can you honestly tell me whether you think my neighbour was rude in this situation?
At around 23:30, nearly midnight, there suddenly started being quite loud noise from upstairs — people laughing and shouting, and doors being slammed repeatedly. It didn’t seem like it was going to stop. It was loud enough that my elderly parents woke up and became worried, and I was also worried because my two children, aged 3 and 5, were asleep and I didn’t want them to be woken up.
It also wasn’t the first time. There had been quite a lot of noise from them throughout the night on previous occasions, which had woken me up multiple times, but I had ignored it. They also have a dog that sometimes barks continuously.
Eventually I went upstairs to politely ask if they could keep the noise down. I was speaking gently and was actually smiling. I had barely started explaining — I had only managed to mention the door slamming — when my neighbour cut me off and said:
“If the door slams, it slams. We are upstairs so the noise will come down. We also hear your children upstairs.”
Then she said “good night” sarcastically and shut the door.
I wasn’t aggressive or confrontational, and I wasn’t demanding complete silence. I just wanted the noise to be kept down because it was nearly midnight and it had already disturbed several people in my home.
Do you think I was being unreasonable for going upstairs to say something, or was her response rude and unnecessarily defensive?
besides this, her kids are secondary & working age. Mine are 3&5, and they never make noise at midnight!
should I try speaking to her again, saying other times I ignored it and she was very rude at this occasion? Or would that makes things worse?