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Husband opens blinds in baby’s room

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DownmarketSellingSunset · 06/09/2026 11:24

The baby only sleeps in there - nothing else. He insists on going in every morning to open the blinds and the shutters to let light in because it’s ‘unhealthy’ not to do it (I’ve asked what he means and he just says it is dull without the blinds open). They aren’t blackout blinds, just normal blinds, so there is plenty of light in there during the daytime.

But, I’m almost always the one that puts her down for a nap or bedtime. So every time I take her up I have to try and negotiate fiddly blinds with one hand, while being pinched and grabbed because she wants her milk and to go to sleep but won’t with the light streaming in.

so, AIBU to insist he stops bloody opening the blinds for no reason? He thinks I’m wildly over reacting and it’s fine to pull them down when I go in to put her down for a nap.

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VTown · 21/09/2026 20:03

All these ridiculous comments about needing the sunlight to kill bacteria, training the baby, it being depressing--I'm laughing my head off! I'm with you. Leave the damn blinds closed. NOBODY IS GOING TO DIE. I personally don't like the rooms getting blasted by the sun all day. And you're only talking ONE ROOM. People need to get their heads out of their asses. 😆

Yougetmoreofwhatyoufocuson · 15/09/2026 07:46

Give it a couple of minutes and close them again after he opens them. Tag it onto after your shower/made the bed/ supervised tooth brushing , something that happens every day on the same floor. He’s a twat.

NeedyHedgehog · 15/09/2026 07:38

DownmarketSellingSunset · 06/09/2026 11:24

The baby only sleeps in there - nothing else. He insists on going in every morning to open the blinds and the shutters to let light in because it’s ‘unhealthy’ not to do it (I’ve asked what he means and he just says it is dull without the blinds open). They aren’t blackout blinds, just normal blinds, so there is plenty of light in there during the daytime.

But, I’m almost always the one that puts her down for a nap or bedtime. So every time I take her up I have to try and negotiate fiddly blinds with one hand, while being pinched and grabbed because she wants her milk and to go to sleep but won’t with the light streaming in.

so, AIBU to insist he stops bloody opening the blinds for no reason? He thinks I’m wildly over reacting and it’s fine to pull them down when I go in to put her down for a nap.

Baby needs to learn it's time to start the day. Maybe you could close the blinds early evening instead.

nomas · 14/09/2026 17:19

cheziebabe · 14/09/2026 16:42

so go in after home or later and close them so that when you take baby in they are,already done

Why does OP need more work as well as being the one who puts the baby to sleep?

nomas · 14/09/2026 17:19

if he won't stop then I would take out the blinds and put in curtains.

He sounds like an idiot.

cheziebabe · 14/09/2026 16:42

so go in after home or later and close them so that when you take baby in they are,already done

DaisyChain505 · 14/09/2026 10:47

I don’t think the issue here is the blinds. It’s just the straw that broke the camels back.

Firstly you need to stop caring for your parent on top of everything. You need to either get them to hire private care or refer them to adult social services. You have enough on your plate. That doesn’t mean you need to stop seeing them it just means you need to not be taking on the load of being a carer.

Secondly how are you working more than full time hours and looking after these two young children? Do you have paid help?

ScottishSoupDragon · 14/09/2026 10:41

SummerHolsFinished · 06/09/2026 11:34

Why can’t you put the baby down in the cot for the ten seconds it takes to lower the blinds?
This. I can’t fathom how this is an issue. I agree with opening blinds and windows every morning, it’s just part of mould/damp reduction and gets the air circulating.

Yes! I came to say this, but you beat me to it. 😏

IamHelene · 13/09/2026 22:56

I would be more concerned with blinds or curtains with a cord in a child’s room. I think rooms should be aired but make sure windows have restricted openings. It might be a good idea to discuss these things with your husband.

momager22 · 13/09/2026 12:48

if have the window open then don’t you need to open the blinds first ?

BudgetBuster · 13/09/2026 12:11

Beabarb · 13/09/2026 11:47

Cut the strings so he can't open the bloody things! You haven;t got to put up with him making decisions for you, that don't affect him.

