To feel this mum should take her turn?

So you are saying again that your daughter's friend is not in need of supervision at all, due to her phone, where she lives, arrangements her family have put in place etc. You still think you daughter does still need supervision. But somehow or other you think is up to your daughter's friend's mum to be responsible for supervising your daughter, rather than you.

I had to travel when my kids were young so this happened me a lot.
But I chose the school and distance so sometimes you just have to go with the flow.
Take a book, head to the nearest shop but neither child needs supervision.

If it is such a problem say no park and go home

I think you are potentially making it more difficult than it needs to be.

You can say "no" to your daughter if it's not convenient.

You can fill out a permission slip to allow her to leave with her friend - and only her friend - on certain days. Her friend obviously has permission to leave every day on her own, so it's not impossible.

I would be having a conversation with my child to say it's not convenient to go every time she asks, and in future her and her friend needs to decide a day or two in advance - or go on set days each week - so that you can sort out a permission slip.

As someone else has pointed out, the clocks go back in a little over six weeks so that will probably change things.

Then the only solution is no park 🤷🏻‍♀️

If you have to pick your own DD up anyway or they won’t release her, how would the other mum supervise them? You’d be there too anyway.

Just fill in a permission slip for her to leave on her own and tell her/her friend to call friends mum in an emergency since she’s closer and then call you. It’ll only be for 45 minutes or so anyway if you’re already planning to come and get your DD from the park later on anyway!

Then it sounds as though the real issue is that you’re not comfortable with your DD being unsupervised in a park and starting to have a degree of independence.

That’s your decision to make, of course, but you can’t expect other mums to compensate for that.

Either let your DD have a phone and trust that if something goes wrong, someone will call you, or suck it up and sit in the park, cold and bored.

Then get your DD a phone or start saying no. It's not difficult.

Tell your daughter she can't go to the park after school anymore. You don't want to find any other solutions so it's a blanket no.

You need to give permission for your DD to leave school without you and then pick her up later from the park or you need to start saying no. It's that simple.

Nothing to do with the other girls mum.

You need to be teaching your daughter independence and planning for year 7. This situation is a great opportunity to start that. Do you know how she will get to school then?

Get your daughter a phone. It doesn’t have to be a smart phone, just something she can call you from. Then let her make her own way home. She has to get used to it at some point, unless you’re going to be one of the pathetic mums my DC see waiting for their secondary age kids at the gates.

Friends mum would be nearby in case if accident, or friend could call you? Or give your DD a brick phone?
I think there are lots of ways to solve this and you need to clarify to yourself why you are reluctant to do so.

Which is really why you have to be the one to be there, it can’t be on the other mum

I have a teen and miss these days. So I’d try and enjoy it. Flask of tea and a book? Like another poster said, it’ll be half term soon and this will probably stop.

invite the girl over now and then and the mum can pick her up from yours? They get to play and you don’t have to sit in the cold.

maybe after Christmas think about your daughter getting the bus once or twice a week in readiness for secondary.

But you don’t need to be at the park with them. Arrange a time to collect your daughter after she’s played. It’s a great opportunity to get more independence.

Good point!

So give your DD permission

Then I don’t get it, how would the mum help in this situation? You would still already be at the school when the park trip is arranged so would still just be hanging around to take your DD home?

Sign a permission slip saying happy for her to leave school /walk home

or

tell dd she can’t arrange things/meets on the day and if you are at school she can’t go to the park

or give her a little freedom and meet her at the park regardless

I think a compromise would be to have set days arranged for them to go to the park after school so you know to pick up your dd later. Tell your dd that her and her friend need to decide which days will be ‘park days’ and they have to stick to it or give you enough notice of any changes I.e they can’t decide on the day at school as there no way of letting you know. It’s a good way for your dd to learn about consideration for others when making plans and gain a bit of independence.

It does seem unreasonable to ask the other mum when she is clearly fine with her dd walking home and going to the park after school and it’s only an issue because you live further away and have to get a bus.

It’s normal for schools to need parental permission for children to be allowed to walk home alone in year 6. At my dc’s school we just had to send a quick email to the teacher. Quick and easy.

You just need to tell your DD any park plans need to be made in advance.

This angst is self-created!

So fill in a permission slip.. it's not difficult

Even if you ring and let them know?