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Do I act cool or keen to get dream job?

37 replies

Tshirtonwrongwayround · 13/09/2026 20:11

I applied for a great job around two weeks ago, I passed the initial stage, then a video interview with the recruiter and then the employer himself called me and asked to meet in person.
At the time we were on holiday and returned back today. I told him we were travelling last week but would we be able to schedule for Monday 14th. He said yes that was absolutely fine and I said great and to just contact me closer to the day with a time that suited him to meet. He replied fantastic, that he would do and thank you.
I've not heard from him, I am available during school hours any day at the moment, so can be flexible as in, it could be anytime for me not necessarily tomorrow.
Should I message?
Could he have found someone else? The position required is very niche in experience needed for where we are and in all honesty, I can't see him having found someone (fingers crossed!)
It seems too late to message now to arrange for tomorrow?

Do I wait for him or message tonight/tomorrow?

To add-very wealthy family, travel lots, potentially are away/have forgotten?

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HavingABlether · 13/09/2026 20:16

Keen. Enthusiasm for a role can only go in your favour. Good luck!

lordbaddingham · 13/09/2026 20:17

Yes message again, you don't have anything to lose

HalfMumHalfBiccit · 13/09/2026 20:18

I would contact them tomorrow with a polite. ‘Hi, hope you are well. I wanted to drop you a note to follow up on my interview. During our meeting you indicated that we might meet up on Monday 14th for a meeting in person. Please let me know if you would like to meet today or later this week.’

ideally you would have asked last week if the meeting was still Monday.

TeddyBeans · 13/09/2026 20:18

Definitely message, don't let your dream job slip through your fingers!

Tshirtonwrongwayround · 13/09/2026 20:19

HavingABlether · 13/09/2026 20:16

Keen. Enthusiasm for a role can only go in your favour. Good luck!

So when would you message?
Why do you think he hasn't messaged though?

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Tshirtonwrongwayround · 13/09/2026 20:20

HalfMumHalfBiccit · 13/09/2026 20:18

I would contact them tomorrow with a polite. ‘Hi, hope you are well. I wanted to drop you a note to follow up on my interview. During our meeting you indicated that we might meet up on Monday 14th for a meeting in person. Please let me know if you would like to meet today or later this week.’

ideally you would have asked last week if the meeting was still Monday.

It seems very last minute though

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Coco852 · 13/09/2026 20:24

The right time to message was Friday. Better late than never though.

Tshirtonwrongwayround · 13/09/2026 20:25

Coco852 · 13/09/2026 20:24

The right time to message was Friday. Better late than never though.

He did say he'd message though 😬

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alexisccd · 13/09/2026 20:30

Contact the recruiter ?

Friendlygingercat · 13/09/2026 20:32

I would have messaged or phoned friday to remind him. But then I am very pushy.

HavingABlether · 13/09/2026 20:34

I think @HalfMumHalfBiccit is spot on.
There could be any number of reasons you haven't heard from him, which boil down to this being just one item on his to-do list, even though it's understandably a big deal to you.

Tshirtonwrongwayround · 13/09/2026 21:32

He has just messaged, flashed up Whatsapp on my screen, so I haven't been on to open it
He says 9 tomorrow, but that gives me no time really now. Would it be rude to ask for that time on any other day? It has been left pretty last minute

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NChannnnge · 13/09/2026 21:34

You proposed the date though? If you want the job then I’d take the slot…!

mynameiscalypso · 13/09/2026 21:35

Given you’ve delayed meeting him already, I wouldn’t turn down something at 9am tomorrow if you do want the job.

Zanatdy · 13/09/2026 21:35

Just take 9am tomorrow given that was already agreed.

Hayley1256 · 13/09/2026 21:36

If you can do 9 then I would agree, it is very short notice though but he may be wanting to see how keen you are and I'm guessing he's got a busy diary for the week. If you can make it I would probably reply something along the lines of " I can move some things around to make that work, see you at 9"

ginislife · 13/09/2026 21:37

If you want the job that badly then you’ll be there at 9.00am tomorrow.

Helpmefindmysoul · 13/09/2026 21:37

Yes you asked for it to be rescheduled tomorrow so you should have prepped while away if it’s your dream job..
Don’t miss out on this opportunity. Good luck and let us know the outcome!

GodIhatethepatriarcy · 13/09/2026 21:37

Go if you want the job

Northernlights19 · 13/09/2026 21:38

If it's your "dream" job, it would be crazy to turn it down. Also, no time for what? You proposed the date so you ought to be prepared already.

Lifejigsaw · 13/09/2026 21:38

No you proposed tomorrow and agreed he would be in contact. Presumably you’ve prepped for tomorrow already. He has held up his end so you hold up yours.

Pinkgin00 · 13/09/2026 21:39

Agree with everyone else, you proposed the date, you stick with it. You should already have prepared it you had agreed the date.

hourspassed · 13/09/2026 21:41

Don't cancel it! You said 14th and to give ou a time nearer the date which he has. If it's the dream job I'd be up all night preparing for it if I had to!

Tshirtonwrongwayround · 13/09/2026 21:44

But could i ask for after lunch? We've only arrived back today, I have school run etc etc, I didn't expect this late notice and that time 😬

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DurhamDime · 13/09/2026 21:45

You said 14th. He’s offered you 14th. Anything other than accepting will not look good on your part.