😂 That's deranged behaviour instead of just putting the toddler down

maudelovesharold · 13/09/2026 12:08

I can’t bear curtains or blinds closed during the day. It feels depressing to me.

Cherrytree86 · 13/09/2026 12:04

Beabarb · 13/09/2026 11:47

Cut the strings so he can't open the bloody things! You haven;t got to put up with him making decisions for you, that don't affect him.

@Bababear987

or…she could put the baby in the crib for the 30 secs it takes to open them 🤷‍♀️

Beabarb · 13/09/2026 11:47

Cut the strings so he can't open the bloody things! You haven;t got to put up with him making decisions for you, that don't affect him.

YellowScarfRupert · 13/09/2026 10:42

Perhaps put baby in the cot then close the blind?

Cherrytree86 · 12/09/2026 22:06

It’s good to have the windows open and the blinds open in the day. End of,

MummyWillow1 · 12/09/2026 20:25

I hate leaving blinds closed during the day, open the blind and crack the window - helps keep the room
aired and prevent damp.

Sounds like you maybe need different blinds. And if they barely block out the light is there any point closing them for a nap?

BooBooDoodle · 12/09/2026 18:35

I don’t understand the fuss you’re making. My DH would sit like a mushroom in the dark all day if I didn’t go round opening blinds and curtains. I was able to do lots of things with an arm free whilst holding my babies, pulling a cord isn’t rocket science. Just go upstairs 10 minutes before nap time and sort it out? Natural light is better to help babies with transition and fresh air into the house is beneficial.

Fattypantss · 06/09/2026 20:24

Cherrytree86 · 06/09/2026 20:12

No one wants a stinky, ill ventilated bedroom, OP!

I think everyone is missing that the OP said the window is open. How is it slinky?

I honestly think some people think blinds are like and impenetrable door to a vault and that air from an open window cannot pass them.

It’s very warm this evening where I am. My bedroom blind is closed, window behind it open and I have a lovely breeze coming in, despite the blind.

Whaaaatszuuup · 06/09/2026 20:18

I would never not open the blinds, especially in my child’s bedroom.

Cherrytree86 · 06/09/2026 20:12

No one wants a stinky, ill ventilated bedroom, OP!

VividPinkTraybake · 06/09/2026 19:39

WindsorGreatPark · 06/09/2026 17:13

If this is how you think a healthy relationship works, using petty tactics to piss the other one off, I feel very sad for anyone who has the misfortune to live with you.

Opening blinds is a perfectly normal thing to do. Only on MN would it be seen as some sort of deliberate act of war that requires such a ridiculously childish escalation.

If the baby is getting so over tired that a 10 second delay while blinds are shut is a problem, OP needs to either take him/her to the room earlier or ask her husband to go and shut the blind.

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There a is a sad subset on here that think being petty- or at least trying to make strangers whose life they don't have to live be petty - is a virtue. I think it is sad and hope that it is only online living vicariously, otherwise it is a pathetic way to live

NewBuildNewbie · 06/09/2026 19:28

Ok I seem to be in the minority, but I totally get this! My husband used to do it too and it used to drive me insane! Id always plan to go in before the nap to close them and then would forget in the chaos of the kids and would only remember as I was putting the baby down and it then stopped them going down and caused overtired meltdowns! In the end, I told my husband either he left them down or he puts the baby down even on the days he's working from home. They stayed down 😂
I just opened the blind for 'air/light flow, whatever' after she'd had her nap. YANBU

BudgetBuster · 06/09/2026 18:04

localnotail · 06/09/2026 17:33

News flash: this is a discussion board where people discuss thing. Not your job to police who says what.

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I didn't police 😂 You are making shite up now

Yetanotherone12 · 06/09/2026 17:39

He’s right.

uv light is a natural anti bacterial and anti viral and it is healthier to let light in.

there was a study a while back that showed leaving your bed unmade with the curtains opened led to less microbial growth than made beds.

it’s also why hanging washing out in the sun is a natural decontaminant.

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