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Bj initials?

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Martiniolives · 10/09/2026 22:33

To name a baby a name that gives her the initials bj?

there would be a middle name but still. I worry about peers mocking too

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EveryoneUsingOutro · 10/09/2026 23:55

Noooooooo have you ever met a teenager? My god they can be brutal. Dont do that to your child!!

SpottyPyjama · 11/09/2026 00:05

Choose a different name

jesseK · 11/09/2026 00:07

RikthePoet · 10/09/2026 22:36

Didn't do Boris Johnson any harm.

People thought he was a massive prick, but that's because he was a massive prick, not because of his initials.

His first name wasn't Boris

MarchionessVonSausage · 11/09/2026 00:17

Marcipex · 10/09/2026 22:37

No don’t. Guess how I know

You too?

My initials are BJT but honestly it wasn't a problem. Still isn't in my 50's. Maybe because people don't use middle names much. If it were B with surname J, perhaps then I would've copped it!

Isittimeformynapyet · 11/09/2026 00:23

I'll never forget having breakfast at BJ's cafe in Bristol - it's right opposite the Swallow Hotel.

Has anyone actually spelled out BLOW JOB in this thread yet? 😄

Random321 · 11/09/2026 00:36

I wouldn't when you can avoid it.

Where I work initials are used on a lot of reports.

caringcarer · 11/09/2026 00:41

Not a good idea. Your DD won't thank you for it when she's being teased at school.

Oldsu · 11/09/2026 02:23

I always associate BJ with the character from M.A.S.H rather than anything else in fact it was the first thing that popped into my head when I saw this thread not sure if that makes me naive or just old

Iocanepowder · 11/09/2026 02:29

I’ve heard someone make a joke about it when BJ was in someone’s postcode. Definitely don’t give someone those initials. Standard rule to not give stupid initials.

CostcoFanofThree · 11/09/2026 02:59

Little Betty will be mostly known as Betty, especially in primary years children will not associate the last name and initials with a blow job.
In secondary teens can be mean but they can choose a wide number of things to be mean about.
By post secondary and work life it’s unlikely to be an issue.

Ohdearnotthisagain · 11/09/2026 03:08

No I would not do this.

opalfruits76 · 11/09/2026 03:22

No don't do it! BJ will have the P taken out of them constantly when they reach high school.

Ratherhaveacupofteaandabiscuit · 11/09/2026 03:33

Maybe times have changed but my awful ex husband had these initials and nobody ever commented.
Not something I ever thought of but I suppose it depends on your life experience, social circle and cultural references.
I knew him from childhood and nobody at school, college or university ever mentioned such an issue.

maxslice · 11/09/2026 04:02

I think that unless the family and people around her call her "BJ" she'll be fine. If you name her "Brianna Jane" or whatever, and call her by those names or a variation of them, it'll be okay. But the safest thing to do, is to name her "J B" then it has little or no risk of becoming a "thing".

CostcoFanofThree · 11/09/2026 04:10

@Martiniolives can you clarify is the surname (last name) the one that starts with a J?

MarchionessVonSausage · 11/09/2026 04:40

I stand by my BJT initials. You are all juvenile & projecting this nonsense on future generations.

(Although I do see the point).

MarchionessVonSausage · 11/09/2026 04:43

maxslice · 11/09/2026 04:02

I think that unless the family and people around her call her "BJ" she'll be fine. If you name her "Brianna Jane" or whatever, and call her by those names or a variation of them, it'll be okay. But the safest thing to do, is to name her "J B" then it has little or no risk of becoming a "thing".

I agree. You came quite close to my own name there 😎

maxslice · 11/09/2026 04:55

MarchionessVonSausage · 11/09/2026 04:43

I agree. You came quite close to my own name there 😎

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And as we know, you are brilliant, beautiful, and beyond reproach. Yay, you!!!

Clarabell77 · 11/09/2026 05:14

Ratherhaveacupofteaandabiscuit · 11/09/2026 03:33

Maybe times have changed but my awful ex husband had these initials and nobody ever commented.
Not something I ever thought of but I suppose it depends on your life experience, social circle and cultural references.
I knew him from childhood and nobody at school, college or university ever mentioned such an issue.

Same here - know a few people with those initials.

KindlySurfiingPlatypus · 11/09/2026 05:36

Findingthissohard · 10/09/2026 22:53

Both my kids are at secondary and they have numerous T-shirts and hoodies with their initials on so I would never do this.
I got teased for my initials all the way through school and so this was a levy check for me on naming my kids

We had the initals on sports kit too but the kid with initials WC got teased more than the kid with initials BJ

ToffeePennie · 11/09/2026 05:37

I didn’t grow up in the UK, and at the schools I grew up in my last and middle initials were swapped so it was AP(E). No one ever commented.
My friend has a daughter with the name Billie-Jo and nicknamed BJ, again, no comments. That baby is now 12 and as far as I’m aware, no issues with her name, she attends the secondary my son does and everyone just calls her BJ. A couple of lads sniggered upon first hearing it, but the teachers use it too and I guess after you hear it often enough it looses its power?

MarchionessVonSausage · 11/09/2026 05:40

maxslice · 11/09/2026 04:55

And as we know, you are brilliant, beautiful, and beyond reproach. Yay, you!!!

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😍

VimesandhisCardboardBoots · 11/09/2026 09:38

11AndCounting · 10/09/2026 23:37

Bish?

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Damnit, I knew I should have namechanged for that one! Yep, it's Bish

Hohofortherobbers · 11/09/2026 22:09

JMSA · 10/09/2026 23:39

Honestly? 😂
What a bunch of innocents you must be!

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BJ is nearly 80, nobody has ever commented on her nickname.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 11/09/2026 22:11

Definitely don’t do this.

No matter how nice the first name is, don’t do it.

Why give your child an extra burden and obstacle at school?

People saying Boris Johnson is OK - his name is Alexander!