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Husband opens blinds in baby’s room

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DownmarketSellingSunset · 06/09/2026 11:24

The baby only sleeps in there - nothing else. He insists on going in every morning to open the blinds and the shutters to let light in because it’s ‘unhealthy’ not to do it (I’ve asked what he means and he just says it is dull without the blinds open). They aren’t blackout blinds, just normal blinds, so there is plenty of light in there during the daytime.

But, I’m almost always the one that puts her down for a nap or bedtime. So every time I take her up I have to try and negotiate fiddly blinds with one hand, while being pinched and grabbed because she wants her milk and to go to sleep but won’t with the light streaming in.

so, AIBU to insist he stops bloody opening the blinds for no reason? He thinks I’m wildly over reacting and it’s fine to pull them down when I go in to put her down for a nap.

OP posts:
maudelovesharold · 13/09/2026 12:08

I can’t bear curtains or blinds closed during the day. It feels depressing to me.

BudgetBuster · 13/09/2026 12:11

Beabarb · 13/09/2026 11:47

Cut the strings so he can't open the bloody things! You haven;t got to put up with him making decisions for you, that don't affect him.

😂 That's deranged behaviour instead of just putting the toddler down

momager22 · 13/09/2026 12:48

if have the window open then don’t you need to open the blinds first ?

IamHelene · 13/09/2026 22:56

I would be more concerned with blinds or curtains with a cord in a child’s room. I think rooms should be aired but make sure windows have restricted openings. It might be a good idea to discuss these things with your husband.

ScottishSoupDragon · 14/09/2026 10:41

SummerHolsFinished · 06/09/2026 11:34

Why can’t you put the baby down in the cot for the ten seconds it takes to lower the blinds?
This. I can’t fathom how this is an issue. I agree with opening blinds and windows every morning, it’s just part of mould/damp reduction and gets the air circulating.

Yes! I came to say this, but you beat me to it. 😏

DaisyChain505 · 14/09/2026 10:47

I don’t think the issue here is the blinds. It’s just the straw that broke the camels back.

Firstly you need to stop caring for your parent on top of everything. You need to either get them to hire private care or refer them to adult social services. You have enough on your plate. That doesn’t mean you need to stop seeing them it just means you need to not be taking on the load of being a carer.

Secondly how are you working more than full time hours and looking after these two young children? Do you have paid help?

cheziebabe · 14/09/2026 16:42

so go in after home or later and close them so that when you take baby in they are,already done

nomas · 14/09/2026 17:19

if he won't stop then I would take out the blinds and put in curtains.

He sounds like an idiot.

nomas · 14/09/2026 17:19

cheziebabe · 14/09/2026 16:42

so go in after home or later and close them so that when you take baby in they are,already done

Why does OP need more work as well as being the one who puts the baby to sleep?

NeedyHedgehog · 15/09/2026 07:38

DownmarketSellingSunset · 06/09/2026 11:24

The baby only sleeps in there - nothing else. He insists on going in every morning to open the blinds and the shutters to let light in because it’s ‘unhealthy’ not to do it (I’ve asked what he means and he just says it is dull without the blinds open). They aren’t blackout blinds, just normal blinds, so there is plenty of light in there during the daytime.

But, I’m almost always the one that puts her down for a nap or bedtime. So every time I take her up I have to try and negotiate fiddly blinds with one hand, while being pinched and grabbed because she wants her milk and to go to sleep but won’t with the light streaming in.

so, AIBU to insist he stops bloody opening the blinds for no reason? He thinks I’m wildly over reacting and it’s fine to pull them down when I go in to put her down for a nap.

Baby needs to learn it's time to start the day. Maybe you could close the blinds early evening instead.

Yougetmoreofwhatyoufocuson · 15/09/2026 07:46

Give it a couple of minutes and close them again after he opens them. Tag it onto after your shower/made the bed/ supervised tooth brushing , something that happens every day on the same floor. He’s a twat.

VTown · 21/09/2026 20:03

All these ridiculous comments about needing the sunlight to kill bacteria, training the baby, it being depressing--I'm laughing my head off! I'm with you. Leave the damn blinds closed. NOBODY IS GOING TO DIE. I personally don't like the rooms getting blasted by the sun all day. And you're only talking ONE ROOM. People need to get their heads out of their asses. 😆

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