they need to sleep in his room. Learning to stand up for yourself is an important part of growing up and living with others.

Yes OP for some reason on mumsnet when your children turn 18 they should solve every problem they ever have completely on their own as they’re now an adult 🙄. But I personally think you should help your dd out, my own dd had a nightmare roommate 2 years ago, completely ruined her uni experience. I helped with communication to Landlord as guess what?? Student/young persons landlord barely listen to them!! Funnily enough when parents got involved they were a bit more responsive!