Do people generally become irritable and miserable as they age?

You have to work sooo hard not to be a bitter and twisted old wind bag and similar to hitting the middle age weight gain, you have to work twice as hard to achieve half as much. It's wearing 😩.

I am 45 and very miserable 😂🙈 I am so bored with going out, doing things, people. Much prefer my
own space and being at home. I do try and make an effort for my dc but as I’ve got older and developed health issues I’ve just got no patience anymore, i suspect that’s the case with a lot of people older than me.

My fairly fierce grandma mellowed a lot with age. To be fair she had a lot to contend with in life and I think her retirement was probably her happiest time since her early 20s.

A lot of men seem to get grumpier but not all. With proper old age, people’s stress threshold seems to plummet and things that wouldn’t have fazed them at 65 are sources of great stress at 80. Not universally of course.

Well, I haven’t. I think life needs to be about finding the light, the laughter, and the joy. 🤷‍♀️

Life can be a bitch, but you have to get on with it all.

But, other older people won’t see it that way.

And, to be fair, there are a lot of younger people moaning, groaning, navel gazing, and needing counselling for anything at all. . 🤷‍♀️

I think men get more miserable and irritable than women, moreso than women.....

Runs and hides. 🏃 >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

Seriously though, I am not grumpy and miserable, but I have less tolerance for young children screeching, loud voices, barking dogs, and loud music (and loud people!) I mean, none of this is great really is it, but as I have got older I am more irritated than I used to be by certain things...... But I am not a grumpy, moany person.

And yeah, as has been said, I do have less tolerance for peoples shit too, and don't take shit like I used to. I have no hesitation in blocking and ghosting people who fuck me off and do wrong by me/upset me.

Oddly, even The Simpsons TV show irritates me now. Used to love it for many years, but for the last 10 or so years, I have low tolerance for all the screeching and shouting in it and general loudness of it. I also feel my hackles rising when DH puts anything on like The A Team, or something 'action packed' and loud with lots of shooting and noise and booming thumpy soundtrack - not just music, but very loud soundtrack...

I live in a quiet rural village now, and it's quiet 90% of the time, not many people are around, and the village is not a route to anywhere, (it's kind of a dead end,) so people only come here if they live here.

I could never live in a town or city or suburb again. Couldn't stand the noise, all the people, and all the traffic. Love the peace and tranquillity out here.

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That. It's about five minutes since the last, almost identical OP.

But obviously I'm only irritated because I'm old.

My DH is much more inclined to go on about things now than he used to be. Not sure if I am or not.

It could be me writing this..I feel exactly the same.

I feel this is going to be me, once I get through the menopause. I'm about to turn 55, although I'm still riding my bike everywhere, I'm nowhere near as energetic as I was , but compared to my friends, I'm doing ok-ish.

You have to take your wins where you find them, and we are still here , which is a privilege of sorts 🤞

My dad had very poor health for the last few years of his life and was in a lot of pain. He became frettier and worried a lot more about total non-issues, but he never became grumpy or miserable at all. He continued to see the good in everything and everyone (with a few obvious political exceptions) until he died aged 83.

My mum is pretty negative but I don't really remember a time when she wasn't. I try hard to model my dad's attitude to things.

My mother has always been an in middle of things kind of person, and rarely get fussed about anything. She’s lucky to have good health, apart from failing eyesight and hearing, so at nearly 91 she does all her own washing, ironing, cleaning, shopping and cooking, as well as the garden, including her own grass. She doesn’t drive but is lucky enough to have most of what she needs in her large village and does very nicely with a little support.
She claims keeping on keeping on is key. Once you stop the rot sets. I watch carefully, but she’s determined.

I mean, I have at 45 🤣

Joking aside my DM and MIL are both very strident and defensive to everything. My DF, D Step F and FIL are much more chill.

😂👏

Why would you look at the way that two people behave and assume from that that all people who share just one of their characteristics might be the same?

I’m a very optimistic person, loads of energy but even I have age related bad days. Chronic pain, peri menopause, loads of shit happens as you get older.

I can well imagine in 15 years time as I hit my 70’s my bad days may outweigh the good and grumpy cuntiness is more of a persistent state.