Hi, so for context I’m probably feeling more insecure than usual as life has just been hard and while I know comparison is the thief of joy sometimes I find it really hard to not compare.
My partner and I have been together for over a decade, we have two boys who are 6 and 7. We aren’t well off, we rent, we work ordinary jobs, we have some debt we are paying down and things are just tough right now.
My partner has a younger sister she’s 28, has two daughter is married, owns their home outright and seems to have everything going for her. She’s stunning, extremely naturally pretty, thin, looks younger than 28, tall etc.
Her daughters who are 2 and 4 also seem to be a breeze to raise compared to our sons, obviously not perfect but both are fantastic eaters and sleepers, pretty well behaved most of the time etc.
In the summer DPs parents took us all on holiday and I came back feeling like crap, one because I was always physically comparing myself to her, I’m a healthy weight but don’t feel good in my body, I’m definitely feeling like I look a lot older now at 35, and especially compared to the way she just does nothing, very little make up, never dyed her hair etc, she just looks so naturally good.
Then the kids, minus a few very minor moments which are normal with kids they did the flight without iPads, the girls were quiet, well behaved, tried new food without needing any encouragement, I felt like the boys were holding everyone back as after a few hours they were just over stimulated, getting really noisy, arguing with each other, being stand offish. Obviously we have consequences in time outs, being taken back to the hotel but it didn’t seem to make a difference.
His parents are trying to convince us all to go away with them skiing over new year and I just don’t want to anymore, I think I’ll feel awful about myself as a person and a mother.
AIBU to say no for this reason alone?