To feel this mum should take her turn?

But that wouldn't work anyway unless you prearrange it, as you'll already be at the school gate when the girls ask to go to the park.

Could you not prearrange it with the other mum, and ask that if the weather turns, or there is an emergency, both girls can go back to the other girls house until you can get there? It saves both of you from standing watching, but there is somewhere for your DD to go if needed.

But if the other mum was there she wouldn’t need permission? That doesn’t make any sense. Just tell the school that your daughter can leave on her own. Tell your daughter to organise in advance. And start getting her ready to do the journey on her own next year. There’s no way I think the other mum has any responsibility for where you live or the rules you have for your daughter being supervised.

Your title should actually be
‘AIBU to feel another mum should take turns with me supervising my child’
which is what you’re asking, so when you say it correctly, it might help you see how batshit it is.

If the friend has a phone can she text you too when she does her mom? Or will you already have left for the pick up?

so,

dear mn. me and fellow mom both used to live near school and the local park so would take it in turns to take our children there and watch them.

they're now is year 6. DD walks home and is allowed to go to the park alone as long as she tells me. other Mom moved away and doesn't allow her child to play at the park unsupervised.
she now expects me to supervise them both several times a week.
auby to say no?

The issue isn't the park. It is because you are stopping and buying drinks and snacks. So you see that the other parent should help with that.

Honestly. Been there and got the T shirt. Curb that u less you can afford it but be honest with yourself.

but you want them supervised at the park and she doesn't

Aw op i know it's annoying sometimes but I miss those days !! My kids are at secondary now and nobody wants their parents at the park

This time will be over soon...just take a book or do your work emails while they play if you must stay ?

Year 6 is a tricky year because there is such a difference in how much independence parents allow. If the other Mum is happy for her daughter to go to the park unsupervised, you can't really expect her to go and supervise because you don't feel comfortable leaving them without supervision yet.

It doesn’t sound like the other mums not taking her turn but two parents with different boundaries. She’s happy for her DD to go to the park alone but you want an adult to supervise yours. If you’re unhappy tell DD she can’t keep making last minute plans and cut down on the park trips. It’s common at that age for some kids to be more independent than others and usually the stricter parent deals with the kids more as they want them supervised more.

YABU, OP, and dismissing the very reasonable suggestions made so far make it sound like you don't actually want to resolve this. You're making problems for yourself.

1. Your child is in year 6. Sign the permission slip that says she is allowed to travel home by herself. This doesn't mean you can never pick her up, it just gives both of you more flexibility.
2. If you don't want to/can't afford to give her a mobile, just say that every Friday (or whatever day) she can go to the park with her friend, but must be home by x time. (If you don't want her to travel by herself, name the time you'll meet her at the park to take her home.)
3. If you don't want to do either of the above, you could always wait in a local library (if there is one) or take a book and read in the park/coffee shop while the girls play.

Work on making your child more independent, so she can get the bus by herself.

Do you have a spine? Just pick your daughter up, say no park and go home. Its really not that hard.

But her daughter doesn’t need watching. And it would still need to be planned in advance, and you’d still be subject to the weather etc.

Is it just the 1 bus? If so, it’s time for her to take the bus home herself and for you to give her a brick phone. It’s completely normal for a year 6 child to get themselves to and from school.

Her daughter doesn’t need watching. You want her to put herself out to watch your daughter.

The previous arrangement was quid pro quo. The new one you’re proposing is entirely for your benefit. She’s not asked you to supervise her child, as her child doesn’t need supervision at all. You’re not putting yourself out for her, or doing her any favors.

You’re the only one here that wants their child supervised, and you’re choosing to do it for your daughter. That’s on you, nothing to do with the other mother.

Why would she watch them when they don't need to be watched? Or at least, she doesn't feel her DD needs to be watched.

Ah fair enough. Definitely something to work towards, it's so limiting not to (I speak as someone who didn't for a long time).

What about the phone, is that beyond reach? Then she could walk with her friend to the park and you could meet her there an hour later or so. Would free up some time for you too?

You're still not getting the central point here OP - the other mum doesn't need her child to be supervised. If you do, that's on you. You could come later, you're the one that won't. You really are being incredibly unreasonable here - CF territory in fact.

She doesn’t need to take her turn because she doesn’t require a parent to be there. Your daughter could go to the park and you collect her from there or you could ask the mum if your daughter can walk to her house and you collect her from there.

your daughter hasn’t got a phone as you’ve not bought her one, the easy solution is to get her one.

Yabu. Was the other mum driving your daughter home half the time before? Its not their fault they live walking distance and you don't. The mum has decided her child can be unsupervised I think you either tell your child no or arrange to collect at a later time

I agree that it would be nice of her. But not something you can expect.

It's time to prearrange the park visits on regular days. If the weather's bad you can cancel by text and arrive at the school.

I think you actually need to ask the other girl's mum for a favour. That in an emergency your daughter could go to hers or have her daughter call her so there is a nearby adult while you get over. Or if it suddenly pours. On the arranged park days.

Sorry OP you are being unreasonable

Either say no, or let her go with her friend and catch a later bus to collect her?

But her daughter doesn’t need watching